Family Guidons

In this episode of Family Guidons, the hosts sit down with Lisa Mustard, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the psychological health program manager for the South Carolina Military Department, to talk about the challenges and emotional impact of deployment on military families. From managing stress and anxiety to navigating parenting and maintaining emotional well-being, this episode is filled with practical coping tools, expert insight and real-life experiences. If you or your... read more

In this episode of Family Guidons, the hosts sit down with Lisa Mustard, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the psychological health program manager for the South Carolina Military Department, to talk about the challenges and emotional impact of deployment on military families. From managing stress and anxiety to navigating parenting and maintaining emotional well-being, this episode is filled with practical coping tools, expert insight and real-life experiences. If you or your family are facing the realities of deployment, this conversation offers support, understanding and resources to help you through it. This is part one of “Holding It Together at Home” so make sure you come back for part two where they continue the conversation. 00:00 - Intro 02:30 - Episode Topic: Coping with Deployment Stress and Anxiety 03:05 - Personal Experiences with Deployment 03:43 - Introducing Expert Guest: Lisa Mustard 04:52 - Understanding Deployment Stress 07:44 - Children's Reactions to Deployment 08:24 - Differences in Coping: Kids vs. Spouses vs. Parents 09:07 - Signs of Stress in Family Members 10:11 - Holding it Together: The Importance of Support Systems 11:14 - Different Coping Mechanisms for Spouses 17:46 - Long-Term Support for Military Families 22:09 - Signs of Serious Stress in Adults 23:01 - Signs of Serious Stress in Children 25:21 - Communicating with Children About Deployment 27:44 - Coping and Grounding Strategies 28:46 - Importance of Community Support 31:09 - Calming Techniques: Deep Breathing and Grounding 33:44 - Self-Care During Deployment 35:09 - Maintaining Routines and Schedules 37:06 - Adapting to the New Normal 39:06 - Importance of Self-Care for Parents 41:06 - Maintaining Connection with Deployed Partner 44:13 - Balancing Communication and Emotional Support 45:37 - Preview of Next Episode: Supporting Kids and Parents Links: Email: familyguidons@gmail.com Lisa Mustard: 803-409-9965, Lisa.Mustard@scmd.sc.gov South Carolina Army National Guard Behavioral Health Care Line - 866-345-8400 Military OneSource - www.militaryonesource.mil 24-HOUR NATIONAL CRISIS LIFELINE - Available for civilians and service members. 1-800-273-8255; Service Members press option #1. You may also TEXT 838255 to the Veterans Crisis Line or click https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/get-help-now/chat/ to open up a chat conversation. Operation Purple: https://www.militaryfamily.org/state-of-the-military-family-programs/operation-purple/ Military spouse advocacy network: https://www.militaryspouseadvocacynetwork.org/ Bloom Military Teen program: https://www.bloommilitaryteens.org/ Blue Star Mothers of America: https://www.bluestarmothers.org/ Defining Daily Victories During a Military Deployment: Navigating the Holidays - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YH6GukafBcg Handling Travel During Deployment of Your Service Member - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=62jataTay1g South Carolina National Guard / https://www.scguard.ng.mil/ Youtube / scnationalguard Facebook / scguard Instagram / official_scguard Twitter / scnationalguard Flickr / https://www.flickr.com/photos/scguard/ DVIDS / https://www.dvidshub.net/unit/SCNG   show less

In this episode of Family Guidons, we continue our conversation on coping with the stress and anxiety of a loved one's deployment. Joined by guest Lisa Mustard, we delve into the unique challenges military families face, particularly focusing on how to support children during these tough times. We discuss the different needs and emotional responses of kids, emphasizing that parents don’t need to be perfect in managing their own emotions or their children's. Tune in for practical advice and... read more

In this episode of Family Guidons, we continue our conversation on coping with the stress and anxiety of a loved one's deployment. Joined by guest Lisa Mustard, we delve into the unique challenges military families face, particularly focusing on how to support children during these tough times. We discuss the different needs and emotional responses of kids, emphasizing that parents don’t need to be perfect in managing their own emotions or their children's. Tune in for practical advice and heartfelt insights on fostering security and stability at home while navigating the complexities of deployment. Join us for part two of our series on handling deployment stress and strengthening family bonds. 00:00 - Intro 01:13 - Supporting Kids Through Deployment 02:45 - Communicating with Kids of Different Ages 05:05 - Handling School and Social Media Exposure 07:50 - Creative Activities for Kids 13:55 - Support Resources for Kids 14:25 - Behavioral Health Specialists and Military OneSource 19:15 - School Support and Purple Star Districts 20:54 - Coaches and Extracurricular Activities 22:17 - Parent Community Support 23:44 - Supporting Parents of Deployed Service Members 25:28 - Managing Anxiety and Expectations 34:28 - Recognizing When to Seek Professional Support 37:02 - Encouraging Help-Seeking Behavior 42:49 - Guided Meditation and Relaxation Tools 43:57 - Additional Resources for Kids and Teens 44:14 - Final Thoughts and Encouragement 45:43 - Teaser for Next Episode Links: Email: familyguidons@gmail.com Lisa Mustard: 803-409-9965, Lisa.Mustard@scmd.sc.gov South Carolina Army National Guard Behavioral Health Care Line - 866-345-8400 Military OneSource - www.militaryonesource.mil 24-HOUR NATIONAL CRISIS LIFELINE - Available for civilians and service members. 1-800-273-8255; Service Members press option #1. You may also TEXT 838255 to the Veterans Crisis Line or click https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/get-help-now/chat/ to open up a chat conversation. Operation Purple: https://www.militaryfamily.org/state-of-the-military-family-programs/operation-purple/ Military spouse advocacy network: https://www.militaryspouseadvocacynetwork.org/ Bloom Military Teen program: https://www.bloommilitaryteens.org/ Blue Star Mothers of America: https://www.bluestarmothers.org/ Defining Daily Victories During a Military Deployment: Navigating the Holidays - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YH6GukafBcg Handling Travel During Deployment of Your Service Member - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=62jataTay1g   show less

In this episode of Family Guidons, the hosts sit down with Matalyn Bulwinkle from the South Carolina National Guard Child and Youth Program to talk about all things summer. From overnight camps and teen leadership retreats to scholarships, grants, and free tutoring resources, this episode is packed with practical tools to help military families plan ahead and make summer both meaningful and manageable. If you’re wondering how to fill those long summer weeks while balancing Guard life, this... read more

In this episode of Family Guidons, the hosts sit down with Matalyn Bulwinkle from the South Carolina National Guard Child and Youth Program to talk about all things summer. From overnight camps and teen leadership retreats to scholarships, grants, and free tutoring resources, this episode is packed with practical tools to help military families plan ahead and make summer both meaningful and manageable. If you’re wondering how to fill those long summer weeks while balancing Guard life, this episode is for you. 00:00 Intro 02:00 Introducing Madeline Bullwinkle 03:30 Why summer planning is different for Guard families 05:30 Overview of SCNG Child & Youth Program 14:00 Month of the Military Child (April events) 16:00 Soldier for a Day event at McCrady 17:30 Grants & financial assistance for summer activities 19:30 Scholarships for military children 21:00 Local resources: YMCA, Boys & Girls Club 22:30 Virtual resources (Tutor.com, United Through Reading) 24:00 Advice for shy kids considering camp 25:30 Listener letter: Local day trips & creative summer ideas 26:30 Where to find SCNG Child & Youth resources & closing Links: Email: familyguidons@gmail.com Child & Youth Programs: Facebook/Instagram - South Carolina and Youth Program Hashtag: #SCGCYP Website: www.arngcys.com Grants & Financial Assistance: Our Military Kids - https://www.ourmilitarykids.org United Heroes League - https://unitedheroesleague.org Operation Homefront - https://operationhomefront.org Fisher House Scholarships https://www.fisherhouse.org/programs/scholarship-programs/ Youth & Community Programs: Military Child Education Coalition - https://www.militarychild.org Boys & Girls Club of America - https://www.bgca.org Local YMCA Virtual & Academic Support: Tutor.com - https://www.tutor.com/military United Through Reading - https://unitedthroughreading.org Defining Daily Victories During a Military Deployment: Navigating the Holidays - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YH6GukafBcg Handling Travel During Deployment of Your Service Member - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=62jataTay1g South Carolina National Guard / https://www.scguard.ng.mil/ Youtube / scnationalguard Facebook / scguard Instagram / official_scguard Twitter / scnationalguard Flickr / https://www.flickr.com/photos/scguard/ DVIDS / https://www.dvidshub.net/unit/SCNG   show less

In this episode of Family Guidons, hosts Michelle Matheny, Charlotte Stilwell and Kathy Bridgers tackle one of the biggest challenges military families face today: staying connected online while also staying safe. In a world of fast news, viral posts, and constant access, they share practical tips for OPSEC, protecting your family’s privacy, setting healthy boundaries, and keeping your peace online—especially during deployments.

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In this episode of Family Guidons, hosts Michelle Matheny, Charlotte Stilwell and Kathy Bridgers tackle one of the biggest challenges military families face today: staying connected online while also staying safe. In a world of fast news, viral posts, and constant access, they share practical tips for OPSEC, protecting your family’s privacy, setting healthy boundaries, and keeping your peace online—especially during deployments. Links: Email: familyguidons@gmail.com ready.gov Defining Daily Victories During a Military Deployment: Navigating the Holidays - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YH6GukafBcg Handling Travel During Deployment of Your Service Member - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=62jataTay1g 00:00 intro 03:10 Social media as a lifeline during deployments 04:30 How military connection used to look (before social media) 06:15 Staying connected across moves and duty stations 09:40 Personal story: deployment stress + quick updates bringing peace 14:10 How online visibility impacts family safety and peace 15:40 OPSEC basics: what not to post (dates, locations, identifiers) 19:10 Being careful with what you share verbally, too 20:30 Talking to family members about OPSEC boundaries 22:10 Social media safety tips: geotagging, privacy, followers 25:40 Teaching kids online safety and posting boundaries 27:10 Listener email: preparedness, awareness, and family protection 30:10 Handling nosy questions + setting boundaries with others 32:30 Protecting your emotional health and mental peace online 38:00 Closing thoughts: control what you can control South Carolina National Guard / https://www.scguard.ng.mil/ Youtube / scnationalguard Facebook / scguard Instagram / official_scguard Twitter / scnationalguard Flickr / https://www.flickr.com/photos/scguard/ DVIDS / https://www.dvidshub.net/unit/SCNG   show less

In this episode of Family Guidons, Michelle, Kathy, and Charlotte talk about one of the hardest parts of military life: the long, stretching days of deployment. Through heartfelt listener emails and personal stories, they share practical and emotional ways to get through the endless weeks and months — from building your village and creating new traditions to breaking time into smaller milestones and finding purpose in the waiting. If you’ve ever felt like time slows to a crawl during... read more

In this episode of Family Guidons, Michelle, Kathy, and Charlotte talk about one of the hardest parts of military life: the long, stretching days of deployment. Through heartfelt listener emails and personal stories, they share practical and emotional ways to get through the endless weeks and months — from building your village and creating new traditions to breaking time into smaller milestones and finding purpose in the waiting. If you’ve ever felt like time slows to a crawl during deployment, this conversation is for you. 00:00 Intro 02:00 Listener email from a military child about the weight of waiting 04:30 How deployment changes your perception of time 07:00 Empty nest deployment during COVID 09:30 Newlywed deployment + early uncertainty 12:00 Handling milestones and hard weekends alone 14:30 What helps when the days feel endless 17:00 Building your village + accepting social invitations 19:30 Listener email: cleaning, distraction, nighttime loneliness 22:00 Productive projects to move forward (painting, organizing, home goals) 24:30 Creative coping (home projects, small improvements, purpose-driven tasks) 26:30 Staying connected: texting, video calls, Marco Polo app 29:00 Supporting the deployed service member emotionally 31:00 Planning ahead for birthdays and holidays 33:00 Countdown within a countdown + celebrating small wins 34:30 Listener email from active duty member on health & wellness 36:00 Closing encouragement + final thoughts Links: Email: familyguidons@gmail.com Defining Daily Victories During a Military Deployment: Navigating the Holidays - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YH6GukafBcg Handling Travel During Deployment of Your Service Member - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=62jataTay1g Operation Gratitude: https://www.operationgratitude.com/ Harper’s Homefront Heroes: https://theplanbylaurentruslow.com/pages/360-degree-plan-deep-dive South Carolina National Guard / https://www.scguard.ng.mil/ Youtube / scnationalguard Facebook / scguard Instagram / official_scguard Twitter / scnationalguard Flickr / https://www.flickr.com/photos/scguard/ DVIDS / https://www.dvidshub.net/unit/SCNG   show less

Welcome to Family Guidons, the podcast created by military spouses for military families. In this inaugural episode, we invite you to get to know your hosts and discover what this podcast is all about.
As military spouses, we understand the unique challenges of holding down the home front during deployments, state activations, and everything in between. Here, we aim to have honest conversations about the realities of military life—the highs, the hard moments, and the strength it takes to... read more

Welcome to Family Guidons, the podcast created by military spouses for military families. In this inaugural episode, we invite you to get to know your hosts and discover what this podcast is all about. As military spouses, we understand the unique challenges of holding down the home front during deployments, state activations, and everything in between. Here, we aim to have honest conversations about the realities of military life—the highs, the hard moments, and the strength it takes to keep moving forward. Family Guidons is powered by the South Carolina National Guard and serves as a platform for connecting with military families across all branches. Our goal is to cover topics that resonate with you and provide insights from our experiences. We will also feature guests who can offer resources and support for military families. If you enjoyed today's episode and are curious about what comes next, please hit that follow button on your favorite podcast platform. Thank you for joining us on this journey with Family Guidons. From the Bluff Road Readiness Center in Columbia, South Carolina, to wherever you may be, we look forward to connecting with you. Until next time! 00:00:00 - Introduction to Family Guidons 00:00:41 - Facing a New Normal During Deployment 00:01:16 - Handling Natural Disasters Alone 00:01:42 - Pride in Service Members 00:02:08 - Challenges of Military Life 00:02:30 - Welcome and Purpose of Family Guidons 00:02:59 - Meet Your Hosts: Charlotte Stilwell 00:04:21 - Meet Your Hosts: Kathy Bridgers 00:05:06 - Meet Your Hosts: Michelle Matheny 00:06:56 - Podcast Powered by South Carolina National Guard 00:07:59 - First Official Episode Preview 00:08:12 - Outro and call to action Links: Email: familyguidons@gmail.com Defining Daily Victories During a Military Deployment: Navigating the Holidays - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YH6GukafBcg Handling Travel During Deployment of Your Service Member - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=62jataTay1g South Carolina National Guard / https://www.scguard.ng.mil/ Youtube / scnationalguard Facebook / scguard Instagram / official_scguard Twitter / scnationalguard Flickr / https://www.flickr.com/photos/scguard/ DVIDS / https://www.dvidshub.net/unit/SCNG   show less

In this episode of Family Guidons, hosts Michelle Matheny, Charlotte Stillwell, and Kathy Bridgers dive into the theme of navigating the new year as a military spouse. With personal experiences and insights, they offer encouragement and support for those starting the year solo due to deployments or state activations. The conversation highlights the unique challenges and strengths of military life, fostering a sense of community among listeners. Additionally, the hosts share stories submitted... read more

In this episode of Family Guidons, hosts Michelle Matheny, Charlotte Stillwell, and Kathy Bridgers dive into the theme of navigating the new year as a military spouse. With personal experiences and insights, they offer encouragement and support for those starting the year solo due to deployments or state activations. The conversation highlights the unique challenges and strengths of military life, fostering a sense of community among listeners. Additionally, the hosts share stories submitted by their audience, creating a deeper connection and understanding of the military experience. Join them for an honest discussion filled with camaraderie and inspiration as they remind you that you've got this! 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:57 - Listener Stories: Courtney P. 00:04:13 - Listener Stories: Jody H. 00:08:02 - Origin of the Podcast 00:11:04 - Christmas Reflections 00:19:10 - January Reset: New Year, New Challenges 00:25:15 - Personal Goals and Resets for January 00:30:15 - Closing Remarks and Next Episode Preview Links: Email: familyguidons@gmail.com Defining Daily Victories During a Military Deployment: Navigating the Holidays - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YH6GukafBcg Handling Travel During Deployment of Your Service Member - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=62jataTay1g South Carolina National Guard / https://www.scguard.ng.mil/ Youtube / scnationalguard Facebook / scguard Instagram / official_scguard Twitter / scnationalguard Flickr / https://www.flickr.com/photos/scguard/ DVIDS / https://www.dvidshub.net/unit/SCNG   show less