Fort McCoy Garrison commander: 'If your dreams don’t scare you, they’re not big enough'

Photo By Scott Sturkol | Fort McCoy Garrison Commander Col. Stephen Messenger speaks to members of the installation workforce Sept. 8, 2022, at Fort McCoy, Wis. Messenger discussed characteristics of leadership, the importance of the equal employment opportunity (EEO) training they just received, and more. Instructors with the Army's Installation Management Command (IMCOM)-Readiness Directorate discussed EEO policies and procedures with hundreds of Fort McCoy workforce members on during two days of training at the installation. EEO awareness is mandatory training for all Army and Department of Defense personnel. Messenger became the Fort McCoy Garrison commander in July 2022. (U.S. Army Photo by Scott T. Sturkol, Public Affairs Office, Fort McCoy, Wis.)  

FORT MCCOY, WI, UNITED STATES

01.12.2023

Courtesy Story

Fort McCoy Public Affairs Office           

BY COL. STEPHEN T. MESSENGER
Commander, Fort McCoy Garrison

“The size of your dreams must always exceed your current capacity to achieve them. If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough.” — Ellen Johnson Sirleaf

Every year in January, much to my wife’s chagrin, I outline a list of 20 personal, audacious goals that I want to accomplish by next December. These objectives require a significant level of motivation to achieve. At a minimum, they involve a deliberate and sustained effort over time.

As I put the finishing touches on this year’s list, I both felt the satisfaction of challenging myself along with the immediate stress of having to meet these goals over the next twelve months. The question always comes back to why I place this stress onto my year—and believe me, it is incredibly stressful!

Goal setting
Goal setting is a fundamental tenant of leadership. If you have no idea where you’re going, you’re never going to get there. However, these audacious, personal goals help mold me into a more holistic leader at work along with improving as an individual, husband, and father at home.

I divide my personal goals into four categories of learn, encourage, work out, and grow.

1. Learning helps me think broader and more deeply, building mental capacity over time.

2. Encouraging is about family and community, intending to forge deeper relationships.

3. Working out is geared towards getting stronger and training my body to deal with the stressors of life.

4. Finally, growing is about improving my spiritual, emotional, and financial health.

(To be clear, none of these 20 goals are work related — they are all personal achievements. Work goals stay in the office where they belong.)

I also throw in a bonus category to challenge myself to get out in the world and see something new.

These always include taking the family with me and enjoying time together.

Big, hairy, audacious goals (BHAG)
Your goals must be bold and audacious.

Ellen Johnson Sirleaf was the first female elected head of state in Africa. As a young woman, she repeatedly questioned Liberia’s ability and desire to stand up for equality, and she set a goal to solve this problem.

Along her journey, she faced prison, death threats, and exile. Yet she never gave up on her dream to improve the nation in the face of naysayers and setbacks.

Along the way, she graduated from Harvard, participated in numerous levels of government, won the presidency, and ultimately earned the Nobel Peace Prize.

Her goals in life were always larger than what was possible and fraught with peril. Audacious goal setting is a scary journey to embark on but one that bears incredible success.

Resourcing your goals
My annual goals can’t compare to President Sirleaf’s, but collectively they provide a roadmap to improving my life mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It provides focus and forces me to invest time and energy to achieve these goals.

Once you determine what your goals are, you can efficiently use your resources to attack those priorities. You can plan your year and ensure you’re not wasting the precious commodity of time, but instead harness the power of the calendar to meet goals.

A personal goals list will not get you promoted or earn a better paycheck in itself; it will make you a better leader and direct your focus.
You’ll see sustained growth in multiple areas and achieve more than you thought was possible. Over time, your capacity will grow across a wide range of skillsets as you seek to be more than you could ask or imagine.

It’s the journey, not the destination
One note: rarely do I achieve every task on my list. However, the energy put into working towards these goals bears tangible benefits in many other areas.

For example, two years in a row I had the goal to read 26 books. However, I was again heavily involved in a degree program, and my personal reading took a back seat to academic reading and writing.

While I didn’t achieve my original goal, the books I did read helped shape my academic lens and assisted in many of the assignments. A task strived for and not completed still bears great fruit. Oftentimes it is the journey, not the destination.

Goal setting is hard. Great leaders pick goals to improve their personal habits, which leads to gains across the spectrum of leadership.

This year, I challenge you to select some bold and audacious goals. You’ll see benefits over time as you steadily work towards accomplishing more than you thought possible.

• Date Taken: 01.12.2023
• Date Posted: 01.12.2023 10:17
• Story ID: 436660
• Location: FORT MCCOY, WI, US