WEBVTT 00:03.029 --> 00:05.150 This is just a friendly reminder that 00:05.150 --> 00:08.270 this session is being recorded . Good 00:08.270 --> 00:10.270 afternoon everyone . Welcome to the 00:10.270 --> 00:13.430 Department of the Air Force 2026 00:13.430 --> 00:15.909 National Mentoring Month live event . 00:16.350 --> 00:18.590 I'm Marisol Laillano , and I will be 00:18.590 --> 00:22.360 your host for today . To ensure a 00:22.360 --> 00:24.471 productive and respectful environment 00:24.471 --> 00:27.059 for all attendees , we want to remind 00:27.059 --> 00:29.059 everyone of our event participation 00:29.059 --> 00:31.260 guidelines . Please mute yourself , 00:31.760 --> 00:34.580 keep your microphone muted , videos off . 00:34.840 --> 00:36.729 If you have questions for today's 00:36.729 --> 00:39.007 National Mentoring Month guest speaker , 00:39.007 --> 00:41.007 drop your question into the chat or 00:41.007 --> 00:43.159 feel free to unmute yourself to ask a 00:43.159 --> 00:46.810 question during the Q&A . Today we have 00:46.810 --> 00:49.409 the great honor of having Master 00:49.409 --> 00:52.970 Sergeant Juan Carrion . Master Sergeant 00:52.970 --> 00:55.970 Carrion serves as the 353rd Special 00:55.970 --> 00:58.810 Warfare Training Squadron Operations 00:58.810 --> 01:01.619 Superintendent . He is responsible for 01:01.619 --> 01:04.300 the development of combat core skills 01:04.300 --> 01:08.290 for over 1100 Special Warfare airmen 01:08.290 --> 01:11.940 annually for the Prescue , combat 01:11.940 --> 01:14.529 control team , Special Reconnaissance , 01:14.870 --> 01:17.175 tactical Air Control Party . Career 01:17.175 --> 01:20.614 fields , as well as 3 level tactical 01:20.614 --> 01:23.855 air control party competencies . He's 01:23.855 --> 01:26.014 about to complete 20 years of active 01:26.014 --> 01:28.974 duty service and has spent 12 years in 01:28.974 --> 01:31.334 special operations , supporting the 01:31.334 --> 01:35.095 75th Ranger Regiment . He's also served 01:35.095 --> 01:37.495 on 7 deployments to Iraq and 01:37.495 --> 01:41.055 Afghanistan , and 3 contingency 01:41.055 --> 01:44.180 operations to Korea and Qatar . What a 01:44.180 --> 01:46.529 great honor to have Master Sergeant 01:46.529 --> 01:49.569 Caron present today for us . Over to 01:49.569 --> 01:52.760 you , Master Sergeant Caron . Thank you , 01:52.809 --> 01:54.753 ma'am . Um , and you can hear me , 01:54.753 --> 01:57.750 ma'am , still ? You sound great . 01:57.910 --> 02:00.580 Sounds great , loud and clear . Um , I 02:00.580 --> 02:02.747 appreciate everyone's attendance . I'm 02:02.747 --> 02:04.802 going to take about 15 minutes to go 02:04.802 --> 02:07.750 over 8 slides , and then I'd like to 02:07.750 --> 02:09.970 open up for a Q&A , and then we're 02:09.970 --> 02:11.970 going to talk about warrior ethos , 02:11.970 --> 02:13.526 warrior mindsets , and then 02:13.526 --> 02:15.192 specifically how it ties into 02:15.192 --> 02:18.740 mentorship . Um , for the war ethos and 02:18.740 --> 02:20.639 the mindset , these are the , the 02:20.940 --> 02:24.350 topics we're going to go over . First 02:24.350 --> 02:27.339 off , if you have to say you are a 02:27.339 --> 02:29.561 warrior , you're really not . It's it's 02:29.561 --> 02:31.895 a set of character traits . Your makeup , 02:31.895 --> 02:33.869 a culture executed with action and 02:33.869 --> 02:36.710 exemplified by action . I myself am not 02:36.710 --> 02:38.654 a warrior . However , I've had the 02:38.654 --> 02:40.766 fortunate . Experience to work with , 02:40.766 --> 02:42.766 be among , and shoulder to shoulder 02:42.766 --> 02:44.543 with some of the most precise , 02:44.543 --> 02:46.654 aggressive , and competent warriors , 02:46.654 --> 02:48.877 not only in the Department of War , but 02:48.877 --> 02:51.210 coal coalition forces at large who plan , 02:51.210 --> 02:53.377 execute , capture , kill , and command 02:53.377 --> 02:56.104 with extreme action . These experiences 02:56.104 --> 02:58.326 are fortunately are not depicted in the 02:58.326 --> 03:00.326 pictures in the slides just because 03:00.326 --> 03:02.437 these missions occur in the period of 03:02.437 --> 03:04.548 darkness with discretion and humility 03:04.548 --> 03:06.660 and classification above this brief . 03:09.210 --> 03:12.130 The first topic is ethos . As I 03:12.130 --> 03:14.229 mentioned , members don't call 03:14.229 --> 03:16.451 themselves warriors . They don't really 03:16.451 --> 03:18.729 speak about it . It's a , it's a sense , 03:18.990 --> 03:21.101 exactly that . It's definitely just a 03:21.101 --> 03:23.101 sense . It's , it's the environment 03:23.101 --> 03:25.323 you're immersed in it . It doesn't need 03:25.323 --> 03:27.434 to be spoken of . And when it is , it 03:27.434 --> 03:29.657 feels cringe and especially taboo , and 03:29.657 --> 03:31.490 it's definitely not the quiet 03:31.490 --> 03:33.720 professional doctrine that special 03:33.720 --> 03:36.970 operations abides by . It's kind of 03:36.970 --> 03:39.460 like Hunters within a tribe never refer 03:39.460 --> 03:41.516 to themselves as hunters . They just 03:41.516 --> 03:43.293 are , and they go on the hunt . 03:45.330 --> 03:48.429 The specific mindset of a warrior , 03:49.050 --> 03:50.717 these character traits you're 03:50.717 --> 03:52.661 inherently born with . They're raw 03:52.661 --> 03:54.994 ingredients . However , you can develop , 03:54.994 --> 03:57.272 hone them , and sharpen them over time . 03:57.272 --> 03:59.328 They're a sense of belonging , being 03:59.328 --> 03:59.210 part of something bigger than yourself , 03:59.490 --> 04:01.379 a member of a community where you 04:01.379 --> 04:03.490 wholeheartedly accept and internalize 04:03.490 --> 04:05.712 the obligated responsibilities of being 04:05.712 --> 04:08.190 a minute piece of a living existence . 04:08.690 --> 04:10.746 You're a member of a village and you 04:10.746 --> 04:12.634 share in your tribe's behaviors , 04:12.634 --> 04:15.070 values , beliefs , and customs . Ready 04:15.070 --> 04:17.292 to put it and then before your personal 04:17.292 --> 04:21.040 wants , needs , and comforts . Both you 04:21.040 --> 04:23.040 and your tribe possesses attributes 04:23.040 --> 04:24.984 that only make up but are the core 04:24.984 --> 04:27.279 ingredients of this mutual symbiosis , 04:27.600 --> 04:30.679 such as drive , which is the DE on your 04:30.679 --> 04:32.799 slide demonstrating efforts , showing 04:32.799 --> 04:34.855 more than your share , and then some 04:35.079 --> 04:37.246 laziness is beyond non-consideration . 04:37.450 --> 04:40.350 It's non-existent . The next attribute 04:40.350 --> 04:43.209 is resilience or ST , stress tolerance . 04:43.440 --> 04:45.662 It's not only the ability to adapt well 04:45.662 --> 04:47.884 to adversity , trauma , and significant 04:47.884 --> 04:50.051 stress , but it's keeping yourself and 04:50.051 --> 04:52.273 your community mentally , emotionally , 04:52.273 --> 04:54.496 physically , spiritually , and socially 04:54.496 --> 04:56.773 healthy , improving your coping skills , 04:56.773 --> 04:58.996 enhancing your performance . Increasing 04:58.996 --> 05:01.107 emotional stability and strengthening 05:01.107 --> 05:03.384 relationships in order to adapt , flex , 05:03.384 --> 05:06.149 solve , support , and regulate for and 05:06.149 --> 05:08.038 with purpose , to fight on to the 05:08.038 --> 05:10.093 objective and complete the mission , 05:10.093 --> 05:12.205 though you may be the lone survivor . 05:12.209 --> 05:14.265 Uh , integrity and teamwork actually 05:14.265 --> 05:16.320 doesn't need to be discussed because 05:16.320 --> 05:18.431 it's just the standard . It's not the 05:18.431 --> 05:21.230 exception . Um , it's bottom line , 05:21.399 --> 05:23.621 it's doing what you're supposed to when 05:23.621 --> 05:25.843 and how you're supposed to do it . This 05:25.843 --> 05:28.149 is key for mentors . This , this is 05:28.149 --> 05:30.440 where mentors yourself can inject 05:30.440 --> 05:32.329 yourself , whether you work in an 05:32.329 --> 05:34.959 office , on a special operations team , 05:35.160 --> 05:38.105 or a larger conventional force is . As 05:38.105 --> 05:40.924 a mentor , you're continually assessing 05:41.065 --> 05:44.375 and diagnosing and treating these 4 05:44.375 --> 05:47.244 pillars or 5 pillars of your 05:47.584 --> 05:50.614 subordinates , peers , and supervisors . 05:50.984 --> 05:52.651 We call them the 4 pillars of 05:52.651 --> 05:55.204 resilience . That helps with your 05:55.204 --> 05:57.540 stress tolerance . And the reason why 05:57.540 --> 05:59.707 you want to be tolerable with stress , 05:59.707 --> 06:01.873 it's not the , the absence of stress , 06:01.873 --> 06:04.040 but just if you , if you are tolerable 06:04.040 --> 06:06.096 with stress , you can kind of keep a 06:06.096 --> 06:09.880 clear mind and make safe and 06:09.899 --> 06:13.260 good decisions . Um , in my previous 06:13.260 --> 06:15.482 special operations experience , I was a 06:15.482 --> 06:17.704 detachment flight chief , meaning I was 06:17.704 --> 06:20.649 a um A supervisor and then I was also a 06:20.649 --> 06:22.816 senior enlisted leader where I was the 06:22.816 --> 06:24.982 office manager . I was responsible for 06:24.982 --> 06:27.929 about 14 people . So while it was also 06:27.929 --> 06:29.929 my responsibility to make sure that 06:29.929 --> 06:31.651 they were well equipped , well 06:31.651 --> 06:33.873 resourced , trained , and operational , 06:33.873 --> 06:36.096 they were ready , but as human beings , 06:36.096 --> 06:38.151 as individuals , I had to care about 06:38.151 --> 06:38.130 them personally and for . 06:38.295 --> 06:40.517 Professionally , I , I checked on their 06:40.517 --> 06:42.385 emotional being , their mental 06:42.385 --> 06:45.065 well-being , um , assessed where 06:45.065 --> 06:47.176 they're at as far as spiritually . It 06:47.176 --> 06:49.232 doesn't mean that you believe in any 06:49.232 --> 06:51.121 particular dignity or , or , uh , 06:51.121 --> 06:53.398 excuse me , deity or faith . It's just , 06:53.398 --> 06:55.565 uh , where are you at and where do you 06:55.565 --> 06:57.732 believe your existence is in this , in 06:57.732 --> 06:59.790 this big picture , um . And with 14 06:59.790 --> 07:01.829 people at different places in their 07:01.829 --> 07:04.051 lives and sometimes different places on 07:04.051 --> 07:06.410 day to day , it was , it was continuous 07:06.709 --> 07:08.765 work every day . You were , you were 07:08.765 --> 07:11.730 mentoring someone somehow , uh , each 07:11.850 --> 07:13.906 different day of the week to include 07:13.906 --> 07:15.850 the weekends and off time , and it 07:15.850 --> 07:18.072 wasn't , there was scheduled mentorship 07:18.072 --> 07:20.239 where I made sure we were giving these 07:20.239 --> 07:22.406 guys personal professional development 07:22.406 --> 07:24.517 during , during our training cycle in 07:24.517 --> 07:26.739 the office , but also just Knowing them 07:26.739 --> 07:28.906 and working with them day to day , you 07:28.906 --> 07:31.128 kind of get a feel of who's off , who's 07:31.128 --> 07:33.294 doing really good . Um , you get their 07:33.294 --> 07:35.294 personal goals and desires and just 07:35.294 --> 07:37.461 help them with that . And I leverage , 07:37.461 --> 07:39.628 uh , my experience was just repetition 07:39.628 --> 07:41.739 and exposure to help them with what I 07:41.739 --> 07:43.850 know . And because I felt responsible 07:43.850 --> 07:45.906 as if they were , I mean , they were 07:45.906 --> 07:48.072 part of my tribe , they're my family . 07:48.072 --> 07:50.239 So if I didn't have an answer , um , I 07:50.239 --> 07:49.450 went looking for it . And we're going 07:49.450 --> 07:51.672 to discuss that later as far as being a 07:51.672 --> 07:53.006 mentor and resourcing . 07:55.220 --> 07:58.380 Executing the war ethos and mindset is 07:58.660 --> 08:00.899 we never rise to the occasion , we only 08:00.899 --> 08:03.700 fall back on our training . That means 08:03.700 --> 08:05.899 most people don't want to put in the 08:05.899 --> 08:08.121 time until it's the time of the test or 08:08.121 --> 08:10.140 unfortunately at mission time , and 08:10.140 --> 08:12.140 that never goes well . So it's , we 08:12.140 --> 08:14.809 have this 2/3 , 1/3 rule where 2/3 of 08:14.809 --> 08:16.587 the time you spent prepping and 08:16.587 --> 08:18.587 planning , and then you're actually 08:18.587 --> 08:20.642 only executing 1/3 of the time . And 08:20.642 --> 08:22.531 then the planning and preparation 08:22.531 --> 08:24.587 includes all that just . Making sure 08:24.587 --> 08:26.531 you're mentally ready , physically 08:26.531 --> 08:28.420 ready , emotionally ready for the 08:28.420 --> 08:30.476 special operations community and the 08:30.476 --> 08:32.698 conventional forces , we focus on basic 08:32.698 --> 08:32.664 soldiering skills that are the big five , 08:32.835 --> 08:35.354 as you see there on your slide , and in 08:35.354 --> 08:37.687 layman terms we call it here like shoot , 08:37.687 --> 08:39.743 move , communicate , and treat . And 08:39.743 --> 08:41.965 then we also do our core competencies , 08:41.965 --> 08:43.965 which is specific to our jobs . All 08:43.965 --> 08:45.798 that has to say is we maintain a 08:45.798 --> 08:47.910 readiness , and during that readiness 08:47.910 --> 08:49.687 we're developing and honing and 08:49.687 --> 08:51.743 sharpening . Those things you see on 08:51.743 --> 08:53.798 the slide , but that also includes , 08:53.869 --> 08:55.758 again , the , the four pillars of 08:55.758 --> 08:56.590 resilience . 09:02.179 --> 09:05.710 Uh , to , to help yourself and others , 09:05.950 --> 09:08.229 especially as a , as a mentor , you 09:08.229 --> 09:10.340 have to be extremely self-aware . You 09:10.340 --> 09:12.285 have to know your status and where 09:12.285 --> 09:14.229 you're at , know yourself and your 09:14.229 --> 09:16.118 ability , and we can't help other 09:16.118 --> 09:18.285 people . We can't help ourselves if we 09:18.285 --> 09:20.285 don't , you know , sorry , we can't 09:20.285 --> 09:20.109 help others if we're not helping 09:20.109 --> 09:22.220 ourselves . So we always have to keep 09:22.220 --> 09:25.270 ourselves ready and alert in order to 09:25.270 --> 09:27.326 cover down on Our subordinates , our 09:27.326 --> 09:29.548 peers , and sometimes our supervisors , 09:29.548 --> 09:32.026 there's been instances where I noticed 09:32.026 --> 09:35.125 I either knew of my , my bosses having 09:35.866 --> 09:38.385 professional or personal trouble or 09:38.385 --> 09:40.496 they were just , you know , something 09:40.496 --> 09:42.552 made them upset or angry where every 09:42.552 --> 09:44.774 once in a while you got to check on the 09:44.774 --> 09:46.996 guy who's checking on others and just , 09:46.996 --> 09:46.875 you know , hey , can I , can I talk to 09:46.875 --> 09:49.042 you for a second ? Everything OK ? You 09:49.042 --> 09:51.042 just don't seem yourself . You seem 09:51.042 --> 09:53.153 upset and most of the times , it goes 09:53.153 --> 09:55.375 with the , I appreciate you looking out 09:55.375 --> 09:54.202 for me , you know , that , that helps 09:54.202 --> 09:56.313 and just a quick little 3 to 5 minute 09:56.313 --> 09:58.480 vent session or sometimes they're just 09:58.480 --> 09:58.401 like , no , it's nothing , you know , 09:58.502 --> 10:00.558 nothing , nothing major , just , you 10:00.558 --> 10:02.780 know , standard frustrations . Um , but 10:02.780 --> 10:05.002 we're always keeping our skills sharp . 10:05.002 --> 10:07.224 As a , as a mentor , again , going back 10:07.224 --> 10:09.002 to the , the technical and core 10:09.002 --> 10:10.946 competencies , but also developing 10:10.946 --> 10:12.891 those four pillars for ourselves , 10:12.891 --> 10:15.002 knowing how we can help others . Um , 10:15.002 --> 10:17.169 as , as a warrior and a mentor , we're 10:17.169 --> 10:19.058 always seeking betterment , we're 10:19.058 --> 10:21.224 resourcing and , and utilizing what we 10:21.224 --> 10:21.150 find . Uh , we take advantage of any 10:21.150 --> 10:24.200 and all opportunities , uh , to 10:24.700 --> 10:26.811 learn how to be better , whether it's 10:26.811 --> 10:28.830 through books , seminars , uh , 10:29.099 --> 10:31.043 professionals . Um , I'm fortunate 10:31.043 --> 10:33.043 enough where we have what we call a 10:33.043 --> 10:35.099 human performance staff , where it's 10:35.099 --> 10:37.377 made up of just both athletic trainers , 10:37.377 --> 10:39.432 strength coaches , um , physicians , 10:39.432 --> 10:41.179 but also psychologists and 10:41.179 --> 10:42.179 psychiatrists . 10:45.179 --> 10:47.012 Uh , so I , I leverage those , I 10:47.012 --> 10:49.235 leverage the , the , the subject matter 10:49.235 --> 10:51.401 experts or the professionals on , um , 10:51.401 --> 10:53.623 you know , hey , doctor , how , how can 10:53.623 --> 10:55.790 I , you know , do better or where am I 10:55.790 --> 10:57.623 at and get assessment , get some 10:57.623 --> 10:59.623 feedback , or I can explain to them 10:59.623 --> 11:01.846 where I'm at mentally and emotionally , 11:01.846 --> 11:04.012 um , and they give me feedback , which 11:04.012 --> 11:06.235 I can either , you know , I , I used to 11:06.235 --> 11:06.099 work on myself , but I also can forward 11:06.099 --> 11:08.380 that information for others . And 11:08.380 --> 11:10.380 obviously working on the , uh , the 11:10.380 --> 11:12.380 physical , uh , pillar , we got the 11:12.380 --> 11:13.880 entire coaching staff . 11:17.460 --> 11:20.539 Um , we also leverage our experiences . 11:21.200 --> 11:24.039 Uh , if it's something I either learned 11:24.039 --> 11:26.261 from others or learned through myself , 11:26.261 --> 11:28.483 I definitely forward that on , uh , and 11:28.483 --> 11:30.428 just share it , share it with . At 11:30.428 --> 11:32.595 times of opportunity , it's not one of 11:32.595 --> 11:34.650 those things where , hey , I'm gonna 11:34.650 --> 11:33.960 mentor you today . Let's all get 11:33.960 --> 11:36.071 together . Sometimes it is if it , if 11:36.071 --> 11:38.293 it's a specific topic , but other times 11:38.293 --> 11:40.460 it's just , it's really an opportunity 11:40.460 --> 11:42.571 and it could be about most anything , 11:42.571 --> 11:44.960 if not everything . When we're doing 11:44.960 --> 11:47.238 all these things , we're doing it in a , 11:47.238 --> 11:49.293 in a closed loop . We're always just 11:49.293 --> 11:51.159 reassessing , um , assessing ref 11:51.159 --> 11:53.381 reflection , and then , uh , making any 11:53.381 --> 11:55.437 kind of corrections or adjustments , 11:55.437 --> 11:57.548 and just continue to do that over and 11:57.548 --> 11:59.715 over . And then we share what we learn 11:59.715 --> 12:01.937 and push it out . So when we are called 12:01.937 --> 12:04.159 to execute or exemplify being a warrior 12:04.159 --> 12:07.010 and a mentor , we're ready . And this 12:07.049 --> 12:10.010 is all to just make you a better , 12:10.289 --> 12:13.200 well-rounded warrior and mentor . Um , 12:13.409 --> 12:16.039 but what it is , what's about , uh , 12:16.130 --> 12:18.352 what's specifically about mentoring and 12:18.352 --> 12:20.574 how do you mentor other warriors , uh , 12:20.574 --> 12:22.408 with this , it kind of goes with 12:22.408 --> 12:24.630 credibility , right ? Most people can , 12:24.630 --> 12:26.369 can read through , um , a fake 12:26.369 --> 12:29.450 motivation or , or insincerity . So you 12:29.450 --> 12:32.780 really got to be Invested 12:33.419 --> 12:35.252 in helping others and wanting to 12:35.252 --> 12:37.086 mentors , which you guys are all 12:37.086 --> 12:39.197 demonstrating by being present here . 12:40.010 --> 12:42.010 My , my actual mentors that I've 12:42.010 --> 12:44.232 experienced through my life , I've been 12:44.232 --> 12:46.450 super blessed to have a handful , and 12:46.450 --> 12:48.672 I've been using them since the start of 12:48.672 --> 12:51.090 my career . I have supervisors that 12:51.090 --> 12:53.201 were my first supervisors when I came 12:53.201 --> 12:55.423 to the Air Force . I still call them on 12:55.423 --> 12:57.757 a regular basis to either ask them . Uh , 12:57.757 --> 12:59.923 professionals , personal questions . I 12:59.923 --> 13:01.979 still have big brothers who promoted 13:01.979 --> 13:03.868 through the ranks , so we , we've 13:03.868 --> 13:05.979 maintained that same separation , but 13:05.979 --> 13:08.034 as I've also promoted , they have as 13:08.034 --> 13:08.020 well . So I , I still leverage them for 13:08.020 --> 13:10.500 their , their advice and their 13:10.500 --> 13:13.500 experiences . And I was also fortunate 13:13.500 --> 13:15.539 enough to go to the Navy Special 13:15.539 --> 13:17.789 Warfare platoon leader course , so it's 13:17.789 --> 13:20.229 a course that the Navy SEALs have set 13:20.229 --> 13:23.750 up for both their operating officers , 13:24.150 --> 13:26.229 operations officers , and their 13:26.229 --> 13:28.451 operations superintendents . Uh , to go 13:28.451 --> 13:30.673 through for development , it's a 3 week 13:30.673 --> 13:32.840 course and they work through all , all 13:32.840 --> 13:35.007 the topics we've discussed here , uh , 13:35.007 --> 13:37.173 mentorship , leadership , management , 13:37.173 --> 13:39.229 um , taking care of yourself , the 4 13:39.229 --> 13:41.451 pillars . Uh , I say all that to say is 13:41.451 --> 13:43.869 it's just been , it's been . As 13:43.869 --> 13:46.147 opportunities has been presented to me , 13:46.147 --> 13:48.258 it's just being , taking advantage of 13:48.258 --> 13:50.369 those opportunities , um , leveraging 13:50.369 --> 13:52.425 them , and just when the opportunity 13:52.425 --> 13:54.647 presents itself , um , executing them . 13:58.489 --> 14:01.530 And then finally , exemplification of 14:01.539 --> 14:05.219 of being a warrior and a mentor . We 14:05.219 --> 14:08.809 want to do all things safely and 14:09.390 --> 14:11.279 procedurally correct . Safety and 14:11.279 --> 14:13.446 procedure trumps all . With our , with 14:13.446 --> 14:15.890 our mission set , there is high risk 14:15.890 --> 14:18.112 and inherent risk , and it's accepted . 14:18.112 --> 14:19.890 It's , it's expected , but it's 14:19.890 --> 14:21.779 mitigated and or controlled where 14:21.779 --> 14:25.270 possible . We have to be smart and not 14:25.270 --> 14:27.326 afraid . We've got to be competent , 14:27.830 --> 14:29.941 competent and aggressive , and that's 14:29.941 --> 14:32.163 key right there is , again , going back 14:32.163 --> 14:34.386 to credibility and helping others is we 14:34.386 --> 14:36.386 have to get smart . We have to seek 14:36.386 --> 14:38.497 opportunities to find the answers and 14:38.497 --> 14:41.700 to resource , and then . Confidence 14:41.700 --> 14:43.756 leads to confidence , so that's just 14:43.756 --> 14:45.867 going to come out . You don't want to 14:45.867 --> 14:48.033 be arrogant or push things on people , 14:48.033 --> 14:47.510 but you definitely want to be 14:47.900 --> 14:50.809 approachable , and approachability and 14:50.809 --> 14:53.729 humility almost go hand in hand , and 14:53.729 --> 14:55.951 it's just a confidence in yourself that 14:55.951 --> 14:58.118 you're able , that you feel capable of 14:58.118 --> 15:00.062 helping others , and we have to be 15:00.062 --> 15:02.474 aggressive . Um , if you're a mentor 15:02.474 --> 15:04.474 and you find an opportunity to help 15:04.474 --> 15:06.252 someone else out or they have a 15:06.252 --> 15:07.918 question , there shouldn't be 15:07.918 --> 15:09.918 hesitation or pause . That , that , 15:09.918 --> 15:12.030 that is , if it feels like there's an 15:12.030 --> 15:11.885 opportunity , I'd rather err on the 15:11.885 --> 15:13.996 side of execution and action that and 15:13.996 --> 15:16.218 just , hey , can I give you some advice 15:16.218 --> 15:18.329 or do you need any help with anything 15:18.329 --> 15:20.107 or , and just stand shoulder to 15:20.107 --> 15:22.163 shoulder with them and give them any 15:22.163 --> 15:24.218 kind of assistance they might need . 15:24.218 --> 15:26.218 This also includes discretion , not 15:26.218 --> 15:28.496 just because , not just because we can , 15:28.496 --> 15:30.496 doesn't just because we can doesn't 15:30.496 --> 15:32.385 mean we should . This is huge for 15:32.385 --> 15:34.552 special operations because we're given 15:34.552 --> 15:36.385 a lot of freedom of movement and 15:36.385 --> 15:38.552 authority to action aggressively , and 15:38.552 --> 15:41.570 sometimes we have the ability to 15:41.950 --> 15:44.061 destroy things . That doesn't mean we 15:44.061 --> 15:46.228 should . So there's some checklists we 15:46.228 --> 15:48.228 go through that , hey , do I , do I 15:48.228 --> 15:50.117 really need to just because I can 15:50.117 --> 15:52.283 doesn't mean I really need to , or the 15:52.283 --> 15:51.789 need's not there . It doesn't mean I 15:51.789 --> 15:54.840 really should . I know I just got done 15:54.840 --> 15:56.840 saying , hey , I want you to action 15:56.840 --> 15:58.840 aggressively as a mentor , once the 15:58.840 --> 16:00.673 opportunity presents itself with 16:00.673 --> 16:02.618 discretion with mentorship is that 16:02.618 --> 16:06.580 knowing what tool to use for um the 16:06.630 --> 16:08.770 situation . So if someone's coming to 16:08.770 --> 16:10.450 you and maybe they're having 16:10.450 --> 16:12.617 professional trouble or they're having 16:12.617 --> 16:14.839 trouble at the home , you don't want to 16:14.839 --> 16:17.172 recommend a , uh , you know , a book on , 16:17.172 --> 16:17.049 hey , you know , relieving stress , 16:17.460 --> 16:19.793 fishing trips . It's kind of , you know , 16:19.793 --> 16:21.904 they , they need a little more , they 16:21.904 --> 16:21.489 need a little more assistance and it's 16:21.489 --> 16:23.489 got to be specific . So you kind of 16:23.489 --> 16:25.600 give them a vague or blanket answer , 16:25.600 --> 16:27.545 and they're gonna walk away . Most 16:27.545 --> 16:29.711 likely feeling like they weren't taken 16:29.711 --> 16:31.933 care of and they might not approach you 16:31.933 --> 16:34.045 again . So , um , action aggressively 16:34.045 --> 16:36.211 for every opportunity to be a mentor , 16:36.211 --> 16:38.433 but use discretion on finding the right 16:38.433 --> 16:38.340 tool , the right resource . And then , 16:38.520 --> 16:40.960 honestly , if you don't know , you can 16:40.960 --> 16:43.127 just read back what that individual is 16:43.127 --> 16:45.238 trying to get help with and say , you 16:45.238 --> 16:47.460 know , I'm gonna , I'm gonna . Find you 16:47.460 --> 16:49.627 a good answer and I just need whatever 16:49.627 --> 16:51.738 time frame , um , and let me get back 16:51.738 --> 16:51.700 to you . That usually , that usually 16:51.700 --> 16:53.478 helps out if you don't know the 16:53.478 --> 16:56.080 specific answer . And then unless you 16:56.080 --> 16:58.247 are the 1% of the population that were 16:58.247 --> 17:00.239 born with all these things , these 17:00.239 --> 17:02.400 traits and just the knowledge right 17:02.400 --> 17:04.739 offhand , and it comes naturally , 17:05.119 --> 17:07.520 you're not expected to be a warrior 17:07.520 --> 17:09.760 mentor from the start . However , you 17:09.760 --> 17:12.300 are charged with having it over time , 17:12.640 --> 17:16.199 making the effort , and developing it 17:16.589 --> 17:17.280 over time . 17:23.739 --> 17:25.795 As discussed , we , we went over the 17:25.795 --> 17:27.906 ethos , mindset , and execution , and 17:27.906 --> 17:30.660 exemplification , exemplification , 17:30.900 --> 17:34.219 excuse me , of uh being a warrior and a 17:34.219 --> 17:37.390 mentor . Uh , I want to tell all of you 17:37.390 --> 17:39.279 that being in this audience , you 17:39.279 --> 17:41.780 already possess these traits . This is 17:41.780 --> 17:44.599 your tribe . Just continue to execute 17:45.469 --> 17:47.358 from your past experience , being 17:47.358 --> 17:49.413 present , and then into the future . 17:52.500 --> 17:54.611 A mentor is charged with developing , 17:54.611 --> 17:57.060 building , and shaping warriors . So it 17:57.060 --> 17:59.979 takes a warrior to mentor a warrior . 18:03.510 --> 18:05.790 And then if you have any questions that 18:05.790 --> 18:07.679 you'd like to ask uh any of these 18:07.679 --> 18:10.030 specific topics or something about from 18:10.030 --> 18:12.300 my experience that might benefit you , 18:12.510 --> 18:14.566 um , here's my contact information . 18:14.939 --> 18:18.060 I'll let this slide post up for about 5 18:18.060 --> 18:20.227 seconds , but I know these slides will 18:20.227 --> 18:22.560 be made available . So if you need them , 18:22.560 --> 18:24.338 we can , we can push them out . 18:29.760 --> 18:32.150 I do believe we have some questions in 18:32.150 --> 18:35.979 the chat , and uh Mandy , yes , 18:36.119 --> 18:39.099 we do . We have several questions , um , 18:39.319 --> 18:41.719 sir , the first question , I think it's 18:41.719 --> 18:44.479 a really good one , is how can a mentor 18:44.479 --> 18:47.510 grow a mentee's war ethics , ethos , 18:47.520 --> 18:51.030 warrior mindset . Oh , that's great . 18:51.229 --> 18:53.810 So you're asking me how a mentor can 18:53.810 --> 18:56.250 grow another , a fellow , like a 18:56.250 --> 18:58.969 younger war ethos and mindset . Yes , 18:59.859 --> 19:02.280 Yes sir . Yes , that's , that's a great 19:02.280 --> 19:04.169 question . That's kind of been my 19:04.169 --> 19:06.729 responsibility for about the last 7 19:06.729 --> 19:09.869 years now . It's really just leveraging 19:10.319 --> 19:12.920 what you know , and we say experience , 19:13.010 --> 19:15.177 right ? And experience is about timing 19:15.177 --> 19:17.288 and placement , but it's really about 19:17.288 --> 19:19.510 repetition . and exposure . And I , and 19:19.510 --> 19:19.235 I love the way experience is broken 19:19.235 --> 19:21.457 down in repetition and exposure because 19:21.526 --> 19:23.485 just because you haven't done that 19:23.485 --> 19:25.885 thing . So for us , um , in , in 19:25.885 --> 19:27.663 special operations , and in the 19:27.663 --> 19:29.885 conventional forces , it's , it's going 19:29.885 --> 19:32.052 to war , right ? It's , it's deploying 19:32.052 --> 19:31.765 and going on the mission . And , and 19:31.765 --> 19:33.765 then some people just like , oh , I 19:33.765 --> 19:35.821 haven't been on missions . I haven't 19:35.821 --> 19:38.043 been in combat , so how do I , how do I 19:38.043 --> 19:37.406 grow someone in that area ? It's like , 19:37.645 --> 19:40.186 well , what you can do is expose 19:40.186 --> 19:42.326 yourself to as close to that as 19:42.326 --> 19:44.604 possible . And I'm not talking . About , 19:44.604 --> 19:46.826 you know , running down to downtown San 19:46.826 --> 19:49.048 Antonio and , you know , get in a fight 19:49.048 --> 19:51.104 with a local gang . I'm just talking 19:51.104 --> 19:53.326 about reading for the military . We are 19:53.326 --> 19:55.493 big and avid readers . We try to learn 19:55.493 --> 19:57.437 from history . Even though history 19:57.437 --> 19:59.659 doesn't repeat itself . It does rhyme . 19:59.812 --> 20:02.034 There are some similar occurrences that 20:02.034 --> 20:04.034 have occurred over the , you know , 20:04.034 --> 20:06.034 last hundreds of thousands of years 20:06.034 --> 20:05.702 that we're still using books from 20:06.401 --> 20:08.962 ancient times , and it's just exposing 20:08.962 --> 20:11.859 yourself . To as much as close to the 20:11.859 --> 20:14.081 situation as you can to learn from it . 20:14.081 --> 20:16.949 Um , if , if I am , if I'm trying to 20:16.949 --> 20:19.310 grow a , a younger warrior mindset and 20:19.310 --> 20:21.050 ethos , and maybe I don't have 20:21.050 --> 20:22.939 particular combat experience in a 20:22.939 --> 20:24.772 specific area of operation or or 20:24.772 --> 20:26.939 particular place in the world , I will 20:26.939 --> 20:28.939 find someone who does and link them 20:28.939 --> 20:30.828 together . I'll either also learn 20:30.828 --> 20:32.883 myself with that younger , uh , that 20:32.883 --> 20:35.106 younger warrior , that younger airman , 20:35.106 --> 20:36.883 um , or I will . Forward on the 20:36.883 --> 20:39.050 contacts so you can learn from it . So 20:39.050 --> 20:40.717 if you , if you leverage your 20:40.717 --> 20:40.605 experience and if you don't have 20:40.605 --> 20:42.827 experience in that specific area , just 20:42.827 --> 20:44.827 expose yourself to as much of it as 20:44.827 --> 20:47.105 possible and then just keep repping it . 20:47.105 --> 20:47.005 That's , that's another problem that's 20:47.005 --> 20:49.227 going to set you guys apart . This is , 20:49.227 --> 20:51.394 this is great that you guys are in the 20:51.394 --> 20:50.765 audience because already it shows that 20:50.765 --> 20:52.932 you're gonna , you want , you're going 20:52.932 --> 20:55.043 to be a great mentor because a lot of 20:55.043 --> 20:56.876 people either aren't or they say 20:56.876 --> 20:58.987 they're . Going to , but they don't , 20:58.987 --> 20:58.442 they don't practice it . They don't rep 20:58.442 --> 21:00.664 it out . Like the only way you're going 21:00.664 --> 21:02.886 to get better at physical fitness is if 21:02.886 --> 21:05.109 you actually go to the gym , right ? So 21:05.109 --> 21:07.386 just finding repetition and say , well , 21:07.386 --> 21:07.082 how do I do that if no one's really 21:07.082 --> 21:08.971 coming up to me and asking me for 21:08.971 --> 21:11.193 advice ? It's like , well then you kind 21:11.193 --> 21:10.631 of have to , you kind of have to force 21:10.631 --> 21:12.742 them to , and I don't mean force them 21:12.742 --> 21:14.909 like you're , you know , force them to 21:14.909 --> 21:17.131 sit and get mentored . So for me when I 21:17.131 --> 21:19.430 had younger soldiers . I knew what they 21:19.430 --> 21:21.652 needed to know , you know what I mean , 21:21.652 --> 21:23.763 and it's just a younger person . They 21:23.763 --> 21:22.869 don't , they don't want to hear what 21:22.869 --> 21:25.091 they want to say , but it's like , no , 21:25.091 --> 21:24.719 no , like you're gonna , you're going 21:24.719 --> 21:26.886 to sit down for a second and I'm going 21:26.886 --> 21:28.941 to grow you a little bit because you 21:28.941 --> 21:31.163 need to hear what I have to say to keep 21:31.163 --> 21:33.108 yourself , to keep yourself safe . 21:33.108 --> 21:35.330 Another way to grow a younger person in 21:35.330 --> 21:37.497 the world ethos and mindset is exactly 21:37.497 --> 21:39.552 that is executing the four pillars , 21:39.552 --> 21:41.719 right ? Um , giving them , making sure 21:41.719 --> 21:43.886 that they're , they're well mentally , 21:43.886 --> 21:45.540 physically , emotionally and 21:45.540 --> 21:47.489 spiritually , and then . Even if 21:47.489 --> 21:49.656 they're already OK or they need help , 21:49.656 --> 21:51.656 give them the resources that you've 21:51.656 --> 21:53.739 learned to also develop there , to 21:53.739 --> 21:56.072 continue to develop in those areas . We , 21:56.072 --> 21:58.239 we want to have the tools ready , um , 21:58.239 --> 22:00.183 so either it's called preventative 22:00.183 --> 22:02.406 maintenance , so we don't actually need 22:02.406 --> 22:04.683 it , or when we do need it , we're not , 22:04.683 --> 22:04.140 we're not looking for it . We , we 22:04.140 --> 22:06.719 already have that knowledge , um . This 22:06.719 --> 22:08.775 is another key part that I'd like to 22:08.775 --> 22:10.775 extend to you guys as , uh , future 22:10.775 --> 22:12.830 mentors and mentors now is , uh , we 22:12.830 --> 22:15.052 use it , the , the , the saying , don't 22:15.052 --> 22:17.219 let the first time be the first time . 22:17.560 --> 22:19.893 So if you find yourself in a , you know , 22:19.893 --> 22:21.893 if you find yourself in a situation 22:21.893 --> 22:21.640 where you think you might find yourself 22:21.640 --> 22:23.670 in a situation . You don't want the 22:23.670 --> 22:25.892 first time someone comes to you seeking 22:25.892 --> 22:28.130 mentorship or , or advice or having um 22:28.609 --> 22:30.776 a , a life event that you need to help 22:30.776 --> 22:32.831 them with to be the first time . And 22:32.831 --> 22:35.165 that goes back to exposing yourself and , 22:35.165 --> 22:36.887 and resourcing . These are the 22:36.887 --> 22:39.053 resources listed on the slide , on the 22:39.053 --> 22:40.831 slide there is resources that I 22:40.831 --> 22:43.310 leverage to do that . So , um . For 22:43.310 --> 22:47.150 example , um , being a 22:47.150 --> 22:49.317 better leader . If there's a , like if 22:49.317 --> 22:49.270 there's a seminar on being a better 22:49.270 --> 22:51.270 leader , I want , I definitely want 22:51.270 --> 22:53.437 that . I want that for myself , but uh 22:53.437 --> 22:55.492 I make myself available to attend so 22:55.492 --> 22:57.492 that way I can give that advice and 22:57.492 --> 22:59.548 carry it on uh to , to the younger , 22:59.548 --> 23:01.659 the younger troops . Does that answer 23:01.659 --> 23:01.349 your question or do you need me to 23:01.349 --> 23:04.959 elaborate a little bit more ? So , that , 23:05.020 --> 23:07.076 that is great , and we do have a few 23:07.076 --> 23:09.187 more questions uh they're starting to 23:09.187 --> 23:11.880 pop up . Um , one question is , how 23:11.880 --> 23:14.839 have mentors helped you on your journey 23:14.839 --> 23:17.119 to where you are with 20 years of 23:17.119 --> 23:19.400 service and in your very specialized 23:19.400 --> 23:23.280 career field ? Oh man , uh , I , like 23:23.280 --> 23:25.280 I said , I thank God I've been very 23:25.280 --> 23:27.391 blessed . Uh , I've , I've had some , 23:27.391 --> 23:29.447 uh , it's just funny the things that 23:29.447 --> 23:31.613 you That you get exposed to or someone 23:31.613 --> 23:33.558 says that like , I , I needed that 23:33.558 --> 23:35.613 right thing at the right time . Um , 23:35.613 --> 23:37.836 how have they helped me immensely , and 23:37.836 --> 23:39.780 I know that's very vague , and I'm 23:39.780 --> 23:39.270 gonna get specific in a second , but 23:39.270 --> 23:41.430 it's just , it hasn't stopped in 20 23:41.430 --> 23:44.229 years . Um , it's , it's just little 23:44.229 --> 23:47.435 things you hear . Just from being out 23:47.435 --> 23:49.491 in the community or just being out , 23:49.491 --> 23:51.895 whether um it was a TED Talk , a 23:51.895 --> 23:54.494 podcast , um , I've had mentors exactly 23:54.494 --> 23:56.814 that , like recommend books , or I'd be 23:56.814 --> 23:59.036 driving in the car with them and I hear 23:59.036 --> 24:01.258 something on the radio , um , something 24:01.258 --> 24:03.425 with their shared experience . There's 24:03.425 --> 24:05.536 been instances where they both helped 24:05.536 --> 24:07.647 me personally and professionally just 24:07.647 --> 24:09.870 be , um , you know , be smart , whether 24:09.870 --> 24:12.036 it was with my finances or just taking 24:12.036 --> 24:14.203 care of the house when I was younger . 24:14.203 --> 24:16.258 Um , but there's been also instances 24:16.258 --> 24:18.481 where I was having a hard time or I was 24:18.481 --> 24:18.219 failing at something and it was , it 24:18.219 --> 24:20.275 was a forced mentorship where like , 24:20.275 --> 24:22.108 hey , we're gonna go outside and 24:22.108 --> 24:24.330 practice this a few times , or sit down 24:24.330 --> 24:24.180 and talk to me , and it wasn't , uh , 24:24.500 --> 24:26.680 they weren't cutting me down . Or , or 24:26.680 --> 24:29.013 coming down on me about , um , you know , 24:29.030 --> 24:31.086 messing up , but it was like , hey , 24:31.086 --> 24:33.197 where , where are you at ? Like where 24:33.197 --> 24:32.619 are you at mentally and emotionally ? 24:32.670 --> 24:34.948 Like , are you taking care of yourself ? 24:34.948 --> 24:37.281 Um , and they recognized the signs , um , 24:37.281 --> 24:39.059 and then they gave me , gave me 24:39.059 --> 24:41.226 recommendations and advice , and a lot 24:41.226 --> 24:40.989 of them were so approachable and 24:40.989 --> 24:42.989 credible because they were speaking 24:42.989 --> 24:44.989 from personal experience . They two 24:44.989 --> 24:46.989 experienced the same situation , so 24:46.989 --> 24:49.156 they , they recognized the need that I 24:49.156 --> 24:51.670 had for myself . Um . Man , that's , I 24:51.670 --> 24:53.790 can go on and on about , I can name 24:53.800 --> 24:55.911 names of giants that have just helped 24:55.911 --> 24:58.022 me here and there since , since I was 24:58.022 --> 25:00.078 20 years old and even before the Air 25:00.078 --> 25:02.078 Force , I just , just . Older human 25:02.078 --> 25:03.967 beings who've been on the earth a 25:03.967 --> 25:03.859 little bit longer , who just 25:03.859 --> 25:05.970 experienced something that I , that I 25:05.970 --> 25:08.026 just did or was about to or who just 25:08.026 --> 25:10.081 had more experience than I did , and 25:10.081 --> 25:12.303 they just , they were , I was fortunate 25:12.303 --> 25:11.540 enough where they shared it with me . 25:12.189 --> 25:16.079 Um , yeah . We have 25:16.079 --> 25:18.319 a couple more questions , sir . Uh , 25:18.479 --> 25:20.540 what is , yeah , what is the most 25:20.540 --> 25:22.373 meaningful and rewarding part of 25:22.373 --> 25:24.540 mentoring for you ? You're very , very 25:24.540 --> 25:26.818 passionate , so we'd like to hear that . 25:26.959 --> 25:29.070 What's the most , which part was it ? 25:29.250 --> 25:32.130 The The most meaningful and rewarding 25:32.130 --> 25:35.030 part of mentoring for you personally . 25:36.300 --> 25:36.989 Uh , 25:41.069 --> 25:43.829 I'm I'm an emotional person , so I get 25:43.829 --> 25:45.718 emotional thinking about it , but 25:49.930 --> 25:53.729 Seeing it play out , like , Actually 25:55.310 --> 25:57.310 Seeing it help someone whether they 25:57.310 --> 25:58.754 thank you or not , but um 26:03.260 --> 26:05.427 At my last organization , because that 26:05.427 --> 26:07.540 was my first assignment as a as a 26:07.540 --> 26:10.699 supervisor , a manager , and leader , I 26:10.699 --> 26:13.420 had a strong group of young men where a 26:13.420 --> 26:15.642 handful of them have come up afterwards 26:15.642 --> 26:17.698 and or they've texted me still years 26:17.698 --> 26:21.239 later or call me and just Tell me thank 26:21.239 --> 26:23.406 you , thank you for something specific 26:23.406 --> 26:25.572 or just thank you in general , or , or 26:25.572 --> 26:27.628 they tell me they love me and it's , 26:27.628 --> 26:29.572 it's , it really is a tribe , it's 26:29.572 --> 26:31.628 family . So I think for that is just 26:31.628 --> 26:33.850 Both good and bad experiences that I've 26:33.850 --> 26:35.906 had , I thank God because , uh , you 26:35.906 --> 26:38.128 know , no one wants to go through a bad 26:38.128 --> 26:37.239 experience , and as you're going 26:37.239 --> 26:39.406 through it , it's , it's not , it's no 26:39.406 --> 26:41.683 bueno . It's , it's not a good feeling . 26:41.683 --> 26:41.300 But when you come out on the other side , 26:41.599 --> 26:43.432 you learn from it , and then you 26:43.432 --> 26:45.599 realize you , you , you prevented that 26:45.599 --> 26:47.599 same thing happening from a younger 26:47.599 --> 26:49.821 person or , or a friend of yours . Um , 26:49.821 --> 26:52.280 so basically you endured it and you 26:52.280 --> 26:54.336 stopped it from happening to someone 26:54.336 --> 26:56.558 else because you shared your experience 26:56.558 --> 26:58.558 or you gave them some advice . So I 26:58.558 --> 27:00.669 think those two things right there is 27:00.669 --> 27:02.502 is just seeing the younger , the 27:02.502 --> 27:04.669 younger team grow and then coming back 27:04.669 --> 27:06.836 and they show you their appreciation , 27:06.836 --> 27:09.002 their love for you , and then stopping 27:09.002 --> 27:11.224 something bad from happening to someone 27:11.224 --> 27:10.714 else because of , because of things you 27:10.714 --> 27:12.714 learned , good and bad , you know , 27:12.714 --> 27:14.658 even good experiences . There is a 27:14.658 --> 27:16.825 rewarding part of it too is I , I have 27:16.825 --> 27:18.825 been blessed with just superstars , 27:18.825 --> 27:21.180 just . The people I've been responsible 27:21.180 --> 27:24.660 for who I've mentored are beyond me in 27:24.660 --> 27:26.993 all things , competencies and abilities , 27:26.993 --> 27:29.739 and I made sure that I had them 27:29.739 --> 27:31.795 recognized and I had them rewarded , 27:31.969 --> 27:34.025 and a lot of them don't , they don't 27:34.025 --> 27:36.080 want recognition and they don't want 27:36.080 --> 27:38.413 awards , but if you can get them for us , 27:38.413 --> 27:40.525 um , I grew up , I grew up poor . And 27:40.525 --> 27:42.580 so money isn't everything , but it , 27:42.580 --> 27:44.636 but it definitely helps . Like , you 27:44.636 --> 27:44.359 know , if you can put food on the table , 27:44.530 --> 27:46.530 if you can keep food on the table , 27:46.530 --> 27:48.697 that's , that's , that's life , that's 27:48.697 --> 27:50.808 outstanding . So knowing when you can 27:50.808 --> 27:52.863 help a young person out , you mentor 27:52.863 --> 27:52.770 them , you've got them recognized for 27:52.770 --> 27:54.826 all the hard work they do , and then 27:54.826 --> 27:56.937 they get promoted , that's , that's , 27:56.937 --> 27:56.930 that's extra , that's dollars in their 27:56.930 --> 27:59.041 pocket . And what that really equates 27:59.041 --> 28:01.374 to is that's , that's food on the table , 28:01.374 --> 28:00.609 that's a that's a roof over their 28:00.609 --> 28:02.665 family . So that's also rewarding as 28:02.665 --> 28:04.665 getting them recognized . So , um , 28:05.329 --> 28:07.329 getting appreciation for who you've 28:07.329 --> 28:10.030 helped , um , preventing someone . From 28:10.030 --> 28:12.197 experiencing another hardship that you 28:12.197 --> 28:14.308 had or , or even positive experiences 28:14.308 --> 28:16.363 that you've shared and , and getting 28:16.363 --> 28:20.030 them recognized . Thank you . That was 28:20.030 --> 28:23.270 marvelous . Um , what advice would you 28:23.270 --> 28:26.750 give to , let's say , a , a young , uh , 28:26.869 --> 28:29.420 big A airman , uh , male and , and 28:29.420 --> 28:32.510 civilian , um , looking for a mentor ? 28:32.829 --> 28:35.150 What should they be looking ? For and a 28:35.150 --> 28:37.910 mentor . Do you have any advice on that ? 28:38.349 --> 28:40.571 Absolutely . I got the best advice that 28:40.571 --> 28:42.627 I've ever received , and I apologize 28:42.750 --> 28:44.972 because I meant to talk about it when I 28:44.972 --> 28:46.917 was talking about the Navy Special 28:46.917 --> 28:49.150 Warfare course . So that's exactly what 28:49.150 --> 28:52.189 this course . had was it was a 28:52.189 --> 28:54.469 leadership and manager development 28:54.469 --> 28:56.469 course , right ? However , they had 28:56.469 --> 28:58.636 sessions . They brought in mentors and 28:58.636 --> 29:00.858 some guys were the senior most in their 29:00.858 --> 29:03.025 career . They've been in from 20 to 30 29:03.025 --> 29:05.025 years and they're at the top of the 29:05.025 --> 29:04.770 ranks or they'd have already retired 29:04.869 --> 29:08.069 and I had already done this without 29:08.079 --> 29:10.630 knowing it , but he put it in words . 29:10.704 --> 29:12.944 This is the advice I give to all my 29:12.944 --> 29:16.025 guys on getting a mentor , right , is 29:16.464 --> 29:18.631 ask for it , and I've done that . I've 29:18.631 --> 29:20.464 done that officially with my big 29:20.464 --> 29:20.305 brothers because they were already my 29:20.305 --> 29:22.361 mentors , but I made it a mentor him 29:22.361 --> 29:24.744 his , his vignette was he was a young 29:24.744 --> 29:26.744 commander and he was looking for a 29:26.744 --> 29:28.800 mentor , and he did that . There was 29:28.800 --> 29:30.800 already a guy that you want to find 29:30.800 --> 29:33.489 someone . That you admire or you look 29:33.489 --> 29:35.545 up to or you don't even have to like 29:35.545 --> 29:37.378 them , but you know they're just 29:37.378 --> 29:39.711 credible , right ? We trust the experts . 29:39.711 --> 29:41.767 If someone is , is doing the job and 29:41.767 --> 29:43.378 they're excelling at life or 29:43.378 --> 29:43.130 professionally and whether you like 29:43.130 --> 29:44.963 them or not , it's like whatever 29:44.963 --> 29:47.186 they're doing , they're doing right and 29:47.186 --> 29:49.186 so you just , you ask them . It's a 29:49.186 --> 29:51.408 little awkward , right , but we get for 29:51.408 --> 29:51.369 us we have to get comfortable being 29:51.369 --> 29:53.530 uncomfortable and we like , we like 29:53.530 --> 29:55.752 kind of like just putting ourselves out 29:55.752 --> 29:57.974 there and and getting rid of the fear . 29:57.974 --> 29:59.974 So if you're looking for a mentor . 30:00.209 --> 30:03.369 Find someone that you admire or you're 30:03.369 --> 30:05.369 interested in or you just know it's 30:05.369 --> 30:07.480 someone you want to be like or do the 30:07.480 --> 30:09.702 things they're doing and just ask him . 30:09.702 --> 30:11.647 It gets real weird . You're almost 30:11.647 --> 30:11.410 asking him out on a date because that's 30:11.410 --> 30:13.577 his vignette . He was like , Hey man , 30:13.650 --> 30:15.817 would you , you want to be my mentor ? 30:15.817 --> 30:17.817 And the guy's like , like what does 30:17.817 --> 30:19.983 that mean ? He's like , I don't know , 30:19.983 --> 30:22.039 just When I call or text and ask you 30:22.039 --> 30:24.420 for some advice , you just answer and 30:24.420 --> 30:26.979 give it to me , and he's like , like a 30:26.979 --> 30:29.201 date ? He's like , Well , yeah , but it 30:29.201 --> 30:31.257 doesn't have to be a date . We don't 30:31.257 --> 30:33.201 have to go to like luncheon or get 30:33.201 --> 30:32.900 coffee , but it's we're just , you know , 30:33.099 --> 30:35.321 being present or available , and that's 30:35.321 --> 30:37.432 exactly what my mentors do now . I've 30:37.432 --> 30:39.599 got some command chiefs that are doing 30:39.599 --> 30:41.655 big things and Um , as you get older 30:41.655 --> 30:43.543 and you need less mentorship or a 30:43.543 --> 30:42.959 specific type of mentor , it's few and 30:42.959 --> 30:45.181 far between , but I can still text them 30:45.181 --> 30:47.348 at 11 o'clock at night . Hey , I got a 30:47.348 --> 30:47.300 problem or situation . What would you 30:47.300 --> 30:49.356 do ? And you kind of just check your 30:49.356 --> 30:51.633 calibration or , or , or leverage them . 30:51.633 --> 30:53.856 But if you're seeking a mentor , I know 30:53.856 --> 30:55.790 it sounds weird , but just ask if 30:55.790 --> 30:57.734 you're introverted , which I don't 30:57.734 --> 30:59.846 think you are because you volunteered 30:59.846 --> 30:59.750 for the seminar and you want to be a 30:59.750 --> 31:01.972 mentor , you could probably be a little 31:01.972 --> 31:04.139 bit introverted , but you're not , you 31:04.139 --> 31:06.194 know , you're not social , you don't 31:06.194 --> 31:08.194 experience some , some debilitating 31:08.194 --> 31:10.472 social anxiety is just expose yourself , 31:10.510 --> 31:12.732 you know , whether you have to be a fly 31:12.732 --> 31:14.954 on the wall , but you can still observe 31:14.954 --> 31:17.066 that and then . Yeah , that's how you 31:17.066 --> 31:19.121 find a mentor . It's just , and that 31:19.121 --> 31:21.288 doesn't necessarily have to be someone 31:21.288 --> 31:23.343 you know . A previous encounter work 31:23.343 --> 31:25.510 counterpart of mine , he loved college 31:25.510 --> 31:27.454 sports . There was a very specific 31:27.454 --> 31:29.621 college coach that he liked . He liked 31:29.621 --> 31:31.454 the way he coached his team . He 31:31.454 --> 31:33.732 managed and he led , and he , you know , 31:33.732 --> 31:35.621 he reads his books , he reads his 31:35.621 --> 31:35.520 letters that he puts out into the 31:35.520 --> 31:37.969 public , so he tries to just , he 31:37.969 --> 31:40.191 essentially become that , that coach is 31:40.650 --> 31:43.369 his mentor without knowing it . So find 31:43.369 --> 31:46.150 someone . Um , that you think could 31:46.150 --> 31:49.250 help you or help others and gather as 31:49.250 --> 31:51.489 much of what they know as you can , you 31:51.489 --> 31:53.600 know , whether it's talking with them 31:53.600 --> 31:55.767 or , or , or reading their books and , 31:55.767 --> 31:58.800 and their podcast . Thank you . And , 31:58.859 --> 32:00.970 and kind of following up on that , we 32:00.970 --> 32:02.970 do have a question from someone who 32:02.970 --> 32:05.303 says they're brand new to the Air Force , 32:05.303 --> 32:07.470 so they're looking for different books 32:07.470 --> 32:09.581 you might recommend for leadership in 32:09.581 --> 32:11.748 general or possibly podcasts as well . 32:13.530 --> 32:16.489 Absolutely . Um , one that I like , 32:16.609 --> 32:18.720 it's , uh , I saw we're , we're big , 32:18.720 --> 32:20.887 we're keen on uh personal professional 32:20.887 --> 32:22.998 development . Personal development is 32:22.998 --> 32:22.800 just , you know , being , there's a 32:22.800 --> 32:24.900 book out called , uh , was it , uh , 32:24.910 --> 32:27.689 Smarter , Faster , Harder . Um , it 32:27.689 --> 32:30.770 goes over how your brain works and , 32:30.810 --> 32:32.810 and about doing those things . Um , 32:32.810 --> 32:36.300 that's a good book . Um , What's the 32:36.300 --> 32:40.260 book by the um Um , there 32:40.260 --> 32:43.300 is a book by a Navy SEAL . Uh , it's 32:43.300 --> 32:45.300 good for , for leadership and , and 32:45.300 --> 32:47.356 supervision . I forget . He's , he's 32:47.356 --> 32:49.522 got a famous podcast . I can Google as 32:49.522 --> 32:52.199 I , as I think about it . Um . But I 32:52.199 --> 32:54.520 really just Google books and I'll , 32:54.569 --> 32:56.736 I'll start with a good mentorships and 32:56.736 --> 32:58.902 I start there . So I unfortunately , I 32:58.902 --> 32:58.689 can't think of anything off the top of 32:58.689 --> 33:00.890 my head because most of my mentorship 33:00.890 --> 33:04.089 I've gotten via in person . Um , I've 33:04.089 --> 33:06.422 been fortunate for that , but I'd start , 33:06.422 --> 33:08.489 I'd start there . Um , there is . A 33:08.489 --> 33:11.410 book out by a former UCLA basketball 33:11.410 --> 33:13.466 coach on mentorship . So if you just 33:13.466 --> 33:15.410 Google that , um , UCLA basketball 33:15.410 --> 33:17.466 coach mentorship , um , I forget his 33:17.466 --> 33:19.521 name . I think it starts with John . 33:19.521 --> 33:21.743 That , that's a great mentorship book . 33:21.743 --> 33:23.743 Um , I've , I've , I've read it and 33:23.743 --> 33:26.439 I've heard others have read it too . I 33:26.439 --> 33:28.439 think the book is Making Your Bed . 33:29.599 --> 33:32.209 Thank you . I'm trying to , um , as you 33:32.209 --> 33:34.320 say those , sir , put a few things in 33:34.320 --> 33:36.569 the , the chat with the authors of 33:36.569 --> 33:38.839 those books . Yeah , I , I got that , 33:39.099 --> 33:42.569 the Navy SEAL book as well . So , Jacko 33:42.569 --> 33:46.250 Willink , um , it's J O C K O 33:46.619 --> 33:50.569 and then W I L L I N K . Um he's got a 33:50.569 --> 33:53.010 book out called Extreme Ownership , and 33:53.010 --> 33:55.209 it talks about accountability . Um . 33:55.650 --> 33:57.928 That's , that's a great book too . And , 33:57.928 --> 34:00.150 and you notice that some of these books 34:00.150 --> 34:01.817 aren't directly associated to 34:01.817 --> 34:04.039 mentorship . However , um , if you , if 34:04.039 --> 34:06.206 you're , if you're listening or you're 34:06.206 --> 34:08.428 reading the principles , um , and you , 34:08.428 --> 34:07.790 you pick up on the traits , that's , 34:07.869 --> 34:09.980 that's all it is , is you're bringing 34:09.980 --> 34:12.202 it together . So it might not be a cake 34:12.202 --> 34:14.313 labeled mentorship , but it's got the 34:14.313 --> 34:16.425 same ingredients . Um , and then also 34:16.425 --> 34:18.591 in those books , um , they give , they 34:18.591 --> 34:20.536 give other resources that in other 34:20.536 --> 34:20.429 books that you could read on mentorship . 34:20.510 --> 34:22.788 They talk about who mentored them . Um , 34:22.788 --> 34:24.843 that's the other thing too is I find 34:24.889 --> 34:27.520 leaders that are doing well that I 34:27.520 --> 34:29.649 admired both in the military and 34:29.649 --> 34:32.129 civilian sectors , and , and I look at 34:32.129 --> 34:34.407 their books , some of their , you know , 34:34.407 --> 34:36.518 if it's a top selling book , and I go 34:36.518 --> 34:38.740 and read that , and they usually have a 34:38.740 --> 34:40.962 lot of good resources and references as 34:40.962 --> 34:44.000 well . We are getting quite a number of 34:44.000 --> 34:46.899 really great books and so in the chat , 34:47.080 --> 34:49.919 so we really appreciate that . Um , I 34:49.919 --> 34:52.399 want to open it up for those that are 34:52.399 --> 34:55.439 maybe out there who haven't put a 34:55.439 --> 34:57.800 question in the chat if they would like 34:57.800 --> 35:01.199 to maybe raise their hand or ask a 35:01.199 --> 35:04.469 question , um . Or continue to put it 35:04.469 --> 35:06.525 in the chat . We still have a little 35:06.525 --> 35:08.858 bit of time and we wanna , we wanna get , 35:08.858 --> 35:10.858 this is our last national Mentoring 35:10.858 --> 35:13.949 Month event until next year , so we're 35:13.949 --> 35:17.070 really trying to ensure we get as many 35:17.070 --> 35:19.403 questions to help you along as possible , 35:19.403 --> 35:22.169 and I know Marisol would appreciate 35:22.169 --> 35:25.590 that as well . Thank you , Mandy . I 35:25.590 --> 35:27.790 wanna make sure Master Sergeant Link's 35:27.790 --> 35:31.120 question was um answered . Uh , Master 35:31.120 --> 35:33.149 Sergeant Link , you're feel free to 35:33.149 --> 35:35.790 unmute . Um there is a question that he 35:35.790 --> 35:38.959 had in the chat . Or we could just read 35:38.959 --> 35:42.129 the question . If anybody would like to 35:42.129 --> 35:44.351 unmute and answer the question , please 35:44.351 --> 35:46.185 feel free to do so . When Master 35:46.185 --> 35:48.351 Sergeant Luke's question was , what if 35:48.351 --> 35:50.590 you're extremely introverted , and have 35:50.590 --> 35:53.550 a fear of confrontation , but are 35:53.550 --> 35:55.830 looking to get better at mentoring ? 35:55.949 --> 35:57.893 What tips can you provide , Master 35:57.893 --> 36:00.530 Sergeant Carrion ? He kind of answered 36:00.530 --> 36:02.969 the question himself , right ? So I 36:02.969 --> 36:05.080 would ask , I don't , I don't want to 36:05.080 --> 36:06.969 just assume it's him because he's 36:06.969 --> 36:08.913 asking , it might be , he might be 36:08.913 --> 36:10.858 asking for a fellow mentor who has 36:10.858 --> 36:13.025 extreme extroversion , right ? I would 36:13.025 --> 36:15.358 say you're off to a great start if it's , 36:15.358 --> 36:17.302 if it's . Or if that individual is 36:17.302 --> 36:19.247 asking you , great start . They're 36:19.247 --> 36:21.302 initiating contact , right ? They're 36:21.302 --> 36:23.358 initiating coordination . So they're 36:23.358 --> 36:22.520 extremely introverted , they're looking 36:22.520 --> 36:24.631 to mentorship . How can I , how can I 36:24.631 --> 36:26.742 get better at confrontation ? They're 36:26.742 --> 36:28.798 asking , right ? That's exactly what 36:28.798 --> 36:31.939 you do is , um , I would There are 36:31.939 --> 36:35.260 conflict management resources . A lot 36:35.260 --> 36:37.570 of professional development we received 36:37.570 --> 36:39.626 in the military is from the civilian 36:39.626 --> 36:41.792 sector regarding conflict management . 36:41.792 --> 36:44.014 There are , there are different ways to 36:44.014 --> 36:45.737 handle confrontation . There's 36:45.737 --> 36:47.848 different types of confrontation . So 36:47.848 --> 36:49.959 again , resourcing those using Google 36:49.959 --> 36:49.239 and getting the books . Unfortunately I 36:49.239 --> 36:51.572 don't have any specific . Books offhand , 36:51.572 --> 36:53.572 but I have one for the next one for 36:53.864 --> 36:56.304 getting to yes . There's a book called 36:56.304 --> 36:58.471 Getting to Yes , and it's about a book 36:58.471 --> 37:00.582 about negotiation , and really that's 37:00.582 --> 37:02.860 what confrontation is , is negotiation . 37:02.864 --> 37:05.185 It's conflict management , and we 37:05.185 --> 37:07.185 received a part of that training in 37:07.185 --> 37:09.354 that Navy Special warfare course , but 37:10.909 --> 37:13.020 Negotiation . It's like understanding 37:13.229 --> 37:15.173 where someone's coming from . It's 37:15.173 --> 37:17.173 really like , I forget what the Air 37:17.173 --> 37:19.062 Force calls it , but it's problem 37:19.062 --> 37:21.062 solving , right ? Knowing , knowing 37:21.062 --> 37:21.030 what the person across from you is 37:21.030 --> 37:23.252 asking for , um , knowing how to handle 37:23.252 --> 37:25.141 those texting . So anything about 37:25.141 --> 37:27.229 conflict management or or or 37:27.229 --> 37:29.550 confronting confrontation are great 37:29.550 --> 37:32.830 resources . Um , if you're the the the 37:32.830 --> 37:34.886 specific question of , hey , what if 37:34.886 --> 37:36.941 you're extremely introverted is like 37:36.941 --> 37:38.830 You have to get comfortable being 37:38.830 --> 37:40.941 comfortable , and you do that through 37:40.941 --> 37:43.699 exposure . When I first started jumping 37:43.699 --> 37:45.588 out of airplanes , and I use this 37:45.588 --> 37:47.810 reference not to highlight myself , but 37:47.810 --> 37:49.921 I learned later that everyone on that 37:49.921 --> 37:49.750 plane , everyone in the planes actually 37:49.750 --> 37:51.861 don't want to jump out of airplanes . 37:51.861 --> 37:53.806 So naturally for some odd reason , 37:53.806 --> 37:55.806 human beings just don't like to fly 37:55.806 --> 37:58.028 through the air . We're made to walk on 37:58.028 --> 38:00.590 the ground . But we know it's not going 38:00.590 --> 38:02.701 to get any better , and we have to do 38:02.701 --> 38:04.534 it . It's , it's one of the most 38:04.534 --> 38:06.701 dangerous things we do . We have to do 38:06.701 --> 38:06.459 it , so we have to do it safely and we 38:06.459 --> 38:08.626 have to do it right . And the only way 38:08.626 --> 38:10.681 we do that is through repetition and 38:10.681 --> 38:12.626 exposure . So you . Um , if you're 38:12.626 --> 38:14.737 extremely introverted and you have an 38:14.737 --> 38:17.290 issue with confrontation , you have to 38:17.290 --> 38:19.401 expose yourself to it and you have to 38:19.401 --> 38:21.234 get the reps , but you also help 38:21.234 --> 38:23.401 yourself develop , right ? So read the 38:23.401 --> 38:25.179 books on how to handle conflict 38:25.179 --> 38:27.346 management , how to negotiate , how to 38:27.346 --> 38:29.346 experience confrontation , and then 38:29.346 --> 38:31.969 start small . If you've got kids , you 38:31.969 --> 38:34.025 are , you are , you are dealing with 38:34.025 --> 38:36.136 confrontation daily , right , whether 38:36.136 --> 38:38.080 they're toddlers through teenagers 38:38.080 --> 38:40.191 through sometimes adults , right ? So 38:40.191 --> 38:42.340 I'm not asking you to just Go toe to 38:42.350 --> 38:44.572 toe or stick your chest to somebody and 38:44.572 --> 38:46.683 put your finger there and and and get 38:46.683 --> 38:48.850 confrontation doesn't necessarily mean 38:48.850 --> 38:51.072 a fight . It just means we do not agree 38:51.072 --> 38:53.128 on the same thing . How do we get to 38:53.128 --> 38:55.239 yes , like the negotiation books . So 38:55.239 --> 38:57.350 for an extreme introvert to deal with 38:57.350 --> 38:59.572 confrontation is , is develop , get the 38:59.572 --> 39:01.794 resources , learn how to do it , either 39:01.794 --> 39:03.683 books , Google , um , operational 39:03.683 --> 39:03.560 psychologists . Operational 39:03.560 --> 39:06.550 psychologists are great on um . Dealing 39:06.550 --> 39:08.959 with confrontation . So if you can find 39:08.959 --> 39:11.070 an operational psychologist in your , 39:11.070 --> 39:13.070 in your sector , um , absolutely do 39:13.070 --> 39:15.126 that . Psychiatrists are a good help 39:15.126 --> 39:17.292 because they tell you how , um , human 39:17.292 --> 39:19.515 beings work . Um , so they can tell you 39:19.515 --> 39:21.626 how to deal with confrontation . Um , 39:21.626 --> 39:23.737 but just exposure , development , and 39:23.737 --> 39:25.903 repetition , and yeah , I'm not asking 39:25.903 --> 39:27.903 you to go get in a fight . I'm just 39:27.903 --> 39:30.015 saying , hey , negotiate getting your 39:30.015 --> 39:32.126 kid to eat their vegetables , right ? 39:32.126 --> 39:34.070 Negotiate your friend going to the 39:34.070 --> 39:36.015 movies instead of going to a bar . 39:36.015 --> 39:35.959 Those , those are small confrontations . 39:36.000 --> 39:38.056 They don't have to be hostile . They 39:38.056 --> 39:40.222 don't have to be angry , but each time 39:40.222 --> 39:39.840 someone doesn't agree on the same thing , 39:39.959 --> 39:42.126 it's a confrontation , and then you're 39:42.126 --> 39:44.459 just managing expectations like we hope , 39:44.639 --> 39:47.800 like in a relationship , we hope it's a . 39:48.110 --> 39:50.277 Um , what do we call it ? We hope it's 39:50.277 --> 39:52.499 a collaboration . We hope we're both on 39:52.499 --> 39:54.499 the same page and we're all getting 39:54.499 --> 39:56.721 what I want , but most often than not , 39:56.721 --> 39:56.649 like 80% of the time with human beings , 39:56.840 --> 39:59.173 it's a compromise between people . Like , 39:59.219 --> 40:01.275 not everyone is going to get exactly 40:01.275 --> 40:03.441 what they want , but if you can find a 40:03.441 --> 40:05.497 compromise where you both can , both 40:05.497 --> 40:07.608 it's acceptable and it's , you know , 40:07.608 --> 40:09.719 safe for everyone , that's as long as 40:09.719 --> 40:09.100 you can manage the expectation . That's 40:09.100 --> 40:10.878 how I deal with negotiation and 40:10.878 --> 40:12.878 confrontation . is unless it's just 40:12.878 --> 40:14.933 black and white , like someone's not 40:14.933 --> 40:14.495 meeting the standard , then that's not 40:14.495 --> 40:16.662 negotiable and that's what , and I can 40:16.662 --> 40:18.495 also , I fall back on positional 40:18.495 --> 40:20.495 authority . I know sometimes people 40:20.495 --> 40:22.662 don't like that positional authority , 40:22.662 --> 40:24.717 but it is a technique of attack when 40:24.717 --> 40:26.606 dealing with the military service 40:26.606 --> 40:28.662 members that sometimes people , they 40:28.662 --> 40:28.635 just , for whatever their personality , 40:28.824 --> 40:31.046 that's the only way to get through them 40:31.046 --> 40:32.991 is through administrative action , 40:32.991 --> 40:36.340 action , but It's compromises . Imagine 40:36.340 --> 40:38.451 expectations and knowing where that's 40:38.451 --> 40:39.951 how I handle every , every 40:39.951 --> 40:42.007 confrontation in situations like I'm 40:42.007 --> 40:44.173 not going to get exactly what I want , 40:44.173 --> 40:46.340 but if I can get , you know , if I can 40:46.340 --> 40:45.620 make , if I'm happy with it , 40:45.820 --> 40:48.042 reasonably happy and they're reasonably 40:48.042 --> 40:50.264 happy , I feel like it's , it's a win . 40:50.264 --> 40:52.542 I know I kind of went on , but um yeah , 40:52.542 --> 40:55.080 just develop and expose yourself to it . 40:56.010 --> 40:59.489 Thank you . Yeah , uh , OK , Marisol , 40:59.570 --> 41:01.830 did you want to go on and , and , um , 41:01.969 --> 41:04.409 Mr . Vincent Flores has his hand up to 41:04.409 --> 41:06.760 ask a question . Yes , we have two 41:06.760 --> 41:08.816 attendees . We have , uh , Saint Jay 41:08.816 --> 41:11.250 Carter had his , um , hand up and 41:11.250 --> 41:13.489 Master Sergeant Flores also has his 41:13.489 --> 41:17.050 hand up . Super . All right , over to 41:17.050 --> 41:19.830 one of you to , uh , to ask . 41:23.620 --> 41:26.330 Uh , mister , uh , I'm 41:26.969 --> 41:30.689 It's not a question , just a plug . I 41:30.689 --> 41:34.510 heard a question asked earlier about um 41:35.590 --> 41:39.340 How do they connect to a mentor and I 41:39.340 --> 41:41.284 apologize if uh somebody's already 41:41.284 --> 41:44.030 asked this question cause I , I joined 41:44.030 --> 41:47.909 the uh To me here a little bit late , 41:49.300 --> 41:53.229 uh , my vector is a good . If access 41:53.229 --> 41:56.270 and everybody can get access to my 41:56.270 --> 41:59.909 vector , uh , there is a my vector on 41:59.909 --> 42:02.187 the left hand side of the landing page . 42:02.189 --> 42:04.939 If you click on , uh , my mentor 42:05.510 --> 42:08.939 connections , the page of pop , you can 42:08.939 --> 42:12.229 actually , um , select mentors . You 42:12.229 --> 42:15.250 can , uh , get . Um , Res , 42:16.209 --> 42:19.689 uh , books , videos , and such on that 42:19.689 --> 42:21.911 particular site . So I just want to put 42:21.911 --> 42:23.911 the plug in for the individual that 42:23.911 --> 42:26.770 asked about how can they connect with 42:26.770 --> 42:29.570 the mentor if that's already been asked 42:29.729 --> 42:31.618 over . Absolutely , that's a good 42:31.618 --> 42:33.396 source . It's definitely a good 42:33.396 --> 42:36.530 resource . Thank you . OK , and Mr . 42:36.610 --> 42:38.649 Flores , would you like to ask your 42:38.649 --> 42:41.959 question now ? Of course , yeah , 42:42.100 --> 42:44.209 definitely , and , uh , Sergeant 42:44.209 --> 42:46.439 Carrion , I appreciate you being here . 42:46.500 --> 42:50.459 Um , it's , it's huge benefit to , to 42:50.459 --> 42:53.820 end our week with you , uh , and you 42:53.820 --> 42:56.060 know what , I , I , I sympathize with 42:56.060 --> 42:58.116 you and and empathize with you and , 42:58.116 --> 43:00.282 and being on the same page as far as , 43:00.282 --> 43:02.393 uh , not calling yourself a warrior , 43:02.393 --> 43:04.616 you know , but , um , it's OK for me to 43:04.616 --> 43:06.560 call you a warrior , so my heart , 43:06.560 --> 43:08.671 you're a warrior , brother , so I , I 43:08.671 --> 43:10.893 appreciate it and I love ending on this 43:10.893 --> 43:13.116 great note . Uh , my question is , um , 43:13.330 --> 43:15.552 what have you learned about yourself as 43:15.552 --> 43:18.179 a mentor , if at all ? Oh , that's a 43:18.179 --> 43:20.401 good one . that's , that's a good one . 43:20.401 --> 43:22.623 What have I learned about myself ? Um , 43:22.820 --> 43:25.040 As a mentor . It's um 43:26.649 --> 43:30.560 It's very humbling . It's I've 43:30.560 --> 43:33.449 learned , and and I know it sounds 43:33.449 --> 43:35.320 silly , I want to reassure you I 43:35.320 --> 43:37.431 learned this a while ago , so I don't 43:37.431 --> 43:39.320 want you to be nervous . I'm just 43:39.320 --> 43:41.376 learning it now , but I learned more 43:41.376 --> 43:43.487 self-awareness . I learned the effect 43:43.487 --> 43:45.653 that I can have on others , you know , 43:45.653 --> 43:47.764 we're be bopping along as teenagers . 43:47.764 --> 43:46.689 We're not thinking about it , and that 43:46.689 --> 43:49.022 just comes with , you know , growing up . 43:49.022 --> 43:51.245 We're . We're not , we're literally not 43:51.245 --> 43:50.729 as developed until we get older , right , 43:50.810 --> 43:52.929 so we're immature . So as I , as I 43:52.929 --> 43:54.985 progressed , as I matured , I became 43:54.985 --> 43:56.850 more self-aware and just the 43:56.850 --> 44:00.449 significance of just affecting other 44:00.449 --> 44:02.449 human beings , just positive and 44:02.449 --> 44:05.409 negative . It was , it was daunting to 44:05.409 --> 44:07.649 me . The first couple of times I 44:07.649 --> 44:09.705 started asking that , I think when I 44:09.705 --> 44:11.760 first became a supervisor and people 44:11.760 --> 44:13.871 were asking questions that I either I 44:13.871 --> 44:16.038 thought everyone knew the answer to or 44:16.038 --> 44:15.500 that it was kind of like common 44:15.500 --> 44:17.667 knowledge , I realized like , oh , I'm 44:17.667 --> 44:19.667 responsible for that human being to 44:19.667 --> 44:21.833 have that resource , like to know that 44:21.833 --> 44:23.833 thing for them , and I take it very 44:23.833 --> 44:26.340 seriously the men that I work for , 44:26.350 --> 44:28.517 especially . Young men , they're going 44:28.517 --> 44:31.004 to war , and there is no , there's no , 44:31.524 --> 44:33.413 it's pass or failure . You die or 44:33.413 --> 44:35.524 you're going to come back . So that's 44:35.524 --> 44:37.691 why I tell them I'm going to give them 44:37.691 --> 44:40.024 all the answers to the test . I'm cheat , 44:40.024 --> 44:39.895 absolutely cheat , cheat and lie , 44:40.364 --> 44:42.308 because the alternative is death , 44:42.324 --> 44:44.435 right ? But it's on them to , to , to 44:44.435 --> 44:46.657 get the knowledge and to execute . Um , 44:46.804 --> 44:48.971 so I learned about myself , the effect 44:48.971 --> 44:50.860 I've had on other people , and it 44:50.860 --> 44:52.915 became daunting . Um , so instead of 44:52.919 --> 44:55.030 days where I found myself I wanted to 44:55.030 --> 44:57.389 take time off or be lazy , maybe I , I , 44:57.439 --> 44:59.383 I wanted to , I wanted to focus on 44:59.383 --> 45:01.550 myself for a second and maybe I wanted 45:01.550 --> 45:03.606 to get a little me time , and then I 45:03.606 --> 45:05.606 would think about something someone 45:05.606 --> 45:07.828 needed or something someone asked , and 45:07.828 --> 45:07.520 I was like , nope , I , I gotta do it . 45:07.560 --> 45:09.671 I gotta find this answer . It's gotta 45:09.671 --> 45:11.560 be me . And , and I was fortunate 45:11.560 --> 45:13.560 enough again blessed by God to know 45:13.560 --> 45:15.671 that like . Sometimes , even though I 45:15.671 --> 45:17.838 might not be interested in something , 45:17.838 --> 45:17.500 some , I might not want to go to that 45:17.500 --> 45:19.667 thing to learn that . I know that it's 45:19.667 --> 45:21.667 probably good . I should know it if 45:21.667 --> 45:23.944 another human being was to ask me . Um , 45:23.944 --> 45:23.540 and it doesn't have to , I know it 45:23.540 --> 45:25.651 sounds kind of extreme and it doesn't 45:25.651 --> 45:27.707 have to be extreme , but it could be 45:27.707 --> 45:27.219 any little thing that just , you don't 45:27.219 --> 45:29.052 know the effect that you have on 45:29.052 --> 45:31.209 someone else , um , you know , just 45:31.939 --> 45:34.179 rushing that red light or just holding 45:34.179 --> 45:36.235 what you got and slowing down at the 45:36.235 --> 45:38.346 yellow . You , you're affecting other 45:38.346 --> 45:40.568 human beings and uh . Um , I've never , 45:40.568 --> 45:42.790 I've never wanted to be responsible for 45:42.790 --> 45:45.389 negatively or adversely killing or 45:45.389 --> 45:47.389 affecting another human , let alone 45:47.389 --> 45:49.556 ending another human being's life . So 45:49.556 --> 45:51.778 it's like , man , I , I better know . I 45:51.778 --> 45:51.530 got to know and I got to share 45:51.530 --> 45:53.697 everything just to make sure I'm , I'm 45:53.697 --> 45:55.808 being positive . I'm helping others , 45:55.808 --> 45:58.141 and I'm , I'm keeping them alive . Cool . 45:58.310 --> 46:01.500 I appreciate it . Definitely . Thank 46:01.500 --> 46:03.667 you , sir . We have another question , 46:03.979 --> 46:06.035 um , and it , it's , I'm , I'm gonna 46:06.035 --> 46:08.500 read it out to you . It's what tools or 46:08.500 --> 46:11.780 strategies can you use to support an 46:11.780 --> 46:14.620 airman who is working to rebuild the 46:14.620 --> 46:17.620 reputation after a history of poor 46:17.620 --> 46:20.100 performance or behavior , especially 46:20.100 --> 46:22.267 when they have lost the trust of their 46:22.267 --> 46:24.211 leadership ? How can you help them 46:24.211 --> 46:26.899 regain confidence , demonstrate 46:26.899 --> 46:29.739 accountability , and show consistent 46:29.739 --> 46:33.080 improvement ? What a great question , 46:33.239 --> 46:35.699 right ? Um , I've had to , I've had to 46:35.899 --> 46:38.121 come back from some , some , yeah , I , 46:38.121 --> 46:40.288 I've lost credibility here and there , 46:40.288 --> 46:42.399 um , and I've had to come back from , 46:42.399 --> 46:44.177 and I've seen others , and I've 46:44.177 --> 46:46.010 actually mentored others on , on 46:46.010 --> 46:48.121 exactly that . They've , they've lost 46:48.121 --> 46:50.232 credibility . The reputation has been 46:50.232 --> 46:49.939 affected , right ? You're essentially 46:50.120 --> 46:52.231 doing a rebranding . That's what we , 46:52.231 --> 46:54.120 like , hey , we , we , hey , that 46:54.120 --> 46:56.231 individual , he , he wants , he needs 46:56.231 --> 46:58.342 to rebrand himself . And if there's a 46:58.342 --> 47:00.453 want , he wants or he or she wants to 47:00.453 --> 47:02.719 rebrand themselves . Two things , and 47:02.719 --> 47:04.497 the first thing is just a quick 47:04.497 --> 47:07.010 disclaimer is you have to know that 47:07.010 --> 47:08.954 person . Are they being sincere or 47:08.954 --> 47:10.954 genuine , because you can help that 47:10.954 --> 47:10.929 person . But if they're just saying 47:10.929 --> 47:12.985 they want to be better and come back 47:12.985 --> 47:12.850 from it , but they really don't , 47:12.889 --> 47:15.056 they're not demonstrating the action , 47:15.056 --> 47:17.167 you kind of , you kind of know . It's 47:17.167 --> 47:19.389 one thing to say it , but actions speak 47:19.389 --> 47:18.840 louder than words . They have to 47:18.840 --> 47:20.951 actually mean it . So if you can tell 47:20.951 --> 47:23.173 it's insincere , I would , um , I would 47:23.173 --> 47:25.229 tread , you know , tread carefully . 47:25.229 --> 47:27.396 However , the individual that actually 47:27.396 --> 47:29.173 sincerely wants and needs to be 47:29.173 --> 47:31.800 rebranded , um , a couple of things . 47:31.879 --> 47:33.990 The larger , more , more formal thing 47:33.990 --> 47:36.212 that the military is great for is PCS , 47:36.212 --> 47:38.046 right ? And I , before you start 47:38.046 --> 47:40.046 rolling your eyes and , and raising 47:40.046 --> 47:42.157 your eyebrows , is if , if the timing 47:42.157 --> 47:44.268 is right , Um , or even a PCA or even 47:44.268 --> 47:46.323 cross section , right ? Um , if he's 47:46.323 --> 47:48.435 coming up on a PCS , he can PCA or he 47:48.435 --> 47:50.323 or she can , uh , get out of this 47:50.323 --> 47:52.490 section , that might be best for him . 47:52.490 --> 47:54.459 Um , the , with the Rangers , uh , 47:54.469 --> 47:56.636 working with the , the Ranger regiment 47:56.636 --> 47:58.636 is exactly , if , if someone just , 47:58.636 --> 48:00.858 they messed up , uh , maybe they got in 48:00.858 --> 48:02.913 trouble off duty , or they're just , 48:02.913 --> 48:05.191 they're not as great as the leadership . 48:05.191 --> 48:04.909 They're not as great as leaders they 48:04.909 --> 48:06.965 need to be . You pull them out . You 48:06.965 --> 48:09.131 relieve them of where they're of their 48:09.131 --> 48:11.298 position . You develop them , and when 48:11.298 --> 48:13.353 they're ready , you insert them back 48:13.353 --> 48:13.280 into the tribe , but maybe they're part 48:13.280 --> 48:15.336 of a different section . So with the 48:15.336 --> 48:17.391 with the Rangers , if someone wasn't 48:17.391 --> 48:19.613 being a good squad leader or maybe they 48:19.613 --> 48:21.836 weren't a great platoon sergeant , they 48:21.836 --> 48:21.649 would , they would pull them out . 48:22.199 --> 48:24.310 They'd give them that feedback . They 48:24.310 --> 48:24.000 develop it , and they put them in a 48:24.000 --> 48:25.833 different company or a different 48:25.833 --> 48:28.056 battalion . So for that specific airman 48:28.056 --> 48:30.111 who's looking to rebrand , great for 48:30.111 --> 48:32.333 that person if he's , if he's sincere , 48:32.333 --> 48:32.159 if she is sincere and she wants to , 48:32.370 --> 48:34.699 you need to rebrand them . Um , so one , 48:34.899 --> 48:37.121 whatever they're doing that got them to 48:37.121 --> 48:39.979 that bad place , they need to stop . To 48:39.979 --> 48:42.146 you as a mentor can mentor them on how 48:42.146 --> 48:44.312 to be better , right ? Like if they're 48:44.312 --> 48:46.423 always late or if their uniform never 48:46.423 --> 48:48.870 uh . If they're , they're just not 48:48.870 --> 48:51.037 meeting standards , you gotta let them 48:51.037 --> 48:50.709 know like , hey , these are the 48:50.709 --> 48:52.765 standards , and adhere to them , and 48:52.765 --> 48:54.931 then you just got to put in the time . 48:54.931 --> 48:54.429 It takes time . It doesn't happen 48:54.429 --> 48:56.485 overnight . It's gonna be an awkward 48:56.485 --> 48:59.729 feeling . Um , so , Getting them to a 48:59.729 --> 49:01.840 good place , fixing whatever that was 49:01.840 --> 49:03.840 wrong , um , and giving them time , 49:03.840 --> 49:05.451 right ? And then giving them 49:05.451 --> 49:08.250 opportunity too . So it's , hey , This 49:08.250 --> 49:10.139 person has a subpar performance . 49:10.250 --> 49:12.250 They're looking to be better . They 49:12.250 --> 49:14.472 don't like the reputation . We're going 49:14.472 --> 49:13.729 to keep them in this office . We're 49:13.729 --> 49:15.785 going to keep this in this section . 49:16.290 --> 49:18.623 We've mentored them on how to be better , 49:18.623 --> 49:18.479 and they're executed . They're moving 49:18.479 --> 49:20.701 out day to day , right ? Then give them 49:20.701 --> 49:22.812 those opportunities like get them out 49:22.812 --> 49:24.812 in front , like let them , let them 49:24.812 --> 49:24.729 lead . Like if it's a young airman , 49:24.929 --> 49:27.040 put them in charge of what airmen can 49:27.040 --> 49:29.262 be responsible for . Make them the lead 49:29.262 --> 49:29.169 and show that you just put them out 49:29.169 --> 49:31.502 there and you can show people that like , 49:31.502 --> 49:33.613 hey , he , they He or she wants to be 49:33.613 --> 49:35.780 better . He or she has developed to be 49:35.780 --> 49:37.891 to be better , and , and he or she is 49:37.891 --> 49:39.947 getting better , and then just , you 49:39.947 --> 49:42.169 just , you just let it keep going . You 49:42.169 --> 49:44.225 just let it ride out and do it . And 49:44.225 --> 49:46.558 eventually , um , what was a reputation , 49:46.558 --> 49:48.669 um , at the present is a reputation a 49:48.669 --> 49:48.239 year ago . They don't think about it no 49:48.239 --> 49:50.350 more , um , and , and people just see 49:50.350 --> 49:52.350 like you actually , people probably 49:52.350 --> 49:54.406 would respect them more because they 49:54.406 --> 49:56.572 bounced back and bettered themselves . 49:56.572 --> 49:59.649 So , um . Identify the problem 50:00.689 --> 50:02.856 Give them mentorship on how to correct 50:02.856 --> 50:04.911 the problem . If you need to or have 50:04.911 --> 50:06.911 the ability to pick them up and put 50:06.911 --> 50:09.022 them somewhere else . If they have to 50:09.022 --> 50:11.078 stay where they got , um , make sure 50:11.078 --> 50:13.245 they're doing what they're supposed to 50:13.245 --> 50:15.467 and just give them time and opportunity 50:15.467 --> 50:17.467 to develop it . That's a little bit 50:17.467 --> 50:16.770 harder one when you have to hold place 50:16.770 --> 50:18.826 and you're walking down the hall and 50:18.826 --> 50:21.103 everyone's giving you the side glances . 50:21.103 --> 50:21.050 It's , it's a tough one to eat for sure , 50:21.159 --> 50:23.326 but yeah , that's what I'd recommend . 50:25.120 --> 50:27.287 And I think we might have time for one 50:27.287 --> 50:29.969 more question , and we have another 50:29.969 --> 50:32.290 question that says , Sir , as a mentor , 50:32.330 --> 50:34.649 what guidance maybe do you have on ways 50:34.649 --> 50:37.810 to increase , improve stress tolerance ? 50:38.129 --> 50:39.851 Repetition and exposure can be 50:39.851 --> 50:41.889 exhausting when one has reached or 50:41.889 --> 50:45.030 exceeds the stress level . That's great . 50:45.189 --> 50:47.133 That's a good question . So , um , 50:47.360 --> 50:49.582 something that I , I like is I , I like 50:49.582 --> 50:51.804 to like be better . I'd like to develop 50:51.804 --> 50:53.804 personally , right , to just , so I 50:53.804 --> 50:53.360 figured out , uh , I do a lot of 50:53.360 --> 50:55.629 research on my own on , uh , on how to 50:55.629 --> 50:57.796 manage stress better . Um , there were 50:57.796 --> 50:59.851 times when I was younger , I'd , you 50:59.851 --> 51:01.962 know , I'd get stressed out , I'd get 51:01.962 --> 51:00.919 anxiety . I'm like , what , you know , 51:01.040 --> 51:03.151 what's the , one , learning what is , 51:03.151 --> 51:05.373 what is happening in my body . Um , 2 , 51:05.373 --> 51:07.318 how do I stop it and then how do I 51:07.318 --> 51:09.373 prevent it , right ? So , um , going 51:09.373 --> 51:11.262 out there and , and finding those 51:11.262 --> 51:13.151 resources . I am not the smartest 51:13.151 --> 51:15.318 person in the room . So what I do is I 51:15.318 --> 51:17.484 find the smartest person in the room . 51:17.484 --> 51:17.199 I find the subject matter expert , 51:17.250 --> 51:19.472 right ? And I , and I go to them , um . 51:20.590 --> 51:22.949 So someone who's not handling stress 51:22.949 --> 51:25.060 well or they need to handle , they're 51:25.060 --> 51:27.060 capped out and they're maxed out on 51:27.060 --> 51:28.838 stress . One , depending on the 51:28.838 --> 51:31.060 situation , you , you gotta , you gotta 51:31.060 --> 51:30.550 get that , you got to get them off that 51:30.550 --> 51:32.709 pedal . Um , if , if they're , if you 51:32.709 --> 51:34.765 can , if you can back them off where 51:34.765 --> 51:36.820 they can relieve their stress , um , 51:36.820 --> 51:38.987 get them away from the . Get them away 51:38.987 --> 51:38.360 from the situation , let them start to 51:38.360 --> 51:40.416 breathe a little bit , um , leverage 51:40.416 --> 51:42.027 the experts . So I talked to 51:42.027 --> 51:43.693 psychiatrists and I talked to 51:43.693 --> 51:45.916 operational psychologists as a mentor , 51:45.916 --> 51:48.027 um , so when I was a flight chief and 51:48.027 --> 51:50.027 now as a as a senior NCO , um , I , 51:50.027 --> 51:52.249 because I have to keep , you know , I , 51:52.249 --> 51:54.527 I know , I know the people I work with . 51:54.527 --> 51:56.582 Um , using , obviously not violating 51:56.582 --> 51:58.804 HIPAA and using discretion . I'll go up 51:58.804 --> 52:00.971 and talk to the psychiatrist and , and 52:00.971 --> 52:00.379 because of the training we received , 52:00.419 --> 52:02.252 and the Air Force gives us great 52:02.252 --> 52:04.419 training annually , um , and sometimes 52:04.419 --> 52:06.308 quarterly about , um , you know , 52:06.308 --> 52:08.475 suicide prevention and awareness . And 52:08.475 --> 52:08.340 that's , it doesn't have to be specific 52:08.340 --> 52:10.570 to suicide and prevention or anything 52:10.570 --> 52:12.903 like that , but , but it's sustain , um , 52:13.060 --> 52:15.393 signs , symptoms , and , and management , 52:15.393 --> 52:17.560 right ? I , I'll go , I'd go up to the 52:17.560 --> 52:19.504 psych and hey , I need you just to 52:19.504 --> 52:21.727 accidentally bump into such and such in 52:21.727 --> 52:20.820 the hallway , and here's what they're 52:20.820 --> 52:23.290 going through , right ? Um , so if 52:23.290 --> 52:25.689 you're able , get them away and out of 52:25.689 --> 52:27.578 the situation that's causing them 52:27.578 --> 52:29.745 stress . Um , if it's something like a 52:29.745 --> 52:31.689 personal life and their finances , 52:31.689 --> 52:33.967 there's , there's different techniques , 52:33.967 --> 52:35.856 and I , you can email me and I go 52:35.856 --> 52:37.967 offline because they're , I have very 52:37.967 --> 52:37.649 specific examples , but there's , 52:37.770 --> 52:39.937 there's , there's some things you have 52:39.937 --> 52:42.103 to do that's associated with them . In 52:42.103 --> 52:43.937 regards to like relieving debt , 52:43.937 --> 52:46.379 dealing with a broken relationship or 52:46.379 --> 52:48.435 like violence in the house , right , 52:48.435 --> 52:50.435 but if someone's capped out and you 52:50.435 --> 52:52.490 need to , you need to get them , you 52:52.490 --> 52:54.768 need to work on their stress tolerance , 52:54.768 --> 52:56.990 is one , get them away from the fire so 52:56.990 --> 52:59.212 they can actually learn and develop and 52:59.212 --> 53:01.268 then give them techniques , leverage 53:01.268 --> 53:03.323 the experts . Um , so find out about 53:03.323 --> 53:03.320 stress management , what causes stress , 53:03.600 --> 53:05.767 um , and just pass it along . And if , 53:05.767 --> 53:07.933 if , um , the other thing about stress 53:07.933 --> 53:10.211 is too , it's kind of like working out . 53:10.211 --> 53:09.340 You got to , you got to get your expose 53:09.340 --> 53:11.507 yourself to it . You've got to get the 53:11.507 --> 53:11.379 reps in , um , you've got to get 53:11.379 --> 53:13.601 comfortable being uncomfortable and you 53:13.601 --> 53:15.657 slowly build tolerance . So the same 53:15.657 --> 53:15.219 situation that caused you a lot of 53:15.219 --> 53:17.441 stress months ago , years ago , isn't , 53:17.860 --> 53:19.749 in the same situation , it's , as 53:19.749 --> 53:21.804 stressful . It is just stress . Um , 53:21.804 --> 53:23.916 stress is good for us . We're , we're 53:23.916 --> 53:23.699 exposed to stress . Stress heightens , 53:23.800 --> 53:25.411 um , certain awarenesses and 53:25.411 --> 53:28.459 alertnesses that , that make us focused 53:28.560 --> 53:30.727 and lethal , right ? So you don't ever 53:30.727 --> 53:32.893 want to just get rid of it . It's kind 53:32.893 --> 53:32.560 of like bacteria . There is good 53:32.560 --> 53:34.671 bacteria , you don't want to just get 53:34.671 --> 53:34.000 rid of it . So you don't want to just 53:34.000 --> 53:36.167 get rid of stress , but you definitely 53:36.167 --> 53:38.389 want to be able to manage stress . So , 53:38.389 --> 53:40.444 um , And if it's immediate dangerous 53:40.444 --> 53:42.667 need , remove them from the situation . 53:42.667 --> 53:44.889 Remove exposure if able . If you're not 53:44.889 --> 53:44.570 able , and also if you're just looking 53:44.570 --> 53:46.737 to help them , leverage your experts . 53:46.737 --> 53:48.848 Talk to , talk to your psychologist , 53:48.848 --> 53:50.848 talk to your psychiatrist , talk to 53:50.848 --> 53:50.449 your operational psychologist , 53:50.649 --> 53:52.760 leverage what you learned through the 53:52.760 --> 53:54.816 Air Force . There's a gentleman that 53:54.816 --> 53:54.610 mentioned the Air Force portal and 53:54.610 --> 53:56.610 stuff like that . There's , there's 53:56.610 --> 53:58.721 still resources on there about stress 53:58.721 --> 54:00.888 management . Yeah , do that for them . 54:06.040 --> 54:07.984 Thank you sir , we appreciate it . 54:08.110 --> 54:09.943 Before we conclude our mentoring 54:09.943 --> 54:12.110 session today , we'd like to encourage 54:12.110 --> 54:14.270 you to look at the chat visit all the 54:14.270 --> 54:17.070 links that we dropped in the chat , and 54:17.070 --> 54:19.439 also we want to hear from you . Please 54:19.439 --> 54:21.780 complete our survey that is also in the 54:21.780 --> 54:24.870 chat . Um , we appreciate Master Chari 54:24.870 --> 54:27.092 Carion for being here today . Thank you 54:27.092 --> 54:29.426 again for your outstanding presentation . 54:29.426 --> 54:31.870 Thank you everyone who joined us for 54:31.870 --> 54:35.340 the department . The Air Force National 54:35.340 --> 54:38.070 Mentoring Month 2026 . We appreciate 54:38.070 --> 54:41.870 your attendance and we wish everybody a 54:41.870 --> 54:44.250 wonderful weekend . 54:46.100 --> 54:48.820 And we will stay online . If anybody 54:48.820 --> 54:51.280 wants to ask um a personal question to 54:51.280 --> 54:53.336 Master Chari Caron and maybe you did 54:53.336 --> 54:55.502 not feel comfortable asking it , we'll 54:55.502 --> 54:57.820 be here online , but for all those um 54:58.100 --> 55:00.267 who have to leave , please have a safe 55:00.267 --> 55:02.979 weekend and thank you again . Thank you 55:02.979 --> 55:06.100 for making this national uh live events 55:06.100 --> 55:09.100 a very , very successful , um , series . 55:09.219 --> 55:11.219 Thank you , thank you , thank you . 57:19.080 --> 57:21.302 Master Sergeant Caron , we'll just give 57:21.302 --> 57:23.302 them a minute or two just to see if 57:23.302 --> 57:25.358 anybody might want to ask a question 57:25.358 --> 57:27.636 before they leave . Absolutely , ma'am . 57:27.636 --> 57:29.913 I appreciate you having me . Thank you , 57:29.913 --> 57:32.024 ma'am . Oh , this was outstanding . I 57:32.024 --> 57:31.979 appreciate you and the time you 57:31.979 --> 57:34.201 volunteered to share your expertise and 57:34.201 --> 57:35.979 insights with all of us today . 57:36.639 --> 57:40.489 Absolutely . And it was a it was a talk . 57:40.600 --> 57:42.156 Thank you , appreciate it . 57:44.629 --> 57:47.270 I heard somebody say something very 57:47.270 --> 57:51.219 softly and lowly . I guess if I put 57:51.219 --> 57:53.441 the microphone down by my mouth I'll be 57:53.441 --> 57:56.100 able to talk , right ? This is Mr . Mr . 57:56.139 --> 57:58.500 Meister . I'm , I'm the mighty mouse up 57:58.500 --> 58:02.439 there , and Juan and and Marisol , 58:02.540 --> 58:04.873 thank you so much . This was an awesome , 58:04.873 --> 58:07.479 awesome grouping of , of 58:07.889 --> 58:11.040 webinars that I'm not sure , I'm not 58:11.040 --> 58:13.020 sure it got the marketing that it 58:13.020 --> 58:16.409 needed because Some of this is really 58:16.409 --> 58:19.770 good . I'm actually an AI and Intel guy , 58:20.090 --> 58:23.209 and I'm actually working on a program 58:23.209 --> 58:25.489 to be able to do the after action 58:25.489 --> 58:29.169 review for transcripts , and I went and 58:29.169 --> 58:32.729 did an AI project with ATC back in 58:32.729 --> 58:35.689 July to work on DT stuff , right , 58:36.530 --> 58:38.929 development team stuff where they're 58:38.929 --> 58:41.096 going through so many applications and 58:41.096 --> 58:43.207 packages that they can't keep up with 58:43.207 --> 58:45.151 it , right ? And Um , so I'm , I'm 58:45.151 --> 58:47.207 trying to AI some things like that , 58:47.207 --> 58:50.030 and , um , once , uh , once I get done 58:50.030 --> 58:52.590 with , uh , or once you , you know , 58:52.790 --> 58:54.957 put the transcript out , I'll go ahead 58:54.957 --> 58:57.123 and put it into my AI and , and , uh , 58:57.123 --> 58:59.179 kick out an executive summary for my 58:59.179 --> 59:01.179 team here locally just to , to give 59:01.179 --> 59:03.290 them an idea about what they missed . 59:03.379 --> 59:05.490 Ha ha ha , not really . Um , you tell 59:05.490 --> 59:07.601 them , tell them , you know , some of 59:07.601 --> 59:09.712 the good things that were said on the 59:09.712 --> 59:09.469 call and some of the great questions 59:09.469 --> 59:11.580 that , that had great answers to it . 59:11.580 --> 59:13.802 So have a great weekend , both of you . 59:14.239 --> 59:16.406 Thank you . I really appreciate that , 59:16.406 --> 59:18.683 and maybe we can connect later , later , 59:18.683 --> 59:20.795 sir , next week and talk a bit if you 59:20.795 --> 59:22.739 don't mind . Yeah , sounds great . 59:22.739 --> 59:25.017 Awesome . OK , I will reach out to you . 59:25.017 --> 59:26.017 Thank you . 59:34.040 --> 59:36.151 And Master Shn Carion , this is going 59:36.151 --> 59:38.484 to be uploaded in the Precipio platform . 59:38.484 --> 59:40.707 I , I believe I shared that with you as 59:40.707 --> 59:41.873 well . Yes , ma'am . 59:47.620 --> 59:49.790 OK , we have Master Sergeant Winston . 59:55.729 --> 59:57.729 Now , do you have an audience where 59:57.729 --> 59:59.785 you're at Asahari Kaion ? I know you 59:59.785 --> 01:00:02.007 said you were going to be at a podium . 01:00:02.007 --> 01:00:03.951 Oh no , I , I ended up working out 01:00:03.951 --> 01:00:06.173 where I'm in the conference room . Uh , 01:00:06.173 --> 01:00:07.951 no , most of the guys that were 01:00:07.951 --> 01:00:07.560 interested , I think they dialed and 01:00:07.560 --> 01:00:09.616 they were aware I was on team , so , 01:00:09.719 --> 01:00:12.219 you know . They want , did they want an 01:00:12.219 --> 01:00:15.659 in-person ? They're actually , yeah , I 01:00:15.659 --> 01:00:17.770 think they were just working on stuff 01:00:17.770 --> 01:00:19.992 as they were listening , yeah , they're 01:00:19.992 --> 01:00:22.439 doing it at their desk . It would be 01:00:22.439 --> 01:00:24.772 great if we could do a repeat in person . 01:00:25.149 --> 01:00:27.205 Yeah , it , you know , let me know . 01:00:27.389 --> 01:00:30.350 You know , no pressure . No , I don't , 01:00:30.469 --> 01:00:32.691 you know , I don't like I said when you 01:00:32.691 --> 01:00:34.913 first invited me and it was supposed to 01:00:34.913 --> 01:00:37.136 be in person , I said I absolutely said 01:00:37.136 --> 01:00:36.560 yes because it was going to be 01:00:36.560 --> 01:00:38.671 uncomfortable , you know , you've got 01:00:38.671 --> 01:00:38.350 to , like I said , you've got to get 01:00:38.350 --> 01:00:40.572 comfortable being uncomfortable and the 01:00:40.572 --> 01:00:42.461 only way to do that is exposure , 01:00:42.461 --> 01:00:41.870 getting out there . So I was like , 01:00:41.949 --> 01:00:44.060 well , like the only way to learn how 01:00:44.060 --> 01:00:46.338 to swim is get in the water , you know , 01:00:46.338 --> 01:00:48.449 so . I I don't mind getting the rep . 01:00:48.959 --> 01:00:52.949 Very true . And then Staff 01:00:52.949 --> 01:00:54.949 Sergeant Shear , perfect . I didn't 01:00:54.949 --> 01:00:57.116 know if you wanted a question . Yeah , 01:00:57.116 --> 01:00:59.171 but ma'am , I , I , I appreciate you 01:00:59.171 --> 01:01:01.393 inviting me . I was , I was happy to do 01:01:01.393 --> 01:01:03.560 this . Please feel free to give me any 01:01:03.560 --> 01:01:05.671 feedback . We , we eat our own and we 01:01:05.671 --> 01:01:07.727 have thick skin , so you won't , you 01:01:07.727 --> 01:01:07.469 won't hurt my feelings . Anything you 01:01:07.469 --> 01:01:09.691 got for me , um , you know , I'll stand 01:01:09.691 --> 01:01:11.747 by for you . You don't tell me right 01:01:11.747 --> 01:01:11.030 now , but if you got anything you think 01:01:11.030 --> 01:01:13.197 of , please feel free to let me know . 01:01:13.197 --> 01:01:15.550 Well , I , I , you know , I asked a 01:01:15.550 --> 01:01:17.949 question and , and that talked about 01:01:17.949 --> 01:01:19.782 what was the most meaningful and 01:01:19.782 --> 01:01:21.969 rewarding . Um , part of mentoring for 01:01:21.969 --> 01:01:24.409 you , and I thought , oh my goodness , 01:01:24.489 --> 01:01:26.649 I hope I didn't cause , like , I know 01:01:26.649 --> 01:01:28.871 you were pausing , you know , like in a 01:01:28.871 --> 01:01:31.649 real emotional trigger or something , 01:01:31.770 --> 01:01:33.714 you know , that I was a little bit 01:01:33.714 --> 01:01:35.826 worried about that . No , it's a good 01:01:35.826 --> 01:01:37.881 thing . We learned that dealing with 01:01:37.881 --> 01:01:39.992 our emotions , dealing with sometimes 01:01:39.992 --> 01:01:39.959 the best therapy is getting It outright . 01:01:41.050 --> 01:01:43.439 Uh , so it dissipates it . So I , I 01:01:43.439 --> 01:01:45.495 need to work on that . Like I said , 01:01:45.495 --> 01:01:47.439 I'm not an emotional person in the 01:01:47.439 --> 01:01:49.661 sense of like overly emotional . Like I 01:01:49.661 --> 01:01:48.840 can definitely keep my emotions in 01:01:48.840 --> 01:01:51.840 check . Uh , but sometimes things do 01:01:51.840 --> 01:01:53.896 make , make me emotional . So , uh , 01:01:54.000 --> 01:01:56.222 yeah , when I , when I just think about 01:01:56.222 --> 01:01:58.333 my little brothers and taking care of 01:01:58.333 --> 01:02:00.500 them , there's a , there's a , there's 01:02:00.500 --> 01:02:02.667 a love there . So it just , it made me 01:02:02.667 --> 01:02:05.199 remember my last team and man , I love 01:02:05.199 --> 01:02:07.310 those kids and They love me back . So 01:02:07.310 --> 01:02:09.588 that's , that's all it was nothing bad . 01:02:09.588 --> 01:02:09.479 You didn't , you didn't trigger 01:02:09.479 --> 01:02:11.701 anything that didn't , that didn't need 01:02:11.701 --> 01:02:13.701 to be , you know , it's OK . Yeah , 01:02:13.701 --> 01:02:15.868 yeah , it's good , guys , guys want me 01:02:15.868 --> 01:02:18.035 to stop crying every once in a while , 01:02:18.035 --> 01:02:17.719 so they're just like , dude , just get 01:02:17.719 --> 01:02:21.449 it out . No , I think it was excellent , 01:02:21.510 --> 01:02:23.510 you know , we met yesterday when we 01:02:23.510 --> 01:02:25.370 went over the presentation and I 01:02:25.370 --> 01:02:27.370 remember I was like , gosh , I just 01:02:27.370 --> 01:02:29.426 don't see the mentoring , you know , 01:02:29.426 --> 01:02:31.314 highlight , and I think you did a 01:02:31.314 --> 01:02:33.426 fabulous job and , you know , just go 01:02:33.426 --> 01:02:35.689 ahead and injecting all those mentoring 01:02:35.689 --> 01:02:39.209 points , the resources , you know , the 01:02:39.209 --> 01:02:41.265 professional development , the human 01:02:41.265 --> 01:02:43.542 performance , the psychology . Ecology , 01:02:43.542 --> 01:02:45.895 and so , and a lot of people also um 01:02:45.895 --> 01:02:48.117 that trigger for a lot of people to put 01:02:48.117 --> 01:02:50.284 it in the chat , all these resources , 01:02:50.284 --> 01:02:52.339 so that's great , you know , to have 01:02:52.339 --> 01:02:54.562 that library of resources for mentoring 01:02:54.562 --> 01:02:56.976 and I mean it was great cause I , you 01:02:56.976 --> 01:02:58.976 did , you , like every slide I felt 01:02:58.976 --> 01:03:01.087 like you were talking about mentoring 01:03:01.087 --> 01:03:03.309 and it was really high , the mentorship 01:03:03.309 --> 01:03:05.476 was highlighted really well , so thank 01:03:05.476 --> 01:03:07.698 you for that . I appreciate it . I hope 01:03:07.698 --> 01:03:07.622 so , man . When I received the 01:03:07.622 --> 01:03:09.733 questions , I felt I was a little mad 01:03:09.733 --> 01:03:11.844 at myself because I was like , I feel 01:03:11.844 --> 01:03:13.844 like those were the things I should 01:03:13.844 --> 01:03:16.011 have been talking about . Um , so when 01:03:16.011 --> 01:03:17.733 I do , do , when I do find the 01:03:17.733 --> 01:03:19.733 transcript , I'll , I'll definitely 01:03:19.733 --> 01:03:21.900 look at those questions because I feel 01:03:21.900 --> 01:03:23.844 like I missed the mark for you and 01:03:23.844 --> 01:03:23.582 those , those are , man , those are 01:03:23.582 --> 01:03:25.638 great questions . I was like , man , 01:03:25.638 --> 01:03:27.860 that's , I feel like I should have been 01:03:27.860 --> 01:03:29.971 focused on those . I don't know . You 01:03:29.971 --> 01:03:32.082 did a great job . Um , one of the , I 01:03:32.082 --> 01:03:31.639 mean , because I felt like you did 01:03:31.639 --> 01:03:33.861 answer the question because I even took 01:03:33.861 --> 01:03:35.806 notes , um , especially that one , 01:03:35.806 --> 01:03:37.695 there was a real , I felt maybe a 01:03:37.695 --> 01:03:39.806 sensitive question where somebody was 01:03:39.806 --> 01:03:41.806 like , well , what if you had , you 01:03:41.806 --> 01:03:43.806 know , poor , low performance , you 01:03:43.806 --> 01:03:45.861 know , how do , how do you rebuild , 01:03:45.861 --> 01:03:48.083 rebuild the trust and credibility , and 01:03:48.083 --> 01:03:50.361 I love how you said rebranding . Right , 01:03:50.361 --> 01:03:52.583 you're gonna have to rebrand yourself , 01:03:52.583 --> 01:03:54.583 so , no , no , that was great , and 01:03:54.583 --> 01:03:56.583 somebody asked you , how do I get a 01:03:56.583 --> 01:03:58.695 good mentor , what do I look for in a 01:03:58.695 --> 01:04:00.806 good mentor , and , and you were just 01:04:00.806 --> 01:04:02.972 genuine and honest about find somebody 01:04:02.972 --> 01:04:05.306 you admire , you don't have to like him , 01:04:05.306 --> 01:04:07.417 right , as long as he has credibility 01:04:07.417 --> 01:04:09.583 or it's somebody you want to emulate , 01:04:09.583 --> 01:04:11.639 so , no , I feel like everything you 01:04:11.639 --> 01:04:13.806 answer was spot on . Yeah , I just , I 01:04:13.806 --> 01:04:15.972 wish I was thinking of those questions 01:04:15.972 --> 01:04:15.189 first , and , and I feel like those 01:04:15.189 --> 01:04:17.022 were the questions I should have 01:04:17.022 --> 01:04:19.078 incorporated in my slide . So I just 01:04:19.078 --> 01:04:18.989 feel that that they had to ask because 01:04:18.989 --> 01:04:21.100 it's like , uh , if they had to ask , 01:04:21.100 --> 01:04:23.322 that means I didn't answer it somewhere 01:04:23.322 --> 01:04:22.709 else , and those are definitely things 01:04:22.709 --> 01:04:24.709 I should have been answering in the 01:04:24.709 --> 01:04:26.653 slides . But yeah , no , they were 01:04:26.653 --> 01:04:28.876 great questions for sure . Well , if we 01:04:28.876 --> 01:04:32.399 have the 2 . 2.0 version , we can make 01:04:32.399 --> 01:04:34.560 sure , you know , you you ask those , 01:04:34.760 --> 01:04:36.760 but I'm sure there's gonna be other 01:04:36.760 --> 01:04:38.982 questions because it seemed like people 01:04:38.982 --> 01:04:41.149 really wanted to , you know , interact 01:04:41.149 --> 01:04:43.149 and it's sometimes , you know , you 01:04:43.149 --> 01:04:42.679 just think about a question , you're 01:04:42.679 --> 01:04:44.512 like , oh , you know , that just 01:04:44.512 --> 01:04:46.179 triggered this question or it 01:04:46.179 --> 01:04:48.346 stimulated this thought , but no , I'm 01:04:48.346 --> 01:04:50.512 really hoping that we could do maybe a 01:04:50.512 --> 01:04:52.512 2.0 , and then you can , you know , 01:04:52.639 --> 01:04:54.806 take the questions like you said , and 01:04:55.030 --> 01:04:57.197 Absolutely . Let's see , let's see how 01:04:57.197 --> 01:04:59.419 the 2.0 . Yeah , yeah , if you , if you 01:04:59.419 --> 01:05:01.586 invite me back , I , I'd be happy to , 01:05:01.586 --> 01:05:03.641 I'd be happy to come back , um , and 01:05:03.641 --> 01:05:05.752 I'll do exactly that . Like those are 01:05:05.752 --> 01:05:07.863 great questions . They helped me cage 01:05:07.863 --> 01:05:09.808 where the , like where I should be 01:05:09.808 --> 01:05:11.808 driving to . Um , so I'm definitely 01:05:11.808 --> 01:05:11.590 gonna write those down and , and if , 01:05:11.669 --> 01:05:13.947 if like I said , if you invite me back , 01:05:13.947 --> 01:05:16.058 I'll change your brief and I'll still 01:05:16.058 --> 01:05:15.750 incorporate the , the ethos and the 01:05:15.750 --> 01:05:17.861 mindset , but I'll be more focused on 01:05:17.861 --> 01:05:19.806 mentorship and and those questions 01:05:19.806 --> 01:05:21.972 because , and they might lead to other 01:05:21.972 --> 01:05:21.590 questions . So no , that was great . 01:05:21.659 --> 01:05:23.826 Thank you , ma'am . Yeah , and I think 01:05:23.826 --> 01:05:26.048 I do want to bring you back because you 01:05:26.048 --> 01:05:28.280 had over 100 and something people 01:05:28.280 --> 01:05:30.969 registered for your session , and I 01:05:30.969 --> 01:05:33.191 noticed that it was like half , which I 01:05:33.191 --> 01:05:36.850 was kind of surprised because um I 01:05:36.850 --> 01:05:39.183 thought like , wait a minute , you know , 01:05:39.183 --> 01:05:41.406 he had over 100 , maybe it's because of 01:05:41.406 --> 01:05:43.628 what's happening the weekend , Friday , 01:05:43.628 --> 01:05:45.739 and so I thought , well , maybe if we 01:05:45.739 --> 01:05:48.017 have it on a different day of the week . 01:05:48.017 --> 01:05:50.239 Yes , ma'am . And then that cause I , I 01:05:50.239 --> 01:05:52.406 feel like maybe a lot of people wanted 01:05:52.406 --> 01:05:54.572 to attend . Everybody who registered , 01:05:54.572 --> 01:05:56.628 they weren't able to attend for some 01:05:56.628 --> 01:05:58.969 reason on a Friday . So if um I would 01:05:58.969 --> 01:06:01.080 like to do this again and then we can 01:06:01.080 --> 01:06:03.025 plan like having it on another day 01:06:03.025 --> 01:06:05.191 except Monday or Friday . Absolutely , 01:06:05.191 --> 01:06:07.358 that's a great idea . Yes , ma'am . If 01:06:07.358 --> 01:06:09.525 you think of anything else , feel free 01:06:09.525 --> 01:06:11.691 to let me know . OK , yes , and then , 01:06:11.691 --> 01:06:13.636 uh , thank us that Colonel Lopez ? 01:06:15.909 --> 01:06:17.798 Yes , well , he wasn't on until I 01:06:17.798 --> 01:06:20.159 missed him . They're , they're doing , 01:06:20.169 --> 01:06:22.336 yeah , they're doing a lot right now . 01:06:22.336 --> 01:06:22.310 They're , they've been in meeting after 01:06:22.310 --> 01:06:24.310 meeting sorting , sorting some some 01:06:24.310 --> 01:06:27.590 training operations . Yeah , yeah . Yes , 01:06:27.629 --> 01:06:29.919 I can imagine . But you have a great 01:06:29.919 --> 01:06:32.141 weekend , man . Let me know if you need 01:06:32.141 --> 01:06:34.030 anything else . Thank you for the 01:06:34.030 --> 01:06:33.919 opportunity . OK , thank you . Thank 01:06:33.919 --> 01:06:36.141 you for this outstanding presentation . 01:06:36.141 --> 01:06:38.363 We'll , we'll keep in touch . I'm gonna 01:06:38.363 --> 01:06:40.697 be reaching out to you soon . All right , 01:06:40.697 --> 01:06:40.290 bye bye .