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- To do suicide prevention well,

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we have to do more than just stop people from dying.

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We also have to make life worth living.

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And a lot of them signed up for a life worth living.

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And a lot of people come into the
Marine Corps to join a family, right?

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Can't just be a talking point.

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We have to live it.

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And we might not always like each other, 
but we gotta love each other.

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- It's not fraternization to care.

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And we think we're so busy. Yes, we're busy.

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Yes, you're gonna put in some extra hours

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if I take this hour to ask you how you're doing

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and really care about how you're doing.

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We're all busy. Make the time.

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- How do you know your Marines, right?

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How?

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I'm talking about where you come from.

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What was the family structure 
where you actually come from?

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What was the...

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Were you one of those kids that had to

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raise your brothers and sisters and it was all on you?

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Like, do we know these things about people?

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And I can go down the line on all those things right there.

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- Don't wait until your Sailor or Marine has a crisis

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and all of a sudden we're jumping 
through hoops to take care of them.

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You can imagine, most young people coming in

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don't have good relationship skills.

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Well what's the primary reason 
most of our Marines and Sailors

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are dying by suicide?

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The primary stressor is a failed relationship.

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So why are we not teaching those skills?

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And we say, oh, we don't have time for all these trainings.

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Do we have time for a death and a memorial?

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Do we have time to deal with a 
sexual assault after the event?

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Do we have time to deal with
this domestic violence incident?

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Invest in giving those people skills.

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- That I genuinely care and want to know.

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And then we take it from there

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and hopefully give a foxtrot about each other.

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It can't just be a talking point.

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It can't just be a talking point, 
you have to care for each other.