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- I think a lot of the things that keep

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people from going to seek help are,

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you know, the fear that I'm going to
actually have to address this

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and, you know, it's someone else.

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If I feel like I have done something wrong

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and I can't seem to get past that.

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It's not being acknowledged, you're not being addressed,

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you're not being righted, or there's no closure.

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You know, I could go into

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a very difficult place.

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Moral injury is really a sense of betraying what is right.

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I have somehow betrayed

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a moral code.

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I have just...I have seen this so many times, though,

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where someone finally finds the courage

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to knock on my door, right?

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Maybe you're a leader or you're

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a Marine or a Sailor and you 
see someone who's struggling.

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How do you broach it, the difficult topic?

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This is where good leadership just says,

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hey let's go have coffee,

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let's go have lunch.

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That's a much better way

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to elicit from the individual

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what's going on.

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And in that, as that individual starts to share,

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don't provide any solutions.

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Simply, empathically, listen.

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I would say, it almost always go better than you think.

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If you are

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wrestling with a traumatic event,

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that's a signal that you actually want to talk about it.

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Your humanity is wanting

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to share this with somebody to get help.

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If there's not a chaplain, it could be a friend

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or a mental health provider.

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But I would say to you, if the thoughts are there,

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that should be an invitation to you to go talk to somebody.