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Good afternoon . Welcome . I have

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two fabulous guest speakers today . The

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first I would like to bring to you is

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dr Tony carol Evans dr Tony carol

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Evans focuses on new training

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initiatives and special projects for

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the Maryland network against domestic

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violence . She has trained military

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advocates at international conference

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on working with L . G . B . T . Q .

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Plus population and Professional ethics .

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Prior to working with the Maryland

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Network against Domestic Violence . She

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was the training and outreach

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specialist and division manager for the

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Maryland Coalition against Sexual

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Assault and the follow up progress

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specialists and Safe and Safe help

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line Manager for the Department of

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Defense , the D . O . D . Safe Help

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line . She was also a planning board

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member for Tamar trauma abuse , mental

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health and recovery , a program

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designed to help incarcerated women

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successfully transition back to the

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community . Dr Evans received her

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PhD from Northwestern University and

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both her M . A . And B . A . From the

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University of Maryland College Park .

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Thank you . Yes . Yeah

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that was

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so until I can take the south welling

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up here . The first question I wanted

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to ask is I wanted to find out what do

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you think vicarious trauma is because

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we're talking about vicarious trauma

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and self care today . So when you hear

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the words vicarious trauma , what do

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you think ? What's the first thing that

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comes to your mind ? Yeah , like in

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behavior health we listen to everyone's

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worst day every day . Like that's our

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job , everybody's worst day every day

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and you get to hear all of it . Yeah

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and so think about that . Yeah . Think

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about it as kind of like the emotional

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residue that's left and that's left

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with those individuals that are left

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who have or listening , who are kind of

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the secondary , you know , listening to

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these stories right here . Yeah , I

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like the idea that emotional residue .

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Uh one of the things I always say is we

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have to learn to be rocks and not

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sponges um what were stunned as we take

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everything in and it just kind of

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weighs us down and you can't really

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function what we hear changes us just

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like over time , Iraq will eventually

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erode with the water that pours over it ,

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but everything that happens to us

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changes us . So being Iraq and having a

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little bit changes at a time is fine

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being that sponge and absorbing it is

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the problem . So today we're gonna talk

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about vicarious trauma and a little bit

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more depth . And then I'm gonna talk

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about how do we mitigate that and try

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to avoid it . So , the

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definition that we get for uh the

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office victims of crimes that it's an

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occupational challenge for people

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working in the voluntary , in the

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fields of victim services , law

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enforcement , emergency medical

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services , fire services and other

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allied professions due to their

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continuous exposure to victims of

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trauma and violence , basically what

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you said , that's exactly it . So we

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can go on . But here's the thing , I'm

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curious , trauma isn't just one thing

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that's a couple of different things and

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I break it down into a couple of

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different parts , secondary

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traumatization , which is the natural

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behaviors that result from knowing

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about a traumatizing event . So when

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you're hearing about all these things ,

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it's experienced by another and the

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stress that results from helping or

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wanting to help . And this is where

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your symptoms start to mimic , like

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PTSD right ? This is secondary

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traumatization . And so this is when we

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start to take on a lot of the symptoms

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that somebody who has actually

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experienced the trauma has had . So

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what might some of those symptoms be ?

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Mhm . Body pains , operation ,

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what depression , anxiety ,

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anxiety , sleep or the lack

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thereof . It can go both ways , Right ,

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avoidance . So , you've always shopped

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at Safeway , you're suddenly working

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with somebody who was assaulted at

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Safeway and all of a sudden you start

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shopping at Giant . It's one thing for

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the person to be having a voice , but

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now you're having avoidance . Here's a

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real clear cut case of secondary

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traumatization . When you're dreaming

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about one of your survivors stories ,

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you are in severe secondary

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traumatization . When you have put

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yourself into their story , this is

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where you have landed , okay , you are

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actually starting to experience parts

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of their trauma within your own body ,

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right ? This is very

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different from compassion fatigue ,

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compassion fatigue is a combination of

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physical emotional and spiritual

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depletion , Okay , associated with

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caring for others who are in

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significant emotional pain or stress .

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Right ? So what do I mean by this ?

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Well , I think of compassion fatigue .

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It's when you are meeting with somebody ,

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but you've checked out , right ?

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They're telling you all about their

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problems , but you're not feeling

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depression or anxiety or really much of

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anything at all . You are just kind of

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going through the motions . If you're

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meeting with a client and you are

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actually doing your shopping list in

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your head , I gotta get bananas and get

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great , that's get milk . Oh , I gotta

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stop with the laundry and pick up the

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suit . I got it . Oh no , my uniforms

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gotta be clean . Oh no , we've got a

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dress tomorrow . Oh no , you're in

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compassion fatigue , right ? That is

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very different from secondary

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traumatization , right ? The symptoms

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are very different . So it's important

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to recognize where you're at because

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both of them put you into a place that

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you can be , you know , feeling

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ineffective , right ? And this is why

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this is when you get to that point

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where you literally are just like , I

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can't do this anymore . So here we go ,

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secondary traumatization . These are

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the things that we're talking about

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avoidance . Hypervigilance in a missy

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issues , irritability and I'm not

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talking irritability . Like somebody

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cut you off on the parkway . We all

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know it happens and yet , you know ,

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gave them a significant gesture . My

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mother always told me to blow kisses .

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It really annoys people . She was a

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sweet , tiny little irish woman and

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somebody would cut her off and she was

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just like , it is amazing how it just

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really will annoy somebody , right ?

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That's not what I'm talking about with

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irritability . I'm talking about ,

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somebody cuts you off in traffic and

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you follow them to the next door , you

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get out of your car and you start

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screaming . That's what I'm talking

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about about irritability . Um re

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experiencing the trauma again . That's

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having dreams . That's having those

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moments where you're suddenly find

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yourself daydreaming about something

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that didn't happen to you . The hyper

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vigilance when you're suddenly checking

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your locks three and four times , right ?

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The avoidance . Like I talked about the

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safeway And withdrawal . So if every

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Tuesday night , well remember these

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days I just want you to go back , would

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you go back with me ? Take a little

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journey back to February 2020 Tuesday

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nights the game would get together and

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they all go out to casa margherita and

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have a drink after work on Tuesday . I

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remember those days , good times and

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you don't go out , right and you just ,

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this was just your Tuesday . I think

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you'd have , you'd have a happy hour ,

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you'd have some nachos , you'd have

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some dip and then you go home ,

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everything was great and all of a

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sudden you stop skipping past a

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margarita night , but you're stopping

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on your way home and you're buying a

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bottle of tequila on the stat , okay ,

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secondary traumatization , right ,

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compassion , fatigue , constant

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exhaustion . Just that it does not

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matter . You can't wake up Starbucks

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does not make a septa coffee shot

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enough that can get you through the day .

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You're easily squirrel . I mean , it's

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just it does not matter what . You

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cannot focus . You can't focus like

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nothing . You know , and you're not

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doing good at home , You're not doing

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good at work . Everything . You just

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cannot focus . You lose the ability to

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empathize all of a sudden . You have

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always been the person because , let's

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face it , none of us got into this work

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for the money . If you got into this

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work for the money , raise your hand

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because if you do , I've got some

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fabulous slop land , I'd like to sell

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you right ? Nobody gets into this work

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for the money . We do it because we're

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compassionate , empathetic people that

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want to make a difference , right ? And

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when you lose that ability to empathize ,

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you have lost a key portion , not just

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of what we need to do the job , but a

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portion of who you are as a human being ,

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right ? Isolation .

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Again , this is when it's just your

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closing off , you're pregnant . You're

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you're not doing pass a margarita .

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You're you're not talking to the people ,

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maybe even that you live with . You

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know , maybe you go home . You always

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watch , you know , you have your shows

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you watch on Wednesday nights and all

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of a sudden , like now , I'm just gonna

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go upstairs and go to bed . All right .

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I'm not gonna watch , I'm not gonna

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watch . I'm not gonna go ? You know ,

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I'm not gonna stay up and watch my

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shows . I'm just going to go upstairs

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and go to bed . But then you go

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upstairs and go to bed . You maybe

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sleeping , but you're not sleeping

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well . This is why you're constantly

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exhausted because you're constantly

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being woken up . You've known us to the

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point where just nothing surprises you

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anymore . Or if it did , you just

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ceased to care . You just don't care

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anymore . It's the point where you turn

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on the television set and it's hard ,

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it's hard , especially given the

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pandemic , right ? It's hard to turn on

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the television set and still care

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sometimes , right ? Because we're

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overloaded were inundated for those of

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us who are at a certain age . We

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remember before we got news every two

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seconds , right ? When you got news at

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five o'clock and 10 o'clock . And now

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is it ? I'm from the midwest , so it's

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five o'clock , 10 o'clock here with six

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o'clock , 11 o'clock . I know what you

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west coast people got here . It is . I

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don't know what for , but you got your

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news twice a day . That was it . So you

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have to wait . I mean if they broke

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in , you knew

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something went down , right . Like it

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was big like , you know , and it's like

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all of these things we all have

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generations have things that where were

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you when you know , my older siblings

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generation is where were you And

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Kennedy was shot . Okay . My

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generation . It was where were you when

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the hostages were released ? And where

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were you when the challenger blew up ?

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Right . Uh huh . My son's

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generation 9 11 ,

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2001 I saw was in kindergarten This

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generation . Where were you on March 16 ,

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in the world shut down . Right . So we

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all have those . Where were you ? And

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but now it's constant . It's not that

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somebody has to break in . You got to

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try to find a station that's not

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talking about it . Right ? And take

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it's hard like you turn on your sports

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stations , they're talking about it .

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Why ? Because for a year we don't have

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any sports . So what are they going to

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talk about ESPN still existing . I mean

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they like go have their staff because

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there was nobody to cover . There's

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nothing to cover . What are you gonna

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do ? But there's there's nothing there .

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Right ? And we get this constantly . So

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now when you have an event happened

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like an earthquake or a hurricane .

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Whereas before you would have this

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automatic feeling of empathy . An issue

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like another natural disaster ,

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whatever . Delta , whatever lambda home .

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A beer . I don't care . Whatever . It

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doesn't it doesn't it doesn't matter

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anymore , right ? You just got this

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notice and this pessimistic worldview .

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That's why it doesn't matter because it

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all just sucks Murphy Murphy Murphy's

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law , right ? You just wake up in the

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morning and you know , it's gonna be a

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Murphy's law because it's just like it

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was yesterday , which is just like it

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was the day before . It was just like

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it was before that when you get into

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this pattern and the pandemic has not

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made our lives any easier . This is why

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we have to take the time to break this

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cycle because we can we have the

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absolute ability to break this cycle .

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This knowing about it is the first step .

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Because if you don't take care of it ,

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this is what happens . Yeah .

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Is there any costs over ? Oh yeah , you

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can have compassion fatigue and

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secondary traumatization . I mean , and

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that's where you start to go really

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like because you normally over

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empathize so now , but now you're

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withdrawing . So you may find that

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there's one client that you're putting

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all your energy into to the detriment

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of every other client because you're

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you're having to give you only have so

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much reserves , right ? So you're like

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pouring all your fuel there and by the

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time these other clients get and you're

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like , yeah , not sorry . You said all

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up . Maybe you should make the eight

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o'clock appointment next time . Don't

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come into me at 3 30 in the afternoon

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and expect you're going to get my best ,

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right ? And that's that's what we can

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rape . We can break that cycle though

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because otherwise we wind up and burn

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out turnout is the result of vicarious

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trauma of secondary traumatization and

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compassion fatigue . They both lead to

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it . It comes from chronic

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interpersonal stressors and it leads to

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a complete lack of efficacy . If we are

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burned out , we cannot do our jobs

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period . And a statement can't do it ,

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can't do your work for . You burned out .

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You cannot serve from an empty plate .

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You cannot pour from an empty cup

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period . You just can't . So you have

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to avoid this . And this all

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comes on top of the fact that we have

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to deal with systemic oppression .

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We've got vicarious trauma , but we

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live in a society that's filled on

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oppressive systems . So we have polly

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victimization . We've got people who

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are dealing with oppressive systems

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that are all around the breakdown

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marginalized peoples . We've got that

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going on . We've got Covid going on .

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We've got the trauma of intimate

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partner violence , sexual violence .

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We've got hurricanes and earthquakes .

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We've got and now we're dealing with

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specifically for people that you work

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with from Afghanistan , which is just

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causing so much trauma . Right ? So

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much trauma . And here's what's the

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rule about news stories worse than the

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news stories worse than watching the

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news stories or reading the news

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stories . What should you never do ?

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Read the comments , don't read the

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comments because the news stories are

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at least somewhat curated . Like you

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can be like , okay , I'm not gonna read

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a news story from those folks because I

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know that that's just gonna make me

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angry . But anybody can write a comment .

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Don't read the comments . It's just

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remind yourself you do nothing else .

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Put a post it note on you don't read

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comments . It never leads to anything

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but pain because we're all dealing with

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all of this . So

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I have no idea whether this is going to

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play . My guess is now we're going to

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try that . Yeah , I'm not sure .

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Uh huh . Mhm . No , it's not going to

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play . That's not gonna play there .

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All right . So we're just gonna we're

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just gonna go forward and we're going

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to talk about thinking

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about the thing . So , um and I'm not

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asking you to out yourselves here , but

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I want you to think about the signs of

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vicarious trauma . Whether it be

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secondary traumatization or compassion

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fatigue that you may be experiencing .

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I want you to think about recognizing

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some of these things in yourself ,

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these anxiety issues or in people that

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you work with . Okay , I just want to

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take a minute and think about that .

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Think about those sides . Have you seen

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them in yourselves ? Have you seen them

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in the people you work with ? And again ,

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not asking about yourself and raise

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your hand be like , yes , I am 1379 and

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14 . But here's the thing to think

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about how can you offer support to

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somebody else that you see having these

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signs because having somebody

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offered their support . Having somebody

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tell you . Yeah . Hey ,

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just having a rough day . That's what

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you know , I'm here for you . Yeah , I

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just want you to know that if you need

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to talk , I'm here not compression and

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the same thing . But yeah , it feels a

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little bit like a sponge day instead of

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a rock day . Right ? Think about ways

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and you've probably already done that

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because you're compassionate ,

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empathetic people . That's why you're

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here . So think about the ways that you

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have already done this and then think

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about also applying all of that to

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yourself because we have to be good to

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ourselves . We're going to be good to

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anybody else . Okay . And in order to

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do that , we have to break the cycle .

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We have to go and actually

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decide that we are going to do

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something to take care of ourselves

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instead of just taking care of

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everybody else . Don't shake your head

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at me . Yes , you are .

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You shake your head , take care of what

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you take care of all . That was an

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involuntary shaking your head . No ,

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she's like over here , you know ,

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you've got to take care of you got to

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take care of yourself and take care of

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everybody else . So I am going to turn

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it over to Sherry to introduce our

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second speaker who is going to talk to

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you now , I got to give you the bad

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news . She gets to give you the

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goodness she's going to tell you that

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all of this can be fixed . Yeah ,

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yeah , yes Tony , thank you ,

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thank you for great brief , recognize

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and I recognize some of those things .

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Um and I'll out myself procrastination ,

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my biggest thing . So yeah .

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Um so I bring to you the stage um dr

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Tony c phillips , honda ,

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Tony and tom you've got the key and

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trisha , I bring to you Tanya

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C phillips and for many of you are you

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already know her uh for those of you

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all that do not . She has a licensed

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clinical social worker and a licensed

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clinical alcohol and drug counselor

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with specialty area in substance use

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disorder , trauma and organizational

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employee work . Life balance her

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clinical work and research is focused

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on clinical intervention and employee

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well being from an organizational

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context dr phillips currently works at

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the Department of Defense providing

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clinical intervention and support to

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workforce in sensitive positions . In

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addition , she also works within the

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community providing mental health

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consultation and professional

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continuing education as and has

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developed training curriculum and

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training to host to a host of

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organizations dr Philip completed her

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undergraduate and co terminal master's

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degree in social work at University of

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Maryland and her doctor work at morgan

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State University . Welcome !

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Hey family , I'm excited to be

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home . Thank you all for allowing me

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here . I am coming right into our

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reality right , I don't know about you

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all but I think it was march of 2021

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day , I was right here seated across

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the street working and we got the call

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that everything needed to shut down .

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All right , go home . We don't think of

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this out . That was probably the most

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taxing uncertain fear based

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reality because for the first time in

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my professional life I was experiencing

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the very same things that the people

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that I was treating with expense ,

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uncertainty , fear . Where the Children

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gonna go to school ? What do you mean

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they got to come home like all types of

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chaos was going on . What I learned

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about me in that time frame was that I

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do a really poor job , taking care of

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myself . I do a really poor job . So

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our reality when we talk about self

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care and the type of work that we do ,

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we are essential . We are tired .

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We are mandated . I don't know about

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you all , but I got that notification

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from the colonel to say you are in the

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central employees . See tomorrow . Um

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That was a surprise . And at the same

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time with all of our subject matter

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expertise and all of our knowledge and

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all of our information . We are human .

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So how do we maintain all of our roles ?

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Mom , Professor dr whatever , whatever ,

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whatever , whatever , whatever etcetera .

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How do we maintain all of those roles

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requirements , responsibilities and

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maintain how insanity . And when I'm

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talking about sanity , I'm talking

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about these these symptoms that we just

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looked at that . We know they are not

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indicators that you are poor provider

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or indicators that you're not doing

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your job . Well , when you should go

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back to school ? They are indicators of

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these things right ? Here ? We are

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tired and we are human . I want to

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spend a little time just to talk about

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what I call the doctor full of stuff .

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The three H is right . When we think

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about how to take care of ourselves , I

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wanted to give you some simple

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practical strategies for this . And

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when I say simple , they seem simple

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before a group of people that do not do

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well , monitoring , checking and

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treatment , planning their own needs .

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It's a job hopefully in the right room

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because I know I know what I've learned

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about me through this process . So I

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pulled some of this right from our own

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values , right ? We think about what

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our values are to our profession ,

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where our values , our to our mission ,

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where our values come from . I pulled

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the state honest theory right out of

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integrity . Right ? I came down someone

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the enemy values when we're thinking

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about what this integrity means and how

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can integrity even apply . When I think

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about meeting to take care of myself

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real thing . Right . My code of ethics

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tells me if I'm gonna repair provider ,

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I can't practice and parent provider

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does not always mean drunk drugs . It

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simply can be distracted . It simply

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can be some of the things that we

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talked about in the vicarious trauma

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symptoms . Symptomology . So that's

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saying honest integrity to yourself and

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what does that look like ? It simply

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says there , are you tired ? Have you

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taken a nap ? Have you eaten lunch ?

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Have you done all of the things that we

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need to do to take care of ourselves in

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the state ? Honest idea of self care .

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It just simply says that my integrity

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to myself says that I am putting my

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oxygen mask on one before I attempt to

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put someone else's right and the

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integrity to others . If I know that I

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am not doing well psychologically today ,

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Alright . We're not talking about

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permanency , we're talking about today

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and in the moment I have a duty to be

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able to say that hey chief , I need to

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call out today . I don't know how many

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leaders that I have in the room , but

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it is really important that leadership

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pay attention to what's happening with

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their people , your people like your

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greatest asset . So if we have our

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people saying to us , I am not doing

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well , but this integrity to others and

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integrity to self can only be fostered

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in an environment that's safe . Right ?

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So when we're talking about this , stay

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honest and really trying to curtail the

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realities of vicarious trauma

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compassion for t the honest piece of

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our integrity to ourselves and others

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is definitely grounded and rooted in

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our core values and the work that we do

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and then integrity to the profession ,

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every helping profession where there's

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a licensed clinician or license

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provider talks about what you need to

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do to maintain your potentially to

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maintain your status and self care

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recently has been added to the board of

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social work as a real phenomenon right ?

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That we must pay attention to . So

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every profession in here I want you to

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think about , it's all grounded and do

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no harm . Right ? If I am

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psychologically worn , tired fatigue ,

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vicariously traumatized , burnt out ,

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I don't want you to be that person

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that's excited about carryover hours at

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the end of the year . Alright . Because

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of what we do is too critical to the

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mission , right ? We are the machine

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for the mission . In terms of what we

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do with service , we provide our

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specialty area . So we have to be sharp .

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All right , we have to be ready . We

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make decisions for national security ,

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we have to be clinically professionally

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psychologically sound . So the first

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part of this self care and really ,

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really curtailing and really trying to

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undergird a level of professionalism .

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It's under the honest criteria . The

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next one stay healthy . Remember I told

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you I'll give you three H is stay

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healthy , right ? When we think about

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our health , it's more than just how I

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physically exercise on my physical

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activity . We're looking at how we eat ,

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how we sleep , how we hydrate , What

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are our relationships , like how

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balanced our our relationships and I

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said I learned a lot about myself and

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my colleagues during this timeframe ,

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right ? We had to force virtual . Um We

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call them healthy hours , right ?

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Because happy hours , we have been

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sipping a little too much . Right ? So

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we have to think about happy healthy

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hours of how we were taking care of one

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another . And again , backing up to the

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honest , how are you doing ? I'm not

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doing well If one more person to make a

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complaint about X . Y . M . C . I don't

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know how I'm going to respond . Right ?

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But again , we have to foster

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environments where that kind of

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communication . That genuine authentic

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space is allowed without judgment

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without critique . But with

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understanding that the machine every

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now and then beans boiled . So thinking

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about our relationships . This one is

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he As for help when needed . Use

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that supervision . Use that open door

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supervisors . If you closed your door ,

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please crack it right . Allow people to

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be able to come in and say I'm just not

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having a good day . All right , this is

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a lot . Our mission is constantly

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evolving and changing . We have a flu

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admission . We have a few admission .

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So what worked yesterday . It may

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change tomorrow . And if we are not in

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a healthy mindset to say when I am

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tired when I am . And again , what

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we're talking about this piece . Ask

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for help . We needed check your

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mannerisms , check your behavior .

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Don't bust up in your leadership off .

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Like I'm out . Really , really check

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your mannerisms from an authentic place

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that I am noticing that I am not doing

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well , right ? We are paid to be the

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front line . Let me look at sergeant

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stuffy . He does not look well . I'm

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asking you to turn those same critical

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eyes on yourself . Let me look at

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myself and see when I am not doing well

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and not see that as a place of OMG what

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does this mean about me ?

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OMG I am dr phillips . What do you mean ?

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I'm not doing well that the phillips

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just need the day that she can just lay

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down and just be that authentic about

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that and then foster healthy networks ,

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right ? Have people in your circle that

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are going to ask you , are you doing ?

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Yeah , I know that you've been snappy .

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You yelled at someone in the kitchen .

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Thank you china china was and and

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Daniel . I had sounding board for that

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because I was a mess , right ? Because

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I was tired , not because I was just

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this awful provider or this mean

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spirited person but the human side of

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me was not in its healthiest state and

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this is just reality . Right ? So then

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I share it with you . All my principles

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are gonna be practical , simple but

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hard for people that do not do self

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assessment . Does this make sense ? I

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see heads not y'all Okay , Am I go over

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here and then your last age is to

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stay habitual right when we start doing

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something and we learned the value of

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it , right ? I started a small type of

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Bragg . It's not like I got a green

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thumb , but I started don't you all

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come on my house looking for these

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green place . But I started doing

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something different , right ? Doing

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this pandemic and like really find it

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all . I don't kill flowers , I can

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really grow a flower , right ? Just

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realizing that there's new skills and

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new things that are just creating

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around me to cultivate a level of peace ,

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right ? And then staying habitual about

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it . Build a healthy mindset about

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yourself . Care and routines that

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supported All right . It is not an

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option that dr phillips is going to the

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gym a few days a week . I'm sorry , I

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can't do that . I need to take care of

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me . You want me to take care of me ,

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right ? I start reframing it because if

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I get irritable , if I get snappy , I

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don't know what you will show up . So I

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don't want to be able to build all .

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I'm honest . I'm sorry . They invited

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me , I want to build a healthy mindset

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around self care . That self care is

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not selfish , but self care is

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inclusive of boundaries . It's

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inclusive of my needs for rest . It's

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inclusive of me needing to say no

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thanks for the opportunity , but not

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now , right ? It's inclusive of all of

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those things and our mindset , how we

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view ourselves as the asset will

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determine how capable we are of

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developing these habitual hobbies that

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are going to be grounded in my wellness .

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Um , and then developed structure

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consisting of smart self care goals . I

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ain't got no business coming in here

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telling you all that because I just

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found this green thumb that now I'm

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quitting my job and I'm going down and

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build a rain cars . That's what it is .

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Not like . That is so unrealistic ,

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right ? So we want our goals to be

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smart , right ? We want them specific

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and measurable and achievable and

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realistic . We want them to be goals

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that are about us and we're un

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relentless about accomplishing them .

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All right . I've decided that my phone

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goes off at a certain time of the

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evening , You know , and I've had

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people say to me , well , what if I

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need to call 911 ? How am I going to

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figure this out ? Googled it right .

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Right . Really making a decision to

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realize that I am not an emergency room .

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They're open 24 hours , but I'm not .

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So being , you know , developing

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structure that consists of these goals

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and then we can't tell our crimes to do

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stuff that we haven't gone right . I'm

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not endorsing , I just do a few up

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there , but I love the insight timer ,

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the mindfulness , um , apps , the

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breathing apps , the music , whatever

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you need to do that is solely for you .

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And if anybody wants to hang out with

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you , invite them to your meditation on

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the world . We will be in the garden ,

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You're welcome to come . All right ,

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That was in itself sets a boundary that

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either this is somebody that's new to

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my network or this is somebody that has

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released me from their network because

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I am so habitual about taking care of

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me . So those are the only ones that I

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have . Again , practical , but

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immensely simple , but immensely

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difficult . If you are a person that

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stays already set go even in your

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personal life , even in your personal

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life , even for my active duty , I know

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that you are always a soldier . I know

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that you are always a service member ,

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but I don't care because you're totally

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tower find some time . Find some time

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to be stressed and release some of this

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tension right that we hold on to .

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That's

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it .

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Thank you , ma'am . Thank you dr

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fellows . Thank you dr Evans . Oh ,

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self I saw self . So our self disclose .

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Disclose also in your briefing um

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that time all at the time . One of the

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things that we did or I did . My sister

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lives in north Carolina . My other

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sister lives in Virginia . Um

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my other friend , she lives in Alabama

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and we would come home because we're

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kind of on the same in the east coast

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time and we would get on facebook

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messenger . I bought a portal during

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this time and we were cooking the

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kitchen . Sometimes there would be no ,

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no conversation . Oh , that's a cute

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dress you got on there terry like

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where'd you get that girl found this

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over at such and such . Go over and

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check it out if you find another one

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get me one too . But that was our

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therapy that we did almost every day .

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We kind of backed away from it a little

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bit but we still meet and we have our

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thing is called girls just the girls .

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Um we started reading a book and we

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were doing that having that

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conversation . So that was good therapy

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for us because we didn't know and we

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weren't formally educated but we are

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like I am today but um that therapy um

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seeing how the kids work . The

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husband if you have one and one of them

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boyfriend um co workers . The

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person driving down the road . I got

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stopped . I went through that around

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the mills and I didn't even know I cut

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the guy off . He followed me to my

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parking spot by myself . I was on the

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phone he followed me to my parking spot

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back then he pulled in front of me and

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he was like you cut me off and I

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stopped him . I was kind of scared . I

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thought I said do you realize you just

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followed me to my parking spot ? I

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turned it back on him . That that's not

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cool . You just put fear in me because

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you follow me because I cut you off .

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Really ? So yeah it's it's alive and

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well . so thank you who have come , I

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appreciate , we appreciate you are team ,

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appreciate you . Um China

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is going to do our questioning

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answering and we have to make

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sure we get some pictures before . Well ,

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again , I also want to thank both of

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you , this has been so informative and

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um just dr Tony mentioned , you know ,

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knowledge is power and I think the more

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informed we are , the better we are

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able to address some of these issues .

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Um I definitely appreciate um you know ,

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dr Tanya is a proportion terms of just

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the inside the honesty and being honest

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with ourselves , and I think that's an

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area that many of us probably struggled

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with because again , as caregivers ,

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again , it's hard to put to put our

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needs at the forefront and I think it's

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the work that we all have to really be

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mindful , intentional about doing .

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Um so , again , I really appreciate the

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information and so what we wanna do ,

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we want to open up the next few moments

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for questions and answers A Q and a

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time period . So if you have some , you

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know , I mean , I've been jotting down

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so many different notes , you know ,

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just kind of things , I just really

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want to kind of kind of focus on kind

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of like marinate um for a while , but

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if you have any questions um for our

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presenters or things that you want to

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share , things that maybe you learned

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over the years , Um things that you've

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practiced that you want to share with

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the group so that we can kind of again

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gather more tools to put in our toolbox

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to take with us . Um things that maybe

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we can try so you can never have too

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many . Um So we definitely want to open

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the floor . But also there was some

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additional thoughts or things that you

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wanted to share , you know , Tony I

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don't know , just kind of as she was

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presented , there were some additional

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thoughts that you had to that you

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wanted to kind of throw in there as

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well . So we're definitely open to that .

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So we definitely want to open the floor .

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So please I know I did have one

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question though for both of the

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presenters . If you could maybe um make

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some recommendations or just maybe some

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recommendations of things from a

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leadership standpoint , things that

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leadership maybe can do to support and

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and sit assist it . Like it's human

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resources um to help not only monitor

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to mitigate some of the

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symptoms that Tony mentioned earlier .

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So that was just one of my questions

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that I had . So it's just for both of

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you . Um So you won't go far .

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So

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I guess I'm gonna

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get so come over here . So I'm just

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thank you . Um So the biggest thing

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that leadership can do is model

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behavior because I know that

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this is it sounds like a joke , but

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it's really not . I used to be a

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horrible warning . Now I try to serve

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as a positive role model . I was the

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person that was chained to my desk . I

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would sometimes forget to go to the

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bathroom . Um because I would know that

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because when I got up to go to the

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bathroom , I'd be like , oh my God , I

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have to go to the bathroom . I would

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forget to eat lunch . I mean , do I

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look like I've forgotten to eat

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recently ? No , I've actually lost £40

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but like I would , but then I would

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like eat really unhealthy , right ?

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Because I didn't eat a norm at normal

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times because I would just be changing

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my desk . I wouldn't get up . I would

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do anything . I was just , I was

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constantly working . And what I noticed

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is if I didn't take my lunch , If I

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didn't take my breaks , guess what ?

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Neither did my staff , my staff didn't

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take their lunch , my staff didn't take

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their breaks . And I have never been a

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do as I say , not as I do person , It

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just never sat well with me . Uh My dad

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is actually very , very old school ,

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was very old school military and when I

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say old school , I mean he was in the

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United States Army Air Court for

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24 missions in a B 17 bomber over Nazi

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Germany and the military shape . My

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father's life . And one thing my father

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said is , you can be anything , You

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want to be my daughter , but you can

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never be a hypocrite . And that stuck

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with me . And I said , I can't tell

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them you have to do this if I don't do

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it . So I started taking my brakes and

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guess what ? My staff started taking

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breaks . I started taking my lunches ,

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not at my desk . I would take my lunch

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and go sit in the park . Guess what ?

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My staff started to it . They started

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going out for lunch is taking their

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lunch out of the building . They would

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actually say to me , oh , I'm on my

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lunch hour . I know I'm at my desk ,

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but I'm scrolling through facebook ,

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but they would tell me because I knew

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if I saw him at their desk , I'd give

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him one of these . Uh , and they'd be

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like , no , I'm just look , I'm looking

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at facebook , right , modeling that

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behavior was the best thing I could do

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for my staff . So if you're in command ,

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everybody looks up to you , you are the

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example . You are the role model . You

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are the epitome of the mission . If you

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model it and you say this is what you

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should do , not because I'm telling you ,

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it's what you should do because I'm

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showing you it's what you should do .

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People are going to do it and people

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are going to be healthier for it . And

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so that's , that's my take on . I have

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several ,

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my

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personality guys , I think , I think

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the first thing is to take it all the

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way back to basic elementary school um

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with that manifestation of those soft

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skills china . How are you ? How are

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things at home ? How are the Children ?

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I understand that times are rough . I'm

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glad to see you're here , that you are

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here , right . People that feel cared

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about , people that feel important ,

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people that feel empowered and that I

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predict that my leadership realized

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that I am a human as well as a

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professional . That's somebody that you

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want on your team . Alright . I think

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leadership have to remember their

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people and remember to simply check in

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with their people as the number one to

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morale building activities as best as

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possible . I know the climate is covid

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and we are unable to do the things old

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days and things that we once did back

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in the day when things were normal ,

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but I think it's important to build

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some type of morale building activity

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even if that means we close an hour

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early and we allow our clinicians to

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see far people for the day instead of

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six . I know , I know , I know , but we

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are again working to build morale ,

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right ? And our team building activity

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will be held on teams today . All right ,

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we're gonna play some games and we're

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going to check in and we're going to do

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something against simplistic to say

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that hey , we feel you , we see you ,

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we appreciate you , We care about you

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were concerned about you and we are

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grateful for you . Right ? And then

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again , prioritizing our people in the

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same fashion the people that are doing

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the work , prioritizing them and

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building them with already resource .

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This is your ap right ? The Ap is

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available to come over here to see us .

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Right . They sat back there behind the

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behind around the corner . They are

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available your E A . P number is this

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If you're having concerns , we have

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established a crisis hotline just for

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our team . What are we doing as

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leadership to take care of our

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workforce ? All right . So when I think

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about that , that grounded and

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integrity that I've talked about .

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That's a message for leadership , right ?

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To be able to point our people do we

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know the leaders know what resources

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are available in the surrounding area

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for our people , right ? And being able

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to point them in the direction . Not

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because they are on a performance

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improvement place , but because I'm

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trying to prevent a performance

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improvement plan . I'm trying to ensure

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that we have already resilient force

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across our military uniform people as

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well as our civilians . Yeah ,

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Thank you .

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I totally understand that . I started

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working for the Maryland network

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against domestic violence on February

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three of 2020 , my job title was

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statewide trainer . My job was to go to

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every single domestic service violence

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provider in the state . Meet with them

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individually and design training plan

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for them in person . My entire job .

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Yeah . My entire job description

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changed on March 16 and all of a sudden

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I became the queen of virtual trainings .

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Me the Luddite the one who learned how

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to save computer material on a cassette

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tape . And yes I have used to punch

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card and I have worked in rooms where

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the computers took up this room but I

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went to him in a T . V . And six weeks

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later we lost our executive director

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and seven weeks later we were shut down

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for coming . I have never worked with a

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better group of people and part of it

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is those things , those little things

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that you may think don't mean . But the

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team building taking saying okay we are

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going to take a two hour staff meeting

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and we're going to do something like

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playing Jack box things and we did that

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and we built team and we built team

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with people who had never actually met

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each other in person . I've been

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working with somebody now for six

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months . I met her in person for the

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first time last friday . I never met

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her in person . She still hasn't met

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some people in person because part of

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our staff retreat was virtual because

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some people were not safe to come in .

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One of our girls had a baby in the look

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of it . So totally had had to do what

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you had to do . So I think that's

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important and I also think it's

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important . Um , Dr Hani said when she

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was talking about how we tend to think

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of self care is being selfish and I

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like people who are smarter than me

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because they make you look good .

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Always hire people that are smarter

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than you . They make you look so good .

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I do like this , my rule for success .

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Um , but I love people are smarter than

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me . And I love to quote Audra Lord

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said self care is not self

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indulgence . It is self preservation

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and that is an act of political warfare .

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And Audrey Lorde is a lot smarter than

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I will ever be . It is not self

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indulgence . It is self preservation .

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Yeah . Again , can't serve from the

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empty cup . So I just went afterwards ,

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she said that that , I want to

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definitely worth something . Some

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powerful words . And again , we

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definitely appreciate both of you being

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here the diversity equity inclusion

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committee . One of our goals really is

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to want you spoke about this really to

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create safe spaces or we can come

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together . We can support one another

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because we recognize this work is hard .

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This part really is hard . But again ,

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we all came into it with that desire to

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help others because there's something

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in each and every one of us . So we

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want to thank you . Um , also to want

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to take a moment to thank a do you

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have any questions , Colonel Mike ? Yes .

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When we probably have some additional

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questions . So if you want to write

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those , we definitely want to get to

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those . I want to be mindful that our

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leadership commanders here as well .

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And they wanted to also to take a

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moment . I wanted to introduce a friend

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of Michael's and he has something that

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he would like to present and share with

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our presenters . But we do want to If

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you do have time , please make note of

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any additional questions that you have .

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And we will definitely try to get to

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those as long as I prevent our

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presenters are available to answer

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those . Um afterwards . Okay . All

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right . Well , good afternoon . How's

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everybody doing ? I'm

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Michel commander .

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I've got my

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battle buddy , uh command sergeant

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Major mike moral . And we just wanted

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to take a few minutes to come down and

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thank you so much for spending some of

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your very precious time with us today .

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So our diversity equity and inclusion

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council . So we start we stood this up

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about 4 , 5 months ago

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and we like to say here in the form of

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attack diversity is what we are

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right of inclusion , diversity

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is what we are equity is our goal and

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inclusion is the white . That's how we

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get there . And what you talked about

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fostering meaningful connection really

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is essential to what we're trying to

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achieve here . So people understand

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that what they do is value . They

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understand the impact of our service

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here and what that means not only to

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the staff , but what it means to our

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patients every day . Our goal is state

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quality patients that are care and you

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can't get there as you've alluded to me

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without taking care of yourself . You

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know , we've been asking this question

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over the last month or so , who cares

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for the caregiver , Right . And I think

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part of that answer is it's the people

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in this room . We've got to look after

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each other . And so I think this is a

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phenomenal installment on our

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commitment to be able to do that . So

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thanks for taking the time to be here .

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What I'd like to do very quickly is

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I've got just as a small token of our

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appreciation , I would like to present

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you with a certificate of appreciation

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and then something symbolic that I hope

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it's a very strong symbol and um I hope

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that you would take that as a token of

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our appreciation and remember the time

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and what you deposited here today . So

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if you all would come before trying to

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get

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okay .

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Yes please . Alright , so certificate

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of appreciation is awarded to dr carol

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Evans and dr Tania C phillips uh an

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appreciation for your invaluable

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expertise and presenting vicarious

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trauma and self care strategies at

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Kimbrough ambulatory care Center during

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the lunch and learn lecture series .

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Your efforts , I didn't bring my

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glasses . Your efforts have empowered

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providers , staff and caregivers to

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recognize the signs and symptoms of

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secondary trauma and implement self

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care strategies in order to alleviate

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and manage personal professional

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stressors , your expertise , care and

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compassion supports the mission of the

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fort George , jean medevac , United

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States Army Medical Department activity ,

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the Regional Health Command Atlanta in

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the United States Army signed Tracy .

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Michael Colonel M . S . Commanded

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some , uh , okay . It's

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all right . Don't go yet . So I've got

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it .

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It's more endurance .

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So this is the symbol of army medicine .

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It's the patch that we wear . So our

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service members . Um , no matter what

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uniform we're in with a few exceptions ,

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we almost always display

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the unit and city and army medicine .

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Really what it represents is before we

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had a country , we had an army medical

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department . It goes back to the

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Continental Army . So we've been

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conserving the fighting strengths in

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1775 . And what this represents is a

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commitment to professional excellence ,

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a commitment to service and a

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commitment to taking care of people .

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So when you see this symbol , when you

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wear this symbol , I hope you'll think

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about the time here and I hope you will

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think about what you have deposited

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that's contributed to that long , long

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history of service and taken care of .

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So I wanted to , if you allow me to pin

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this on you . Yeah .

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And you've got to remember . So if you

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ever come back and you're not wearing

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that , they all know the

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story . You'll be fined me and ginger .

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it's better to choice and he happens to

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ginger mind give me a little more

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expensive

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them .

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Mm hmm scotch .

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I love what you said . Let's give them

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around before .

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I love

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what you said about self care and not

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being able to give if your reservoir is

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empty without you

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and the sacrifices you may know you

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have served as well , then there is no

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us . Okay . We exist and were able to

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do what we do because we have folks

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like you that are supporting us every

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step of the way and making sure that we

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remain strong and we stay committed to

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this mission so that we can do what our

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nation has asked of us and we do it

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with pride and we do it with . And so I

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want to thank you for caring enough

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about us to come and spend some time

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with us because I believe that the

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people that we have the privilege of

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taking care of and serve it . There are

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a lot of deserving people out there ,

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but you won't find a group that is more

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deserted then the service members and

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their families that we have the

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privilege of caring for every day . So

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thank you very much . This is awesome .

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I think this is a great way to sort of

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kick this off for us . And I hope at

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some point that you'll come back and

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spend some time with us again . All

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right . I think there's a lot of

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questions here and they want to

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definitely pull on your expertise . So

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I'm going to get out of the way . So

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the Q and a portion . Thank you very

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much . I thought I was in place and I

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think right now what you want me to

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say , thank you so much .

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Thank you again . So we want to open

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the floor . If there are questions that

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you don't like this as we take some

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selfish time , it's time to be selfish

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and try to get as much knowledge and

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refueling as we can . And hopefully

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this is actually an opportunity when I

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think about creating those spaces of

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those times . We can actually , this is

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where we can actually kind of refuel .

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Right ? So any questions for , So I

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don't have any questions . I wanna

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apologize for being late . I cannot

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find the fort meet sexual assault

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hotline so I cannot move without that

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phone . So thank you for inviting me

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sharing . I'm Samantha Herring on the

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garrison lead start . And I was looking

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at the program and one of the bullets

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that stood out for me was uh , asking

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for help . I have a hard time doing

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that . I work alone , but I don't work

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alone . I work alone in my office but

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we have a phenomenal sharp team of

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professionals that support me . But

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sometimes I'm not just overwhelmed with

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work . I have three Children That are

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twins , 18 and my oldest one , Uh ,

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daughter is 20 and then I have a real

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grown son and some grandkids and

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sometimes personal life can bleed

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into professional life when you're

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teleworking and you're doing a whole

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lot of other things . So I had a moment

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and cherry , you know , I was on the

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phone with her and I was just just ,

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she didn't say anything . She let me

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do what I needed to do for my own self

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care . And then I caught myself , I

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said sharing , I'm sorry , I'm just

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venting and she said , no , no worries .

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Um , you know , you're gonna save

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confidential space . That's always feel

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when I'm speaking to her . But

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sometimes as providers , as first

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responders , we get so used to caring

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for others . You forget about us

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because it's just automatic . We do do

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do so um , we don't

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care . Oh Lord . I ain't gonna tell you

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what , I'll tell you about my

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drink , your beverage . Okay . Better .

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I used to live in Hawaii and there's a

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drink from hawaii that I learned to

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make . That is helpful . Not every day .

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Uh , but

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uh , uh ,

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can I see it in here ? Well , it's

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a lava blast .

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I have 3° in theater , Malibu

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Malibu . Really simple at this

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point . Yeah , but it's still a doubt

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beverage in moderation is a healthy

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former lobby . A margarita is perfectly

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acceptable . It's the bottle of tequila

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by yourself in your bedroom and

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policies . Uh , so what , what

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I was gonna say is , um , we need to

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ask for help . And I'm not saying help

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in a bottle . I'm just saying we need

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to be able to go to our battles , go to

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our colleagues and say today was a

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rough day or I'm having a rough day or

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can you help me ? My plate is full . Do

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you mind doing X , y or Z ? The drink

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was a joke , sir .

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Uh ,

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but you know , reaching out across the

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line , sometimes I call all the way to

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NV Wi call another installation star

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billboard . Um , for the health . They

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say , hey , I'm dealing with this

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difficult situation . Uh , Ma'am ,

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She knows , uh , we reach across the

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aisles all the time . You too , sir . I

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think we were in a meeting together

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yesterday . 0 to see , um , just please .

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That's really help . You'll be amazed

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how people will jump in and be willing .

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Absolutely . So I just wanted to share

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that and apologize for being late , but

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I can't move without that phone with

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thank you . Thank you being married .

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That I think again , it is important to

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recognize that again , we can say that

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we're going to leave it at the door ,

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whether it's coming into the workspace

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or going into your personal residence .

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What is difficult and there are

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different stripes . I think that all of

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us can begin to practice . As tom you

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mentioned earlier , we have to , we

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have to make them be intentional . And

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I love that . We have to be intentional

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about it . One of the things that I try

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to do and I I think I'm pretty good

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about doing that unless of course is an

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emergency situation and we have , we

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have Michael what we define as an

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emergency . Right , okay . Let that

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marinate like this synergy for a moment .

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What is a true emergency ? But at the

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closer and closer day when it's time

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for me to go , I'm out that that click

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the lock door and behind . I'm walking

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out that door at my time that I'm

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supposed to leave and again , unless

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it's an emergency . And again , how do

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you define as an emergency ? And for me ,

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the emergency would be an example would

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be say I just saw a patient that day

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and I knew I had to get it was at the

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very end of the day . I'm going to get

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that note because there's a potential

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say they might end up in the hospital

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that night and somebody needs to see

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that note . Everything else that's

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kinda mentioned earlier , I'm not 911

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call 911 . Another thing that I've got

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to the habit of doing over the past

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year or so a couple of years is that

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sounds my phone that has been a

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lifesaver for my nighttime sleep

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because I found myself because I would

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get certain calls from particular

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people and this is the personal side at

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certain times we want two or 3:00 . It

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was never good news . So yeah , I'm not ,

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not one woman . I'm not young . I can't

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come find you up in the cut anymore .

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So I shut them off . It goes

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off for 91 month . And I find that has

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been really helping return in terms of

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restoring my sweet somewhat but has

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been helpful in that . So again , we

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have to be intentional about what those

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practices are and we have to be

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intentional incorporating these things .

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Any additional questions ? Um actually

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have , well we want ,

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we want you to come you all to come

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back . Oh for are sharp side .

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Yeah . Our star person . You need

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to know about self media , especially

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our new , our new diplomatic board and

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it's a reminder of what older America .

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But yeah , we would love to have ,

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I'll have to figure out how to make it

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work . But yes , I worked with her any

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time I just a matter of my life I

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wanted to make a comment cookies