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- Often we're very
compassionate with other people,

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we notice when they're suffering,

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we feel their pain and
we empathize with them.

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We're good at recognizing and practicing

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that compassion with other people.

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Usually we don't give
ourselves the same courtesy.

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Self-compassion is often
confused with self-pity.

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However we know from
research people that practice

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self-compassion, actually
dwell on their misfortunes less

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and therefore have less symptoms
of depression and anxiety.

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The three elements of self-compassion,

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the first is self-kindness
versus self-judgment.

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We're often our own worst critic

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we're looking and criticizing
little things as opposed

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to being kind and warm to ourselves.

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Common humanity versus isolation.

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We're not alone in pain and suffering

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there are others that have
dealt with something similar

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that we can be connected to.

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We all suffer and have
trials and tribulations

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that we go through.

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The last one is mindfulness
versus over identification.

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We need to be aware of the
thought and the feeling.

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However we need to make sure
we're not becoming consumed

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by it, where it overtakes
everything in our lives.

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We can recognize and take
some time to analyze it

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so we have a response
as opposed to reaction.

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We've all heard of the golden rule

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maybe it was taught to you by your parents

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or your grandparents,

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treat others as you wish to be treated.

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We do that for other people

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how often do you practice
the golden rule on yourself?

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How often do you treat yourself

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as kindly as you treat other people?

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I challenge you to practice
the golden rule on yourself.

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