WEBVTT 00:05.030 --> 00:06.020 - I want to tell you my story 00:06.020 --> 00:07.860 and how the Guard saved my life. 00:07.860 --> 00:09.933 But I have to start with the backstory 00:09.933 --> 00:11.520 to fill you in. 00:11.520 --> 00:14.540 Growing up, there was four kids in my family. 00:14.540 --> 00:17.070 And my parents were married, and to the outside world 00:17.070 --> 00:18.780 we looked like a normal family. 00:18.780 --> 00:20.900 We went to school on time 00:20.900 --> 00:23.030 and nobody really questioned anything. 00:23.030 --> 00:26.011 But behind closed doors it was a different story. 00:26.011 --> 00:27.983 It was a nightmare. 00:29.060 --> 00:30.210 So there was a lot of yelling, 00:30.210 --> 00:31.973 my dad was super intense, 00:33.200 --> 00:35.370 throwing things and broken walls 00:35.370 --> 00:37.810 and broke my nose once. 00:37.810 --> 00:39.690 It was really physical. 00:39.690 --> 00:41.620 I was molested at six. 00:41.620 --> 00:44.360 He'd do things like buy us cats and dogs 00:44.360 --> 00:46.510 and then torture them to death in front of us. 00:46.510 --> 00:48.910 It was nothing on a Saturday morning to wake up 00:48.910 --> 00:51.010 to a dog being tortured or beat. 00:51.010 --> 00:55.200 So about 14, my parents divorced and they 00:56.090 --> 00:57.520 they moved out, both of them. 00:57.520 --> 01:00.120 So it was myself and my sisters at that time. 01:00.120 --> 01:02.420 It kind of made for an intense way to grow up 01:02.420 --> 01:03.970 through high school. 01:03.970 --> 01:05.850 It opened the door for some really bad stuff, 01:05.850 --> 01:08.320 so at one point someone broke into our house, 01:08.320 --> 01:12.170 at another point I was 15, I was raped. 01:12.170 --> 01:13.950 Growing up like that I always thought I'm gonna 01:13.950 --> 01:17.320 to be more than this, I'm gonna be better than this. 01:17.320 --> 01:20.050 So I graduated high school and I though, I'm out. 01:20.050 --> 01:21.390 I'm gonna go make something of myself 01:21.390 --> 01:23.410 and I'm never looking back. 01:23.410 --> 01:26.750 So I joined the military and I didn't look back. 01:26.750 --> 01:30.000 So I started out enlisted as a new reporter, 01:30.000 --> 01:31.800 I loved that job. 01:31.800 --> 01:34.340 I got married and had two kids. 01:34.340 --> 01:37.440 And about the time I had two kids I started to realize 01:37.440 --> 01:39.850 that I didn't have some of the skills that I really 01:39.850 --> 01:42.220 wanted as a parent, I wasn't sure what to do 01:42.220 --> 01:43.990 when my kids would do things. 01:43.990 --> 01:47.920 And what I had to fall back on was incredibly 01:47.920 --> 01:50.610 inappropriate, thank God I realized that. 01:50.610 --> 01:53.560 So my husband said maybe I should go talk to a counselor 01:53.560 --> 01:56.690 a little bit, which in my mind was super taboo, 01:56.690 --> 01:58.900 I did not want to affect my military career, 01:58.900 --> 02:00.900 that was super important to me. 02:00.900 --> 02:03.740 So I went to talk to a counselor and it really, 02:03.740 --> 02:06.310 it just kind of opened up the doors for all the emotions 02:06.310 --> 02:08.460 and all the stuff that I hadn't dealt with. 02:09.300 --> 02:11.550 But I also at that time had been picked up 02:11.550 --> 02:14.510 for a flying position, so I had to go to flight school. 02:14.510 --> 02:17.300 So I stopped counseling, I turned it all off 02:17.300 --> 02:18.450 and I went to training. 02:19.330 --> 02:21.360 Once you start talking about that, you really have to 02:21.360 --> 02:24.980 process it or you can't, you can't just put it back away, 02:24.980 --> 02:26.460 it doesn't go away. 02:26.460 --> 02:28.950 I got through, I rocked flight school. 02:28.950 --> 02:31.940 Followed on to to Seer school, came home, 02:31.940 --> 02:35.540 and when I got home I noticed that something 02:35.540 --> 02:37.500 along the way in my training had been 02:37.500 --> 02:39.440 an incredible trigger for me. 02:39.440 --> 02:41.820 I remember getting home and I picked up my kids, 02:41.820 --> 02:44.410 I picked up my daughter, and I just felt nothing, 02:44.410 --> 02:46.550 just void. 02:46.550 --> 02:48.470 And it was the same way with my son. 02:48.470 --> 02:51.150 To the point where I sat down, I hadn't see them 02:51.150 --> 02:53.510 in three weeks, and they actually moved away from me 02:53.510 --> 02:54.880 on the couch. 02:54.880 --> 02:56.630 I'd like to tell you that was heart-breaking, 02:56.630 --> 02:59.203 but I really felt nothing at that. 03:00.580 --> 03:03.210 But I realized that's not, that's not the mom I wanted 03:03.210 --> 03:05.640 to be, it's not how I wanted them to grow up, 03:05.640 --> 03:09.200 so I thought, I'll be fine, it'll go away, 03:09.200 --> 03:11.950 I've dealt with it before, I'm just gonna put it aside 03:11.950 --> 03:14.150 and I'm gonna go to work and I'm gonna focus. 03:14.150 --> 03:16.790 So I got to work, but I noticed at work, 03:16.790 --> 03:18.900 I couldn't not watch the door, 03:18.900 --> 03:19.733 I couldn't even get 03:19.733 --> 03:22.113 through one mission plan session without, 03:24.280 --> 03:25.920 I don't even know where I'd go, I just, 03:25.920 --> 03:28.460 my mind would just go somewhere else. 03:28.460 --> 03:30.180 I was just void. 03:30.180 --> 03:32.600 So I realized I can't step to an aircraft like that, 03:32.600 --> 03:34.660 I can't have a crew relying on me 03:34.660 --> 03:35.980 and not be able to do my job. 03:35.980 --> 03:38.080 So I took myself off flight status 03:38.080 --> 03:39.473 and I went to see the DPH. 03:40.340 --> 03:44.163 - Casey came to me and just initially said, 03:45.000 --> 03:48.500 hypothetically what would you do or how would you handle 03:48.500 --> 03:53.500 this scenario if someone had some stressors going on. 03:53.550 --> 03:58.550 Very vague, guarded, and not fully trusting. 04:00.220 --> 04:03.080 And I kind of gave her the blanket, 04:03.080 --> 04:04.470 not knowing what was going on, 04:04.470 --> 04:06.280 not knowing what her past was, 04:06.280 --> 04:08.850 and she just said, okay, thanks. 04:08.850 --> 04:10.630 And got up and left. 04:10.630 --> 04:15.000 - So the next day I just was overwhelmed, 04:15.000 --> 04:17.060 I couldn't focus, and it was constant, 04:17.060 --> 04:19.063 it was like my skin was just on fire. 04:20.093 --> 04:22.852 I couldn't control the physical side effects of this 04:22.852 --> 04:25.730 and at the time I was very anti-mental health, 04:25.730 --> 04:28.150 I was anti-counseling, I thought this is gonna end 04:28.150 --> 04:29.847 my career, I can't say anything, 04:29.847 --> 04:32.680 I'm not in control of my own body? 04:32.680 --> 04:36.140 I went back to Elizabeth and I told her what was going on, 04:36.140 --> 04:37.840 and I said, I need help. 04:37.840 --> 04:39.300 - And I said, okay. 04:39.300 --> 04:41.480 And she gave me a brief rundown 04:41.480 --> 04:43.870 and said she had a colorful childhood 04:43.870 --> 04:47.400 and was interested in getting some care. 04:47.400 --> 04:49.770 - So amongst all this I started doing treatment 04:49.770 --> 04:52.890 in intense outpatient treatment, where we, 04:52.890 --> 04:55.503 basically my job was to go to counseling all day. 04:56.940 --> 04:59.380 I remember I walked into this counseling and I thought, 04:59.380 --> 05:02.030 oh, what am I doing here? 05:02.030 --> 05:04.410 I'm supposed to be a flyer, I'm supposed to be strong, 05:04.410 --> 05:08.820 I'm supposed to be doing my job, doing what I signed up for. 05:08.820 --> 05:12.350 But I also knew that my family had to come first 05:12.350 --> 05:14.110 so if I can't take care of myself 05:14.110 --> 05:15.490 how am I ever gonna do my job. 05:15.490 --> 05:18.010 So I got about two weeks into this treatment, 05:18.010 --> 05:21.090 and working out was my out, was my escape my entire life, 05:21.090 --> 05:22.810 I'd run, and I'd lift weights, 05:22.810 --> 05:25.150 and I was on my way home from crossfit one day, 05:25.150 --> 05:27.060 and I got in a car accident, 05:27.060 --> 05:30.980 and it messed up my shoulder, so now I'm in treatment, 05:30.980 --> 05:34.830 and I can't run, I can't do any of my things 05:34.830 --> 05:37.290 that I like to do to escape. 05:37.290 --> 05:40.610 I can't go to work, so I'm not worth anything at my job. 05:40.610 --> 05:42.830 When I'm home I'm angry and short-tempered, 05:42.830 --> 05:45.290 so I'm not worth anything at home. 05:45.290 --> 05:49.670 My daughter, who was my favorite person in the whole world, 05:49.670 --> 05:53.790 was the worst trigger out of everything. 05:53.790 --> 05:56.747 So every time I'd see my daughter, it was like, 05:56.747 --> 05:59.430 it was like watching her get raped. 05:59.430 --> 06:00.813 It was terrible. 06:02.090 --> 06:05.690 Going home was, had gone from being a safe place 06:05.690 --> 06:08.210 and being where I wanted to be to the last place 06:08.210 --> 06:10.100 on earth that I wanted to be. 06:10.100 --> 06:12.990 That eats you up inside, when you know you had kids 06:12.990 --> 06:14.320 because you want to be a parent, 06:14.320 --> 06:15.590 and you can't be around them, 06:15.590 --> 06:18.060 you can't raise them the way you want to, 06:18.060 --> 06:20.223 it just builds, gets worse day by day. 06:21.560 --> 06:23.490 So there was really no out at that point, 06:23.490 --> 06:26.230 there was nothing worth getting up for, 06:26.230 --> 06:27.693 but sleep was terrible too. 06:28.770 --> 06:32.410 So I told the DPH, told Elizabeth, I said, hey, 06:32.410 --> 06:34.260 I don't think this is for me. 06:34.260 --> 06:36.790 I don't think this group is gonna work. 06:36.790 --> 06:39.770 She said, okay, well we can realign 06:39.770 --> 06:41.840 and see what other services are in town. 06:41.840 --> 06:44.160 - I kind of joke and say that finding the right 06:44.160 --> 06:46.350 counselor is like dating, you don't settle on one 06:46.350 --> 06:48.040 just because it's not the right person. 06:48.040 --> 06:50.280 It's a connection that you have to make with that person 06:50.280 --> 06:51.990 and it's not always gonna be the right connection, 06:51.990 --> 06:53.860 it doesn't mean that anything is wrong with one 06:53.860 --> 06:56.010 of the counselors or yourself, it's just finding 06:56.010 --> 07:00.140 what works best for you and what you're looking for. 07:00.140 --> 07:01.930 - If you're gonna get through treatment, 07:01.930 --> 07:04.170 you have to find someone who matches your personality. 07:04.170 --> 07:06.280 It took five counselors for me to find one that 07:06.280 --> 07:08.130 would fit my personality. 07:08.130 --> 07:10.640 And you'll know, you'll know they're a fit 07:10.640 --> 07:11.910 or they're not. 07:11.910 --> 07:14.090 That being said, they're gonna push you 07:14.090 --> 07:17.710 and it's gonna be hard, so you have to give them a chance. 07:17.710 --> 07:19.780 But I think it's really important that people understand 07:19.780 --> 07:21.720 that you have to be honest with yourself. 07:21.720 --> 07:22.970 You have to be honest with where you're at 07:22.970 --> 07:24.750 and what you're going through and you have to be honest 07:24.750 --> 07:25.583 with the counselor. 07:25.583 --> 07:27.520 If you can't do that they can't help you. 07:28.780 --> 07:30.833 So I did about four months of treatment. 07:31.970 --> 07:36.470 And I was back to working, so I'd do treatment 07:36.470 --> 07:39.450 off and on throughout the week and then I'd work. 07:39.450 --> 07:42.250 And while I was at work one day, someone came in 07:42.250 --> 07:45.900 and they were just super intense, and looking back now 07:45.900 --> 07:47.660 I can tell you that their posture 07:47.660 --> 07:51.030 and their tone of voice and what I was dealing with 07:51.030 --> 07:54.270 at the time, they were just a trigger for me, 07:54.270 --> 07:55.970 but at the time I didn't see that. 07:56.920 --> 08:00.780 So that day I just struggled to get through the day, 08:00.780 --> 08:02.900 it was everything that I could to not cry. 08:02.900 --> 08:05.440 So I pressed through the day, best I could, 08:05.440 --> 08:09.800 and at the end of the day, I went, 08:09.800 --> 08:11.430 I just went to my truck and sobbed. 08:11.430 --> 08:13.110 I was just done. 08:13.110 --> 08:14.930 So sitting in my car crying, and I hear a knock 08:14.930 --> 08:17.800 on the window and I thought, great. 08:17.800 --> 08:19.030 Out of all the people in the world 08:19.030 --> 08:20.430 it's the squadron commander. 08:21.630 --> 08:25.000 So he tries to get me to tell him what's going on 08:25.000 --> 08:26.500 and why I'm sitting out here crying, 08:26.500 --> 08:28.510 and I brush him off the best I could, 08:28.510 --> 08:31.100 and eventually he left but he didn't go far. 08:31.100 --> 08:32.540 He went and got Colonel Delynn. 08:32.540 --> 08:35.390 Colonel Delynn and myself took Lieutenant Ross 08:35.390 --> 08:37.030 to the wing conference room and we sat down 08:37.030 --> 08:39.150 and we opened up a dialogue 08:39.150 --> 08:41.560 and basically started getting a story 08:41.560 --> 08:43.640 that we'd never heard before. 08:43.640 --> 08:47.010 And we started getting an idea of what was going on 08:47.010 --> 08:48.510 inside the heart of this person, 08:48.510 --> 08:50.730 inside the soul of this individual 08:50.730 --> 08:52.770 that was causing a lot of pain. 08:52.770 --> 08:54.370 - So here I am a new lieutenant, 08:55.740 --> 08:57.150 not flying because I'm going 08:57.150 --> 08:58.610 through mental health treatment, 08:58.610 --> 09:00.900 but doing everything I can to show that I'm still 09:00.900 --> 09:03.050 worth something, to show that I still have 09:03.050 --> 09:05.670 some value to the unit, and I'm sitting in front 09:05.670 --> 09:08.230 of my two commanders, who are telling me hey, 09:08.230 --> 09:09.350 we got your back. 09:09.350 --> 09:10.750 We're gonna be here for you. 09:10.750 --> 09:14.100 And I thought, yeah, right, there's no way. 09:14.100 --> 09:16.350 So I told them both the backstory. 09:16.350 --> 09:18.110 They were the first person I actually ever told 09:18.110 --> 09:19.840 the whole story to. 09:19.840 --> 09:23.080 And I thought, this is gonna be the end of my career, 09:23.080 --> 09:23.913 this is it. 09:23.913 --> 09:24.920 But it wasn't. 09:24.920 --> 09:26.960 Both of them were super supportive. 09:26.960 --> 09:30.588 They both said thank you for telling us what's going on 09:30.588 --> 09:32.200 and we're gonna help you through this. 09:32.200 --> 09:34.440 We're gonna help get you back in that airplane. 09:34.440 --> 09:38.310 - One of the things that I said was, 09:38.310 --> 09:40.210 have you been part of a family before? 09:41.230 --> 09:42.323 Because you are now. 09:43.260 --> 09:44.850 I think that struck a chord, 09:44.850 --> 09:47.190 maybe kind of resonated a little bit, 09:47.190 --> 09:50.090 the realization that there might be some truth to it, 09:50.090 --> 09:53.300 some hesitancy to accept that that was true, 09:53.300 --> 09:56.173 but a willingness to investigate and see if it was. 09:58.000 --> 10:00.400 - I actually started getting a little bit worse. 10:01.240 --> 10:04.380 Every day was just torment, it was physical torment 10:04.380 --> 10:08.800 because the side effects of the PTSD was awful. 10:08.800 --> 10:12.090 I just got to a place where I didn't have any hope. 10:12.090 --> 10:13.580 I was just done. 10:13.580 --> 10:15.940 I didn't want to tell anybody that it wasn't working 10:15.940 --> 10:20.230 so rather than tell anybody, I got to my breaking point. 10:20.230 --> 10:24.363 So I went home that night with the intent of suicide. 10:25.520 --> 10:26.970 I was done. 10:26.970 --> 10:29.300 I feel like being military, we're doers, 10:29.300 --> 10:30.660 we want to do something about it, 10:30.660 --> 10:33.070 so my something was just turn it off. 10:33.070 --> 10:34.956 I just wanted everything to stop. 10:34.956 --> 10:39.093 Nothing was worth what I was going through every day. 10:40.590 --> 10:43.080 So God intervenes, and I'm still here, 10:43.080 --> 10:45.650 but I still struggle with it day to day, 10:45.650 --> 10:48.680 I struggle with the idea of maybe I could find some peace 10:48.680 --> 10:50.303 if I just turn this off. 10:52.320 --> 10:54.910 So I finally realized that I should probably tell someone 10:54.910 --> 10:56.160 that I was thinking that. 10:57.263 --> 11:00.010 So I told Colonel Delynn, said I've been really 11:00.010 --> 11:01.890 thinking about the easy way out. 11:01.890 --> 11:04.500 And he said, we're gonna get you the help you need. 11:04.500 --> 11:06.090 We're gonna figure it out. 11:06.090 --> 11:07.590 I'm gonna bring in some of our friends 11:07.590 --> 11:08.800 and tell them what's going on 11:08.800 --> 11:10.820 and that you need some support. 11:10.820 --> 11:13.300 Unbeknownst to me, friends meant other commanders 11:13.300 --> 11:15.510 that I did not feel were my friends, 11:15.510 --> 11:17.190 so they all started checking on me. 11:17.190 --> 11:21.100 And the more I realized that I wasn't broken for good, 11:21.100 --> 11:24.240 the more I realized that I could be helped, 11:24.240 --> 11:26.030 the easier it got to tell my story 11:26.030 --> 11:28.633 and the easier it got to get up each day. 11:29.620 --> 11:32.180 So I ended up continuing treatment. 11:32.180 --> 11:34.543 I got all the way through the PTSD treatment. 11:35.460 --> 11:38.490 Throughout this process, as I was really struggling, 11:38.490 --> 11:40.760 Colonel Green and Colonel Delynn, we started talking 11:40.760 --> 11:44.120 about religion a little bit, and that's when I really 11:44.120 --> 11:47.690 saw the turn around is when I started to study religion 11:47.690 --> 11:51.350 and I found my own faith, found my own spirituality, 11:51.350 --> 11:53.210 and I started studying the Bible 11:53.210 --> 11:54.600 and talking to people about that, 11:54.600 --> 11:59.110 and the more I found support in that, the easier it got. 11:59.110 --> 12:01.420 I stayed rally close contact with the DPH. 12:01.420 --> 12:04.750 She, I honestly owe my life to my commanders 12:04.750 --> 12:05.720 and to the DPH. 12:05.720 --> 12:07.630 They carried me through this. 12:07.630 --> 12:09.520 They fought to keep me on flight status, 12:09.520 --> 12:11.350 they fought to get me back in the airplane. 12:11.350 --> 12:13.420 - They went out on limbs and said, 12:13.420 --> 12:15.930 she's a great airman and we want to keep her. 12:15.930 --> 12:19.210 And we will do whatever we need to do to get her the care 12:19.210 --> 12:21.970 and to hang with her through this process. 12:21.970 --> 12:24.750 - Not once did anybody push me away or shy away from me 12:24.750 --> 12:27.560 because I was struggling with mental health. 12:27.560 --> 12:29.980 Now I can say, I go to work every day 12:29.980 --> 12:32.330 and I enjoy my job and I can focus, 12:32.330 --> 12:33.520 I can focus through the day. 12:33.520 --> 12:36.020 I don't struggle with the physical symptoms like I used to, 12:36.020 --> 12:39.020 my daughter's not a trigger anymore, neither of my kids are. 12:39.862 --> 12:41.640 There're still moments when I have to refocus 12:41.640 --> 12:45.090 and reset in myself, but my relationship with them 12:45.090 --> 12:48.383 is incredible, I love going home every day. 12:49.370 --> 12:51.940 I still have to work at it, it's still, 12:51.940 --> 12:53.420 I still journal and run 12:53.420 --> 12:56.030 and I feel like it's just like working out, 12:56.030 --> 12:57.960 you have to work out to stay in shape, 12:57.960 --> 13:00.190 you have to maintain your mental health too. 13:00.190 --> 13:03.470 - It wasn't easy for her, but it also wasn't easy 13:03.470 --> 13:07.260 for command, medical, the paperwork, the process 13:07.260 --> 13:09.890 and stuff like that but when we all work together 13:09.890 --> 13:11.740 and communicate as an organization, 13:11.740 --> 13:14.410 which is key of having those 13:14.410 --> 13:17.160 professional relationships built in, 13:17.160 --> 13:18.810 that it's easy to work together 13:18.810 --> 13:21.970 and we're able to rally around her 13:21.970 --> 13:25.600 and make this whole story a success. 13:25.600 --> 13:29.050 - From my perspective, the commanders were so instrumental 13:29.050 --> 13:29.883 in my success. 13:29.883 --> 13:32.370 If they had pushed me away, I don't know how I would 13:32.370 --> 13:33.710 have dealt with it, I don't think I would have been 13:33.710 --> 13:34.760 able to deal with it. 13:35.930 --> 13:39.150 They were my support and my lifeline through this. 13:39.150 --> 13:41.610 With all the veteran suicides we have everyday, 13:41.610 --> 13:43.250 we need to start telling our stories, 13:43.250 --> 13:45.010 we need to start letting people know that oh, 13:45.010 --> 13:49.940 no I struggled, I really did, but I got through it. 13:49.940 --> 13:51.770 The more we tell our stories and the more we tell 13:51.770 --> 13:54.030 what worked and what didn't, the easier it's gonna be 13:54.030 --> 13:57.040 for other people to step forward and say hey, I need help. 13:57.040 --> 13:58.700 Mental health is not, 13:58.700 --> 14:01.100 it's taboo because we make it that way. 14:01.100 --> 14:03.670 It's no different than having cancer or a broken leg 14:03.670 --> 14:05.560 or something that we can treat. 14:05.560 --> 14:07.620 If it was a broken leg, everybody would rush 14:07.620 --> 14:09.550 to your aid to get you to the doctor. 14:09.550 --> 14:10.967 But because it's mental health, we look at it 14:10.967 --> 14:15.480 and we think, well, we can't see it, it can't be real. 14:15.480 --> 14:18.380 I remember I thought that there's no way this is real, 14:18.380 --> 14:22.120 this is in my head, I should have control over this. 14:22.120 --> 14:25.550 But I can honestly testify that treatment works, 14:25.550 --> 14:30.350 and the more you stick with it and have support through it 14:30.350 --> 14:32.040 it really can get you through. 14:32.040 --> 14:34.660 Struggling with mental health, having a mental illness, 14:34.660 --> 14:36.690 whether it's PTSD, whatever it is, 14:36.690 --> 14:38.690 it doesn't have to be the end of your career. 14:38.690 --> 14:41.130 You can deal with it and you can get help 14:41.130 --> 14:44.010 and reaching out is what they want us to do. 14:44.010 --> 14:46.310 I don't know where I'd be if I wasn't 14:46.310 --> 14:47.913 in the Air National Guard. 14:47.913 --> 14:51.723 It gave me structure, it gave me support. 14:52.740 --> 14:54.040 The Air National Guard is the reason that I had 14:54.040 --> 14:55.750 the resources to get through all this. 14:55.750 --> 14:57.440 They are what got me connected with the right 14:57.440 --> 14:59.090 counselors and what helped me to realign 14:59.090 --> 14:59.923 when I was struggling. 14:59.923 --> 15:02.330 They were my family through everything. 15:02.330 --> 15:04.710 - And I think over the course of the next year 15:04.710 --> 15:09.230 we were able to prove that we were indeed a family here 15:09.230 --> 15:12.280 that goes beyond the mission. 15:12.280 --> 15:14.280 But it's because of the close ties of the family 15:14.280 --> 15:16.020 that the mission has been so successful. 15:16.020 --> 15:17.870 - Don't compare what you're struggling with 15:17.870 --> 15:19.550 to anybody else. 15:19.550 --> 15:21.410 Whatever you're dealing with, 15:21.410 --> 15:24.410 whatever that is to you, that's your struggle. 15:24.410 --> 15:27.300 And how that affects you, it's not gonna be the same 15:27.300 --> 15:28.500 as anyone else. 15:28.500 --> 15:32.760 So say something, go get help before it becomes too big. 15:32.760 --> 15:34.000 If you're going through a divorce, 15:34.000 --> 15:36.700 if you're going through financial hardships, 15:36.700 --> 15:39.520 there's resources out there to support you through that, 15:39.520 --> 15:41.470 so reach out, that's why they're there.