News: 82nd Civil Affairs Battalion hosts Strong Bonds
Story by Staff Sgt. David House
JACKSONVILLE, Fla. – As part of any marriage, communication is seen as a key ingredient and more than two dozen couples found out how to communicate in five love languages during the 82nd Civil Affairs Battalion Strong Bonds marriage retreat held in Jacksonville, Fla., Dec 14 -16.
The idea behind five love languages comes from the book of the same name written by Dr. Gary Chapman, a family life and marriage expert. The information presented is that we all internalize and express love differently and knowing each other’s love language helps enable better communication.
“This has been found to help enhance relationships, both for newlywed couples beginning their lives together or for someone who has been married for 20 years,” Maj. Bradley Godding, 85th Civil Affairs Brigade chaplain, said. “And with this being a military audience, developing real life management tools such as this is very valuable when it comes time to be separated due to a training mission or a deployment.”
According to Dr. Chapman, communicating in a love language means being able to know how well your partner responds to not only praise but criticism. The latter was focused on as a highlight when dealing with conflict resolution and anger management.
“We all get angry but how well we deal with it can either strengthen or tear apart a relationship,” said Spc. Kevin Mims, a medic assigned to the 82nd CA battalion. “I see it as a great way to talk about the good and bad not only as a group but one on one as a couple. And being able to conduct this away from the daily routine at Fort Stewart is a great way to connect and get back to why we got married.”
For one couple who celebrated their fifth wedding anniversary over the weekend, they found the event informative and a blessing.
“I believe in nurturing your marriage,” said Tiffany Hildreth. “And events such as these help reinforce marriages and keep a family strong.”
“This was also a good chance to get away and to be able to bring the kids while we celebrate our anniversary,” Sgt. Thomas Hildreth, an intel analyst with the 82nd CA Battalion added. “Finding a babysitter for three kids for an entire weekend is very hard to come by.”
This was the first Strong Bonds event for the 82nd Civil Affairs Battalion and more are planned for next year.