News: Day of Remembrance ceremony connects families after loss
By Brandy Gill
CRDAMC Public Affairs
FORT HOOD, Texas – Approximately 30 moms, dads, children and Carl R. Darnall Army Medical Center staff participated in the Day of Remembrance ceremony Dec. 6 to honor babies who were lost to fetal demise.
Those who attended lit candles and released balloons in honor of those they lost. They also received a poem, refreshments and a chance to visit with others who had endured similar experiences, which, according to , Capt. James Russell, CRDAMC chaplain, is the most important part of the event.
"During the balloon release, I saw a son look up at the sky and he said, ‘Mommy, they are not alone. Just like my brother is not alone.’ Through these support groups and gatherings the parents and families know that they don't have to go through this alone,” Russell said.
Maj. Dorene Owen, a CRDAMC maternal child health clinical nurse specialist who hosts a biweekly bereavement group, said the ceremony helps many families find closure.
“I believe it was very beneficial to the families and staff who attended. When the balloons were released in honor of the lost child or baby, many were teary-eyed,” she said.
While the ceremony is beneficial Owen said she thinks the connections participants make can sometimes be even more healing than the event itself.
“One of the couples who attended yesterday just lost a full term baby very recently. I had them talk with one of our group regulars who had a similar story because these guys do more for each other than I can do as a healthcare professional,” Owen said. “They can sympathize and relate to what is going on and the uniqueness of losing a child and all that this entails.”
Russell, who with the help of Owen coordinates a quarterly Day of Remembrance ceremony, agreed that the families who participate can help one another by sharing their experiences.
"I know from personal experience that the loss of a child is easily one of the most traumatic events any parent can experience. This is a way for the parents to share their stories and heal from loss,” he said.
The ceremony is just one step in the healing process for parents who have experienced a fetal demise, Owen said.
While the ceremony is very beneficial sometimes these families need longer-lasting support,” she said. “That’s why we encourage all those who have experienced the loss of a baby to participate in the Infant Loss Support Group which meets in the hospital classrooms above the Emergency Department every first and third Thursday of the month at 3:30 p.m.”
All members of the Fort Hood community are invited to participate in the bereavement support group Owen said.
“Our loss group consists of mothers and fathers who have either had infertility issues, a miscarriage, a second trimester fetal loss, a full term demise, or lost an infant. The one thing that they all have in common is the need to share their experiences and connect with others that have been through similar trying times,” she said. “This is extremely healing and our group has formed bonds that are considered tighter and closer knit than one’s own family. The group is also supported by the hospital’s chaplain service and our social workers here at CRDAMC.”
To learn more about the CRDAMC Infant Loss Group or the Day of Remembrance Ceremony you can contact Chap. Russell at 254-553-1853 or Owen at 254-287-3489, or visit the Fort Hood Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support facebook page.